Poly-Friending yes, but no cuckolding

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It's a big step and will change your relationship but if you both have the openess and trust I'm sure you'll enjoy.
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Cuckolding in itself has nothing to do with homosexuality as you suggest. Some people take it into the Bi area but it’s not “a part” of cuckolding any more than pegging or lesbianism or anything else.

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Right, all that is required to be a cuckold, is that one's wife is screwing someone else. Even if he isn't aware of it, he is still a cuckold.
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i’m sorry to disagree suzzana but you’re the one that’s wrong, twistedmister has the best description of a cuckold, it’s simply a man whose wife / partner is having sex with another, with or without his consent. You’re putting your own views on what happens from there. i’m not saying some Bi activity never happens but it certainly isn’t a required “part” of cuckolding.

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Cuckolding is one of those activities that doesn't seem to have a clear, absolute definition. Like many kinks and fetishes it comes down to personal views. I would have to agree/disagree in part with everyone so far. While bi or homosexual participation, whether voluntary or coerced, is often an aspect of cuckolding I doubt it comes to play in the majority of cases.
TwistedMister wrote: Sat Jun 12, 2021 6:51 am Right, all that is required to be a cuckold, is that one's wife is screwing someone else. Even if he isn't aware of it, he is still a cuckold.
I agree with the first part of your definition but think to be considered a cuckold relationship three elements must be included. The husband must be aware of the situation, even if he doesn't accept or approve of it. Second, the husbands sexual activities with his wife are eliminated or at least curtailed. Lastly, it is an ongoing activity whether it is with one partner or with multiple partners. Notice I used the term 'partner' rather than 'man' or 'bull'. If the first two elements are present then he is a cuck in my opinion whether the wife's partner(s) are men or women.
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@suzzana , I'm going to take this opportunity to say that your posts *mainly* seem to be complaining about the inability of your husband to sexually satisfy you, which is leading you into cuckolding.

From one of those "Read Me" links at the top of the forums:
This board was created by a group of people who wanted to discuss the day-to-day experiences of chastity, chastity devices, and orgasm denial. We wanted a place to discuss the technical details, the emotional pitfalls, how to get our partners on board (or alternately, to brag a little when our partners did get on board), and the other aspects of living with these kinks. We also wanted to discuss these in an area that we believed we could safely involve our partners, especially if those partners were on the vanilla side. That meant an area that was relatively free of BDSM and some of the more extreme kinks that are often associated with chastity.
We welcome your participation in discussing chastity, keeping him locked, and related topics, but I think that if you really want to discuss cuckolding then there are other web forums better suited for such discussion.
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I'm sort of with Tom here. Especially for two other reasons; just because he can't satisfy you with penetration doesn't mean it's therefore bad. He enjoys it, doesn't he, and you presumably care about him also enjoying himself? Especially since most women can't orgasm purely from penetration anyway. Second, strap-ons exist, in an unimaginably wide array of colors, sizes, materials, even with features like the ability to ejaculate or thrust or spin or vibrate.

As for cuckolding, I'm pretty sure the definition, before it became a porn category, just meant a cheating on your husband. Someone else can look up the etymology, but that's what it meant until recently. Kinky videos have included all sorts of elements like humiliation, pain, non-consent, forced-bi, etc. Frankly it's become so common and so excessive that it grosses me out, and I'm glad you aren't planning to try and force your husband into homosexual activity he is not interested in. Even so, saying cuckolding requires these things is like saying chastity requires CBT--just because they are commonly associated in BDSM videos doesn't mean you have to link them together. Heck, chastity, or just orgasm denial/control, is not required in D/s relationships, and I've seen people in the BDSM community get very annoyed by that insinuation.

If you're both cool with bringing other people into your bedroom, more power to you. I'd just say that it's likely going to be very hard for him emotionally, and if the reason you're doing it is because he doesn't satisfy you, that just adds another layer of basically in-built humiliation; so I hope you set rules (which includes letting him stop it at any time), follow them, and then do some extensive aftercare, basically, where you reassure him that it was just a sexual experience, you still love him, and this isn't going to change your marriage.
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My wife and I shared the same girlfriend for most of our 48 years of marriage. At first my wife would invite her friends to join us in bed but I was the only one having sex with the girls. She enjoyed having sex with me afterwards. She was a cuckqueen. It was not until I got her to join me in bed with her best friend whom she had given me to as a gift after her divorce when she was horny. Once again my wife joined us after I had sex with her girlfriend. It was then that I asked her to show her best friend since childhood how much she loves her. They just kissed and played with each other until they both came.

So we went from me cuckolding my wife who enjoyed watching me or not, then having sex with me afterwards when my body was covered with the girl's juices. I also has sex with other women I met at work and my wife never questioned me when I would call her to tell her I would not be home that night.

Long story short, we went from both girls just having sex with me, my wife going second to me becoming the third wheel assisting them to give each other orgasms. My wife was also fine with me having sex with her girlfriend without participating and then coming into the bedroom to have sex with me. Basically the followed one of the biggest reasons listed for cuckolding, suppressed sexual attraction to your same sex. Do not take this as a slur on your manhood because I lost my virginity to a male friend and and then again to another male friend. I did watch my wife have sex with my best friend but it was not arousing, just interesting to see my wife have sex with another man. She hated it and said she will stick too girls from then on. Fine with me. Her girlfriend is married to a bi guy and she wanted me to go to their BDSM club and blow guys there, buy I said no. I cannot be submissive in front of other men.

She had a poly marriage as did we. Her husband had boyfriends and she had sex with other guys, as many as 3 a week. I occasionally had a girlfriend every so often. My wife was the only one happy with one man and one woman. The funny thing is that we never used the word poly or even bisexual. To us it was just our normal life because we had been that way all our adult lives. We moved away from our girlfriend 11 years ago and lately she has been calling to tell us how much she loves us. She no longer mentions her husband. The original plan was for the three of us to grow old together and that may soon come to pass as her husband is older than she is and may die sooner than we do.

We tried everything except chastity. I wanted as many orgasms as possible. I sometimes had sex with girl at lunch time, came home to a three some and then sex again with each of the two ladies individually. God bless Viagra especially because I masturbated before going to bed too. My wife still enjoyed having sex with me after I had sex with her girlfriend. Sometimes in our threesomes she would just watch me with her girlfriend. I did not enjoy watching my wife have sex with another guy and neither did my wife. We messed around with soft swinging where everyone had foreplay with someone else and then going back to your partner for the main act. Most may find this hard to believe but we have done everything found on Fetlife not knowing what we were doing was called. Even the yucky stuff. We all wanted to explore sex as much s we could, but chastity was out of the question until we moved away from my girlfriend and my wife did not enjoy set just with me alone. Chastity was a way to handle the long periods between sex with my wife. However sex was her using her vibrator while I kissed her. Then she would jerk me off or I did it myself because she was not good at it and it appeared to be more of wifely duty than enjoyment for her.

So we are almost done with our 11th year of orgasm denial. We do not plan any orgasms and mostly they are ruined or accidental. My wire wants to deny me permanently, but she usually gives me one or two when she loses control during her intense orgasms and goes over the line in a ruined orgasm.

Back to cuckolding. Chastity is not cuckolding, BDSM, sissy play or even submissive behavior.It can stand on its own OR be part of a larger fetish like BDSM, etc.. I am still the man of the house. My wife does all the housework because she enjoys having a spotless house and does it better than me. I take care of our finances an work from home making a very good salary so money is not a problem for us. We both regret the night she cuckolded me. My wife was a virgin when we married, never had masturbated or felt what an orgasm felt like until she met me. She always wanted to be the faithful wife and did not feel good the morning after. The problem with cuckolding is that once done you cannot undo it. Plus it is not like you see in the sex videos that are scripted. My wife never had an orgasm that night. It was not like the love making she was used to. Many wives also have body issues and having sex with a stranger they just met will make them anxious and nerves. Unless your wife is not satisfied with sex at home and comfortable with having sex with strangers, she will regret it the next morning. The other thing is that in your cuckold fantasy you script the whole thing. In real life they will do as they want to and not what you scripted in your head. So thread lightly.

I always tell younger guys to first talk to a cuckold couple. I do that because most do not know any in real life and most online are living their sex lives in forums. I also tell them to ask how long the cuckold marriage has lasted. Our girlfriend's husband was in a cuckold marriage and his wife ran off with another guy. He actually advertised for a woman to cuckold him an our girlfriend was looking for someone who was OK with sharing her with us. She kept her two relationships separate. Although we did meet her husband socially a few times, we never saw her house or her son. She asked us not to ask her what the deal was but we did know that she was looking for financial security because as a non spouse to me, she was not entitled to any spousal benefits. So she got what she wanted. Their marriage has lasted over 30 years as a cuckold couple but is it cuckolding when your husband is having sex with other men? I have cuckolded about 3 married women and each one wanted me to run off with them leaving their husbands behind. They are not happy with their husbands and all three eventually got divorced. Lets face it, having sex with others somethings causes feelings even if you do not want them. Then you get mad at your husband and your boyfriend is sympathetic to you and before you know it, divorce time. I was able to take these married women in limos to my two private clubs and a few casinos. I bought them sexy dresses to wear and spent a lot of money on them while their husbands were barely making enough to support them.

Anyway, just keep in mind that the fantasy is always better than the actual act and that most of you never actually me a person in real life that does the things posted on sex forums.
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