How quitting chastity after 11 years affected me.

[SteveOD]

I turned 70 this year and my wife told me she did not want to be my keyholder anymore. First thing I loved was peeing standing up. I was locked 24/7 as much as possible and always when I was home. No more using squirt bottles of water to clean inside my cage. No more swabs to dry it up. I threw out all my panties and other feminine attire and bought a lot of men's boxer shorts. My cock has started to get back to its pre cage size. At first I could not orgasm at all. Then it took almost an hour of trying, Now I am at about 15 minutes to orgasm.

I no longer have to be careful how I sit down. No more sex for my wife's pleasure. For rid all my hoods, whips, floggers, paddles, canes, etc.. No more Kali Teeth ring ans other cock and nipple torture sex toys. I now cum during sex but my sex drive is still low. Still cannot get an erection.

I do miss the constant horniness I used to feel and all that goes with it. Getting used to normal sex again. Got some good or bad news depending on your point of view. Our girlfriend who was the third in our Poly Triad called to tell us that she may have to put her husband in a nursing home. He is 8 years older than she is. Long story short, she realized that she had no spousal rights with us so sought out a man for financial security who would be OK with sharing her with us. She found a doctor online who lost his first wife to her bull and was agreeable to marry her. This allowed her to sped a few days or weeks each month with us and even go on vacation with us. It was a good life. Three people who were friends since their early teens and who had sexual feelings for each other finally getting together to form a poly triad and it was like the perfect storms of triads. Never a problem due to it despite our girlfriend dating other guys until she got pregnant by one of three and me giving up outside sex when I got an STD. Then AIDs hit the scene and no one knew how it was transmitted so we became poly fidelitous.

Our plan was always to retire together and now our girlfriend may be able to live with us again as original planned. That would be nice but since we are all in our 70's, I doubt we could do the things we used to do. My skin does not heal as quickly or well as it used to. Nonetheless, we still l love her and all of us spending our final days with each other would bed great. I sometimes forget that I did not lead a normal life, not only sexual, but in non sexual ways too. To me it was my normal because it was all I knew. I was educated in schools for gifted children, dropped out of college and walked away from a scholarship to go and fight in Vietnam to test my courage. Got accepted into Officer Candidate school and came home with a fist full of medals. I was a jock in my teens rather than a nerd which surprised many people given the private schools I attended.

Got married at 20 and bought my first house at 21. I have been to 21 countries, 25 States and relocated 13 times. We are living in our 9th house. No kids due to our lifestyle and constantly moving. Instead we have had a succession of Yorkshire terriers as substitute children and we spoiled them. I bought one of them a Burberry coat that cost three times what my did. I had a very good and profitable career and reached the top of my field. Even was an Advisor for the United Nations for a short period. Co-authored a reference book and was well know in some of the cities I lived in. Been on TV and radio. Rubbed elbows sit the rich and famous for a few years. Private clubs, Mercedes cars and custom made clothes with a gold Rolex. Did not like that lifestyle. it was fun at first but I did not like the people I was with so I quit and took a huge pay cut to work for a small company who still pays my salary to be available if and when needed. I get paid for not working. Nice job if you can get it.

I lost my virginity to a gay friend of mine who died last year. Did it as a favor to him as it was tough to be gay in the 60's. Was into BDSM since I was 14 due to being slapped hard for grabbing an early developed girl's breast in a swimming pool. Years later she became the third in our triad. She was my wife's best friend which I did not know when I met my wire because I was away for a few years. I have been a Dom, sub, cuckold and bull in my lifetime. Pretty much did all the well know fetish sex acts and some not so well known or practiced.

My life has never been normal. I was usually smarter than the adults around me and had to hide it since I grew up in government assisted project housing where you were earth a wolf or lamb. I excelled at sports. Even was selected for the Playoffs for the Little League World Series. We lost bad. I was voted most likely to divorce first because I used to change girlfriend ever other week. Women were attracted to men and I really did not realize it until I was in my sixties. Once again, it was my normal and only life I knew so I never thought about its. At one point when I was 14 I had an 18 year old girlfriend who took me other senior prom. We had to leave early because the others at our table were acting like jerks about it.

So no more locked cock or a sex life that most would kill for. My girl were always willing to try anything I suggested. Some we liked and some we did not. Our girlfriend dominated me sexually only. She got sexually aroused by causing me pain. Her tight would be soaked with her lubrication and she would sigh after each moan of pain I made. A perfect dominatrix because she knew when to stop and how to divert things when I begged her to do things to me that were not safe. Never had a problem with her sexually. I guess the girls stopped making me orgasm about 20+ years ago. No penetration of any kind since then. I did not mind as I always liked oral better and heck, I had threesomes almost nightly and there are so many other things to do than intercourse. Plus I was more into S&M which did not involve me getting an orgams.

Sorry for the long post but so much what we do and who we are, are taking for granted and not until you reflect on your life do you realize that some things you did were not like what most others did. Also realized that who I am today is due not only to the good things, but also the bad things that happened to me. Just as an example, my company went bankrupt and I had no job anymore. Felt terrible when it happened but it forced me to find a job which lead to a much better job that made a lot more than I was getting from my old company. Then there is the odds of being a submissive to the girl who turned you into one when you were 14. I am not exaggerating when I say that she was in my masturbation fantasizes every time and not a day has gone by when I did not think of her. If I had not joined the Army we would have probably been married. She has two Masters Degrees and a bachelors. Norwegian girl, tall with long straight blonde hair and 38EE breasts that stood straight out with no help from a bra. Pale white with blonde hair both top and bottom. My wife is 4' 11" with 32 A breasts at the time. She is now a 36C. We got a lot of stares when we entered club with a girl on each of my arms that were totally different and sexy in their own way. Some days it was tough to do not have one of them give mr an orgasm. I was allowed to jerk off though until 11 years ago when I was caged.

I feel sorry for all the guys who wish they had wives into their sex fettish or live their sex lives online. In my life, I always got what I wanted because I was not shy about letting women know what I liked sexually or going up to one and seducing her. When I was a teen, doing oral or anal was considered as a gay act for men. Not even porn actresses would do anal or analingus. I did what most men did not and due to word of mouth a lot of girls wanted to feel what oral sex felt lik or how did getting your asshole licked feel. I had sex with all of my wire's friends and all of my sister's friends. I had sex with all of my friend's sisters and almost all of their girlfriends. Had sex with clients, a mother daughter team, fashion model (Victoria's Secret was my major account) and girls of all kinds and sizes all over the world. I good life.

I write this not to brag because I have met many men who did more. I did it to commit to writing before my mind fades away from Dementia of which I am in the early stages of. Quite a shock when you are told that your MRI showed parts of your brain is dead and we have to wait and see what is affected by it. So far, not much but with each year more and more dies. I probably have about 8 good years left so I want to write things down so I can read about my life.

Anyway, chastity and sex in general has been a fun experience for me. It has been nice to chat with new guys and give them tips or just read about what others are doing. Most of all I found that most come and go as they give up on chastity. I would never do it if I was young, My life was seeking, not avoiding, as many orgasms as possible. Once I had sex with 5 girls at the same time. Not as good as it sounds because each was doing their on thing and it was very distracting. Looks good in porn but not so good in real life. That else. I have seen a lot of naked black men due to my time in sports and the Army. We all showered together. I do not recall with white or black men with big cocks. Porn hires men with big ones as it allows them better camera angles. in real life, big dicks are not very common at all. No one ever left my bed without an orgasm by fucking and oral. You only need enough to put pressure on their clit which back in my days, pre internet we knew nothing about sex other than what were heard on the streets. Most guys and girls did not know what a clit was, where it was or what it ws used for. I knew more than most so I was popular. My wire said that she had seen my picture and heard about my sexual skills years before we met. The girls in her school would show my picture and talk about what I did to them.

I guess I am saying that all the guy out there worrying about their dick size, have nothing to worry about. Just learn what makes girls orgasm and they will be happy. Also note that most guys ate as big or small as you with little difference in size most times. Focus on oral and manual skills. It is not difficult to make a girl reach orgasm when you know what to do.

OK, enough of this. Hope you all get what you want even though I know the after you get it most will no longer want it. It I like fantasizing about being whipped by a dominatrix, but once done, it hurst like hell and you do not want to do that anymore. Chasity is like that. Most will stop it. Nothing wrong with that. There are many things I tried that I never did again. Still had run. Goodbye and thanks for all the likes I got and the timer it took to read this.

[Infiniteice]

Interesting post, thanks for sharing.