Poly-Friending yes, but no cuckolding

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Poly-Friending yes, but no cuckolding

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When talking about wife's sex with other men, everyone immediately thinks of cuckolding. I don’t like that term, nor the humiliations that are present in cuckolding. My husband could never satisfy me in PIV sex (fast ejaculation) that's why we haven't practiced it for years.

My hubby and I have talked about my sex with other men and we both agree that I deserve to have good PIV sex. It has to be in a way that we both enjoy, without the homosexual component.
My sex with another man is supposed to happen this weekend for the first time.
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It's a big step and will change your relationship but if you both have the openess and trust I'm sure you'll enjoy.
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Cuckolding in itself has nothing to do with homosexuality as you suggest. Some people take it into the Bi area but it’s not “a part” of cuckolding any more than pegging or lesbianism or anything else.

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Right, all that is required to be a cuckold, is that one's wife is screwing someone else. Even if he isn't aware of it, he is still a cuckold.
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slave d wrote: Fri Jun 11, 2021 7:43 pm Cuckolding in itself has nothing to do with homosexuality as you suggest. Some people take it into the Bi area but it’s not “a part” of cuckolding any more than pegging or lesbianism or anything else.

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You're wrong. Many cucks suck a bull's penis, even having anal sex with him (less often). Many cucks suck penises and it is a homosexual act. Clean up, or licking bull semen from a wife is also a homosexual act and it is common to do so.
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i’m sorry to disagree suzzana but you’re the one that’s wrong, twistedmister has the best description of a cuckold, it’s simply a man whose wife / partner is having sex with another, with or without his consent. You’re putting your own views on what happens from there. i’m not saying some Bi activity never happens but it certainly isn’t a required “part” of cuckolding.

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slave d wrote: Sun Jun 13, 2021 5:56 am i’m sorry to disagree suzzana but you’re the one that’s wrong, twistedmister has the best description of a cuckold, it’s simply a man whose wife / partner is having sex with another, with or without his consent. You’re putting your own views on what happens from there. i’m not saying some Bi activity never happens but it certainly isn’t a required “part” of cuckolding.

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Sorry, but homosexual elements are involved in 99% of cuckold marriages. Another thing that separates ordinary sex with another man and cuckolding is that in cuckolding there is a strong component of humiliating cuck in a cuckolding marriage. By that I mean the meaning of the term cuckold that it now has in society.
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Cuckolding is one of those activities that doesn't seem to have a clear, absolute definition. Like many kinks and fetishes it comes down to personal views. I would have to agree/disagree in part with everyone so far. While bi or homosexual participation, whether voluntary or coerced, is often an aspect of cuckolding I doubt it comes to play in the majority of cases.
TwistedMister wrote: Sat Jun 12, 2021 6:51 am Right, all that is required to be a cuckold, is that one's wife is screwing someone else. Even if he isn't aware of it, he is still a cuckold.
I agree with the first part of your definition but think to be considered a cuckold relationship three elements must be included. The husband must be aware of the situation, even if he doesn't accept or approve of it. Second, the husbands sexual activities with his wife are eliminated or at least curtailed. Lastly, it is an ongoing activity whether it is with one partner or with multiple partners. Notice I used the term 'partner' rather than 'man' or 'bull'. If the first two elements are present then he is a cuck in my opinion whether the wife's partner(s) are men or women.
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@suzzana , I'm going to take this opportunity to say that your posts *mainly* seem to be complaining about the inability of your husband to sexually satisfy you, which is leading you into cuckolding.

From one of those "Read Me" links at the top of the forums:
This board was created by a group of people who wanted to discuss the day-to-day experiences of chastity, chastity devices, and orgasm denial. We wanted a place to discuss the technical details, the emotional pitfalls, how to get our partners on board (or alternately, to brag a little when our partners did get on board), and the other aspects of living with these kinks. We also wanted to discuss these in an area that we believed we could safely involve our partners, especially if those partners were on the vanilla side. That meant an area that was relatively free of BDSM and some of the more extreme kinks that are often associated with chastity.
We welcome your participation in discussing chastity, keeping him locked, and related topics, but I think that if you really want to discuss cuckolding then there are other web forums better suited for such discussion.
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I'm sort of with Tom here. Especially for two other reasons; just because he can't satisfy you with penetration doesn't mean it's therefore bad. He enjoys it, doesn't he, and you presumably care about him also enjoying himself? Especially since most women can't orgasm purely from penetration anyway. Second, strap-ons exist, in an unimaginably wide array of colors, sizes, materials, even with features like the ability to ejaculate or thrust or spin or vibrate.

As for cuckolding, I'm pretty sure the definition, before it became a porn category, just meant a cheating on your husband. Someone else can look up the etymology, but that's what it meant until recently. Kinky videos have included all sorts of elements like humiliation, pain, non-consent, forced-bi, etc. Frankly it's become so common and so excessive that it grosses me out, and I'm glad you aren't planning to try and force your husband into homosexual activity he is not interested in. Even so, saying cuckolding requires these things is like saying chastity requires CBT--just because they are commonly associated in BDSM videos doesn't mean you have to link them together. Heck, chastity, or just orgasm denial/control, is not required in D/s relationships, and I've seen people in the BDSM community get very annoyed by that insinuation.

If you're both cool with bringing other people into your bedroom, more power to you. I'd just say that it's likely going to be very hard for him emotionally, and if the reason you're doing it is because he doesn't satisfy you, that just adds another layer of basically in-built humiliation; so I hope you set rules (which includes letting him stop it at any time), follow them, and then do some extensive aftercare, basically, where you reassure him that it was just a sexual experience, you still love him, and this isn't going to change your marriage.
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