I Need Moral Support!

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Re: I Need Moral Support!

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Jeezus.

Anyway, Dev, one of the reasons that Mrs. Edge likes the CB3k is that when we remove the cage portion, the cuff ring stays on. I've modified all of the cuff rings to be solid, i.e., the 3k style don't open at the hinge, and the 6k style has had the upper pieces glued in place. This allows her to remove the cage, so that only the cuff ring, which now becomes a cock ring, remains.

As I don't use a ring that's too small, it feels fine, and I don't have any problem coming (when I'm allowed). That's another feature that I think could be improved on the MM designs; a replaceable pin, instead of one welded to the ring might be a little more convenient.
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Tom Allen wrote:That's another feature that I think could be improved on the MM designs; a replaceable pin, instead of one welded to the ring might be a little more convenient.
That would be nice, never have to remove the ring, and a universal fit to different cages. I cannot wear the ring by itself with the post sticking out, it is more uncomfortable than having the cage on. It certainly wouldn't work for us during intercourse either, not that we do that too much any more :)

The problem with a replaceable pin on the MM design is that the single pin combined with the lock keep everything aligned. It is nice not having the alignment pins even if that has its own draw backs. If you have a specific idea I am sure he would be interested in it.

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Dev wrote:
What the hell does that mean?
Thank you!

Hugs,

D
I think I'm going to dial back on my forum posts for a while. I think people are taking everything I say in a negative way. Before I go - To explain myself. I don't think I said (you) were buying Internet Viagra. I think I was making a general statement about non prescription pills. Which btw adverts flood the internet.

As to "move forward" if I remember the comment you were talking about how his (Possible) ED was better by taking masturbation out of the picture and you were going to do more "pressure tests" of his penis which to me sounded like a great idea.

Anyway, I'll try to resist the urge to communicate - I'm clearly not doing it well.

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Jimi,

I've really tried to be sympathetic and understanding to you and your situation. I've tried to answer questions as best I could, offer information, and be open about my own experience as a way to help you. Others have too. I think the problem is coming in when you seem to constantly be throwing up roadblocks. Instead of just trying chastity and seeing if it is right for you and your wife, every time someone makes a suggestion, I feel like we get a "Yes, but..." answer. "Yes, but the device doesn't fit right and it hurts." "Yes, but I want to have an orgasm." And lately, those Yes, buts have veered over to some of us. "Yes, but you must be repeating the mantra." "Yes, but you must be weird." Can you see why people, including me, have gotten defensive?

On one hand, I like having you posting because all of your questions keep things lively, it keeps people engaged and we've had lots of discussions. On the other hand, I am really starting to wonder if chastity is right for you and your wife. You have alluded to problems, communication being one. Maybe you need to work on that before you add chastity into the mix.

Just a thought. I do appreciate you and what you've contributed but I wonder if, right now, it's more important for you to sort out the larger issue that you might be facing.

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I had an interesting little keyholder moment yesterday. Our current "rule" is that the key/screwdriver is accessible to Ab. He can take off the device for his daily shower (which occurs in the afternoon after he gets home from work--because that's his habit, he takes it in the afternoon on the weekend, too) and leave it off while he takes his nap. Once naptime is done, the device goes back on.

Yesterday, he left it on while he took his nap. I am not sure why, it just worked out that way. So he asked if he could take it off when he went to the grocery store, reasoning that he had one hour of "free" time. He wanted to transfer his free time to grocery shopping, not napping.

I politely, but firmly told him no. The WM stayed on.

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Quite right too, attagirl!!
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Good for you (and him)!
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I have been shocked by the number of posts I completely disagree with on this. I would never compromise. Is he submissive or not? If he is, then, (A) he should expect the rules to be what you say they are, and (B) he must associate release and relief with good behaviour. The posts from Tutor, et al, miss the point; your agreement is that you are in charge. If you compromise or give-in to petulant behaviour, you have broken your agreement with him to be in charge. I suggest you explain thet release and relief are dependant on, among other things, good behaviour and that whenever he exhibits "home stretch" behavior, his denial period will be extended. When I think my subhub is close to coming to the end of his current denial period and being allowed release and relief (R&R) I always tell my subhub that I may allow him relief the coming weekend. He knows that any ' home stretch' behaviour on his part will result in cancellation of any plans for R&R for him and I will think again about a potential future date.

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Most of us here don't really follow those guidelines. For my KH and myself, we are not doing this for behavior modification. That is just a perk. She also isn't into the whole pain thing and will not make me wear a device if it is causing me discomfort out of the norm. This doesn't make us wrong. It just means that to us, this is more of a game than anything else.
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jnuts wrote:Most of us here don't really follow those guidelines.
That's true, I don't follow those guidelines because that isn't the way we experience chastity in our lives.

I am sure that I would follow those guidelines though if that is what my wife wanted.

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