Wife is shy/needs guidance

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What's the best solution for a wife that wants keyholding advice from one experienced in keyholding?

Seek out keyholders online that would be happy to educate my wife? (how??)
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Just send her to "that other site" again and deal with the repercussions, I asked for this after all!!
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Some other forum???
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Something else????
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Wife is shy/needs guidance

Post by IcedOrangesnPeaches »

This is my 2nd post here and I'm pretty sure I'm in the right place, but I am looking to find if there would be any experienced kh out there that could reach out to my wife and kind of guide her along a bit because I suck at it...make no bones about it, she's into it, I've been locked over a month the majority of time time, she has implemented severe punishment, done some demanding kinky stuff, yet she's frustrated because she doesn't really know what she's supposed to do and I am terrible at communicating it to her and just "going with the flow" isn't working for her. Her confidence needs a serious boosting. Years ago, we got into a failed chastity experiment for numerous reasons, including the fact that I believe she went into "that other site" looking for guidance because she exhibited some truly bizarre rapid behavior changes. I am not looking for the sissification stuff at all with her and I've let her know it, not only do we have a teenager in the house, I'm just not looking to open any cans of worms like that.

Considering I have all of these bizarre expectations of chastity due to pornography and various other online content, this is not the case with her at all. At this time, after she looked over some options, she requested the book, Chastity: A Guide for Vanilla Wives, she doesn't seem to care for it, loses interest. She wants to ask questions with someone that knows what they are doing. I looked into joining the discord posted elsewhere here but it seems I'd have to jump through hoops just to get the message across of what we need. She wants to post and be contacted where she wouldn't have to worry about me reading it as well, so there's also that.

I considered paying for a dom session to have a virtual q and a but I just don't think that's needed. Could someone please point us in the right direction here?
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Get Her to join here and join the keyholders-only section.

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Post by IcedOrangesnPeaches »

There's a keyholders-only section? Must be hidden or something right? I read about it elsewhere, was trying to research a bit before I made the post. Will it be obvious to her how to do this?

EDIT: Thank you. I looked back into the rules and saw it.
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Post by TwistedMister »

It has to be requested, and one of the admins will enable it. Are you talking about Lilly?

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There is a lot of information on 'keyholding' on the internet. A lot of it is fantasy written by men. Some people try to say that there is only one 'right' way to do it- this is not true. You need to do what works for the two of *you*.

The 'net is fine for getting ideas that you can use, or modify and use, but there is nothing written in stone that she 'must' do or 'cannot' do. She could start by perusing this forum, there are many ideas here...but look at it like a buffet- take what you want and leave the rest...until you decide you are hungry for more and want something else.
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Post by Tom Allen »

You might consider picking up a couple of the books available on Amazon. The "A guide for keyholders" by Lucy Fairbourne is still popular, and might be a good place to start.
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What Tom said I don't see that any if the options are ones I would choose.
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Tom Allen wrote: Tue Jun 29, 2021 8:10 am You might consider picking up a couple of the books available on Amazon. The "A guide for keyholders" by Lucy Fairbourne is still popular, and might be a good place to start.
I agree with Tom. Excellent book. Has helped my wife/keyholder a lot. :-)
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This whole chastity thing probably never would have happened for us had it not been for the Lucy Fairbourne book.
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https://ezinearticles.com/expert/Sarah_Jameson/621858

Sarah Jameson used to have a decent blog. But some of her articles remain around the web.
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Thanks for outing me TwistedMister
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