Teasing while caged or not?

[Bird in a Cage]

First the set up:

For the past year, we've been experiencing menopause. For those of you already here, you know this is a "we," not a "her," statement. While each person (couple) experience the change differently, my wife/keyholder has had a significant reduction in libido. We're working through that together, and will find a balance that works for us both, but it's caused some changes in our chastity play.

Now the question:

With these changes, my wife has taken to only tease me while I'm caged. There are no more uncaged teasings. My questions for the audience are: How many of you have this type of arrangement? Is it sufficient for you? I'm definitely missing being touched while cageless, but I also know better than to complain. Any input and/or feedback is appreciated.

[Hussman767]

What are you doing uncaged? Lol

[slave d]

i am caged 24/7/365 and the only real teasing i get is watching MsM masturbate to porn, listen to Her use SPH on me and when bathing and dressing Her. So really my teasing is confined to my top 3”. Oh, every morning and evening MsM does fondle “Her” cock and balls when She applies hand cream to the A-ring to stop and irritation.

MsM’s ld

[TwistedMister]

The Mrs. is not in the habit of uncaging me for teasing, she much prefers to see me swell and strain against the cage. She likes to get me 'turned on', knowing that I can't do anything with it.

I set a 'limit' that I need to be allowed to cum at least once every three months in order to keep the pipes clear. I thought that it would also get me out of the cage at least that often...then she discovered how to give me a 'ruined' O in the cage, there have been at least a couple of times I have gone as much as 9 months without getting out at all. It makes it even more intense *wanting* to get out, *wanting* it to be touched...and not knowing when that might happen.

[LockedByBD]

Once or twice a week, when we wake up in the morning, my wife will play with my scrotum until the flesh of my penis starts bulging through the bars of my steel device. Then she strokes what she can of my penis. It drives me so wild that she makes me hold on to the headboard of the bed so I won't grab her hands down there. She continues until either I let go of the headboard, or until she tires of the play and twists my nipples. Then it's off to her shower... alone: I'm generally not allowed to see her naked anymore because she likes keeping me constantly horny.

[Bird in a Cage]

It seems teasing while locked is fairly common for the long-timers. I must say, I was hoping for a different answer.

How about dealing with menopause. The utter lack of libido has affected both me and my wife. Any hints, tips, suggestions there? (There is little action that isn't initiated by me... which makes me feel like I'm topping from the bottom. After a month or so, I get kind of desperate but she no longer notices.)

[slave d]

We had gone down to only having sex every few months but i was masturbating almost every day, that’s why the start of chastity but it would have been easy to blame the lack of sexual desire from MsM as menopause. The difference i think was made when i started doing as much as i could around the house so MsM had time to Herself and then concentrated on Her orgasm and not my own. In order to get more teasing you should (I’m my view) start doing housework, dishes, running baths, making the bed, doing washing etc etc etc without mentioning anything other than “i’m doing it so you have more time to do what you wish my love” !! Do NOT ask for sexual favours at all, start to offer them to Her, massages, bathing, etc etc until She starts to have orgasms again. If She’s anything like MsM things will turn through 180 degrees and within a few months She’ll be orgasming as often as She wished and your enjoyment will be watching or maybe wearing a strap-on that She doesn’t have to worry about !!

MsM’s ld

PS: MsM now has 3 playtimes a week with multiple orgasms and i haven’t cum in just over 4 years !!

[TwistedMister]

How about dealing with menopause. The utter lack of libido has affected both me and my wife. Any hints, tips, suggestions there? (There is little action that isn't initiated by me... which makes me feel like I'm topping from the bottom. After a month or so, I get kind of desperate but she no longer notices.)

Three words: Hormone Replacement Therapy. We learned about that after the Mrs. was diagnosed with cancer and had to have a radical hysterectomy.

[Bird in a Cage]

Three words: Hormone Replacement Therapy. We learned about that after the Mrs. was diagnosed with cancer and had to have a radical hysterectomy.

We've had some conflicting information on that... my wife had breast cancer a few years ago, which, coupled with increased hormones can cause accelerated tumor growth. But not always. That's our rub, we've taken an overly cautious route and are avoiding hormones at the moment. We may change our minds after she's passed the five-year point of being breast cancer free.

(I'm jealous that it works so well for you, TM. Party on!)

[sls01234]

My wife was on them for about a year was not a good outcome for her.