Chastity Forums

Figured it might be interesting to see how or if chastity play evolves in a relationship, so I'm going to ask a poll question that has two sets of the same answers, one for people with 5+ years experience in chastity, and one for people with less than 5 years experience (and another set for people not currently in a relationship - though please feel free to answer based on a previous relationship if you would like).

NOTE: above where I use "24/7 chastity" I do not mean the device never comes off, I just mean that if it does come off, it's going right back on fairly soon. If it comes off, it's for a specific purpose, and as soon as the purpose is fulfilled, it goes back on.

NOTE 2: When I use "long stretches" above, I don't necessarily mean long stretches where the device does not come off, but rather long stretches where the device dominates (so to speak) your sex life, followed by long stretches where it isn't used.

My mistress and I currently are in the long distance part of our relationship. 6 months in. Chastity is a core part of our relationship. Although not always necessarily sexual in nature. It's ownership and devotion and control.. Very sexual... And yet.. It's also about trust and security. About bonding closer than what is normal.

Ticked the "5+ years, we use long stretches of using it and not using it".
Over time, the "using it" periods have been getting much longer than the "not using it" ones.

Ticked the 24/7 thing although there’s hardly any device use at all. Doesn’t change the fact that our sex life revolves around my denial.

We've been doing it for more than 20 years, but it's an 'off & on' thing. There can be long periods of freedom, and then long periods of lock-up (18 months). Currently I've been free since last October.

She has mentioned it a time or two in the last few days, and there was one day when she asked if I have been 'getting off' on my own. (I have, and I couldn't lie.)

For us it is our sex lifestyle for the past 11 years. Prior to that a poly triad was our Sex Life until we moved away from the girlfriend my wife and I love and shared. I seldom get an orgasm and those are only when my wife gets carried away during one of her intense orgasms and keeps pumping my cock despite my warnings. However, we just carry on after accidents. We do take a break every 2 months that lasts anywhere from one week to one month. Then it is back to 24/7 lockup again.

Lifestyle for the past four years. Many false starts before that. Circumstances had to be just right for it to finally work, which meant that it had to be her decision this time.

Less than 5 years. 24/7
Sex is great, just different and very often.

Before this.. What sex life?

My wife and I have been in a fetish and poly sex lifestyle for 48 years. Currently we are ready to start the 12th year of 24/7 chastity and second attempt on permanent denial. We tend to get really into our fetishes. My wife is having the best toe curling multiple orgasms of her life at age 69. All she needs is to hear me moan in pain and she is off to the races. I am locked during sex and my moans are from ball busting and nipple torture. We were in a poly triad with our long time girlfriend up until 11 years ago. We never had a vanilla sex life. My bi wife allowed me to have sex with all of her girlfriends alone and says I owe her a lot of orgasms. Hence the orgasm denial.