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[wishful4]

Dev, he may well be a bit sore. If I having been wearing my CD longer than 3-4 days continuiously(24hrs), I. also am a bit sore all over down there after removal. Funny, but I don't feel the soreness while the CD is on. I am reluctant to tell my KH about it for fear she will not use it again (as she seems to be doing now). After a couple of days, the soreness has abated and I'm ready to go back in.

[davidphd1866]

Dev, (thanks Wishful)

I agree with Wishful, if Ab says he's sore, I am guessing he is being sincere. The entire package of male plumbing has a lot of components. Wearing a device for extended periods causes things to be "sore" that even we owners of the above mentioned package can't explain. Weird stuff gets sore, aches or twinges in ways we can't precisely define. (the "inspection" by the keyholder is a horrible myth)

Forums--this one included--tend to think that the male uro/reproductive system has only a few parts: the penis, testicles and prostate. For me, I find that my seminal vesicles get sore after prolonged lock up. I never even knew I had them until playing with chastity.

One thing is for certain (according to my urologist) is that he doesn't NEED to ejaculate. The device is a different story....

I hope that helps. Please be patient with AB regarding the actual wearing of the device.

David

[Celtic Queen]

I've made it a necessary feature of our chastity that if hub gets sore, he's allowed time out (with my agreement). He's now at the stage where he feels a little "lost" and disconnected without his cage on and that's how I like it

[davidphd1866]

Dev,

You now have him exactly where you want him........ Seriously, if he's sore, let his package rest....just make sure that it doesn't become an excuse to masturbate.

But, rest assured, the myth of "just make sure the rings are the right size" is exactly that....a myth. Size can be spot on, but still get seriously uncomfortable (in an unhealthy way) after a few days.

David

[Atone]

But, rest assured, the myth of "just make sure the rings are the right size" is exactly that....a myth. Size can be spot on, but still get seriously uncomfortable (in an unhealthy way) after a few days.

agreed, this is another reason why it is nice to have multiple devices. As I have shared before I am a fan of staying locked for longer periods of time without any removal of the device. This is how *I* choose to play. So far the longest I have gone is 5 weeks in my current favorite, my small jailbird. During that time there were a couple of times where I had to work through some discomfort but after a day or so of 'working through' the problem everything was fine. Of course I had my wife's help with this, she refused to give me the key (and yes she would have if *either* of us really thought it was a health /safety issue). Anyway, back to the point, this last week after only being in this same device for about 4 days after taking it off to try my new Pet Trap for a while I just felt I had to get out. I don't know if I can really explain the feeling but it was intense. Not painful so much as just this intense mental and physical combination that had to be dealt with. So I put my original jailbird back on for the day. That thing is so big it was almost like not having anything on. Ok, not really but it is a lot bigger than my small one. It felt good at first, great actually, so off to work I went. By the end of the day I couldn't wait to get home and get back in the smaller device. Just that short period of time was enough to let everything kind of 'rest' and recover. Now that was only two days ago but I think I am back in the small cage for another long term session. Or I might decide to play with the Pet Trap a little first (that is the downside of having multiple devices).

-A

[Dev]

You now have him exactly where you want him...

"Yes, I do," said the domineering, controlling wife.

Just kidding, just kidding...

Friday all day he wore the cock ring. I came home from work (I always get home later than Ab) and found he had gone back into the Jailbird (or as he is calling it now, "the classic"). I was pleased with that.

Seriously, I think we've had a bit of a breakthrough. Readers of my blog will know that I believed that chastity and OD could help with a mild case of erectile dysfunction (ED) that Ab was experiencing. I know enough about bodies and how people work to be able to rule out organic causes. I really believed it was a result of masturbation, over-familiarity of his hand, and alcohol consumption (although when you are having sex at 4 in the morning, the effects of a glass of wine at dinner should have long worn off; Ab however was having ED problems even at that time). Yes, he could have taken a pill--in fact he has tried Viagra and didn't like the side effects. We're fairly holistic in this household, however, and I was reluctant to simply get a prescription to solve "the problem" without addressing the underlying cause.

It's a little confusing because we started playing with chastity "just for fun"; it was once we got going on this game that communication opened up and I learned more about his fondness for masturbation. While I am not opposed to it (and I don't care if he looks at porn, either), what I realized I didn't like was the effect it was having on our sex life.

If folks recall, Ab was locked up for 60 days and had a release on October 15th. While we did have sex and he had an erection and orgasm, it wasn't all that great. I freaked a little bit because I think I was reacting to, "Damn! OD doesn't work for ED!" I was afraid that Viagra or Cialis was inevitably in our future. In fact, I even got a prescription for Cialis from the NP at the clinic. Now don't get me wrong--I have nothing against these drugs per se--I know one man here on the forum who uses Cialis and thinks it's a wonder drug. I may come to appreciate the benefits of PDE-5 inhibitors. But the basic issue was that I believed I knew the cause and wanted to address that to my satisfaction before we began using the medication regularly.

Which brings us to the breakthrough. Thursday morning, I stimulated Ab to an orgasm (of the ruined type) using my hands and tongue. He had an erection--a fabulous, beautiful erection. Ab said to me that he hadn't had an erection like that in a very long time. It persisted, even after he came--no instant deflating. Now, we do have one additional variable to deal with. He was wearing a cock ring at the time. Did that influence the quality of his erection? It very well might have since a cock ring does alter blood flow to the penis. But you know what? The erection he had with the cock ring in place was fucking hot. I could live with that. Can he fuck me with the cock ring on? That will be our next experiment.

To go back to the very first statement, "I have him right where I want him..." I think we are both right where we want to be at this moment. We have used chastity to successfully address and solve a problem. So why would we go back? Why would we go back to the old way of doing things? I suspect Ab will be happily wearing something on his cock for years to come. And I can stop worrying. For the moment, at least.

D

[Jimi123]

Cock rings are often used to maintain an erection so yes to that question. Non prescription Viagra can be anything. Many times its Yombee (Spelled?) which "works" by raising blood pressure to crazy high levels. My suggestion is NEVER buy any of this internet crap. There are so many counterfit "pill" places stamping out crap.

I think you guys are doing great and believe it or not I don't think you should go back to what you had before. I do sort of wish you would move forward (Which sounds like what your going to do if your going to ahh... pressure test his penis)

[Dev]

Cock rings are often used to maintain an erection so yes to that question. Non prescription Viagra can be anything. Many times its Yombee (Spelled?) which "works" by raising blood pressure to crazy high levels. My suggestion is NEVER buy any of this internet crap. There are so many counterfit "pill" places stamping out crap.

Exactly where did I ever say I was using counterfeit Viagra or that I bought it from the Internet?

I am a nurse. I work with doctors and nurse practitioners everyday. I can get prescriptions, plus we have a sample cabinet. Trust me, it was the real thing. The Cialis we have in the cabinet is the real thing, too, although at the present moment, we have no interest in using it so I suspect it will sit there, gathering dust.

D

[Atone]

Cock rings are often used to maintain an erection so yes to that question.

sometimes a little bit of a quote can be helpful to provide context. Is this in response to "Can he fuck me with the cock ring on?". I think that was more of a rhetorical question. Not can he physically do it but rather will it be satisfying to him and me if he does.

I do sort of wish you would move forward

What the hell does that mean?

They are growing in their relationship and understanding of what is important to them. Is there somewhere where they are supposed to be? This is a journey and a discovery, in many ways you can't know where you need to be until you are there.

-A

[Dev]

What the hell does that mean?

Thank you!

Hugs,

D