New dice for the new year

[Chastityat60]

So here's the question.. Does anyone here use a dice game of sorts to determine your locked up time? Or out time? Conditions based on the roll..ie odd numbers equal=unlocked but no sex, tease and denial only... Even number=no restrictions..unlocked for what ever time dice dictates. I am planning to buy some random dice and create a game ,, simple enough for her,, and reasonable for me. I've got several ideas but was wondering what works well for others. Looking to "Roll the Dice" Jan 1.

[Schnoff]

Con save with disadvantage at the end of each month, DC 17?

Probably too nerdy .

[cuyahoga]

I totally get that, Schnoff. And yes, way too nerdy.

Chastityat60 ... careful. This may not be the case for you, but my wife doesn’t care how simple it is, she absolutely does not want a “schedule” or any form of being told what to do and when to do it. That’s not a domination thing, it’s just a matter of, if the dice say this certain thing happens tonight, and she doesn’t feel like it, now she feels obligated, which kills her mood. And even if you assure her she’s under no obligation, she might still feel some guilt if she doesn’t participate fully and timely.

Guilt and obligation are the two fastest ways to kill a woman’s mood.

Not trying to bring you down; just offering my experience and a warning to be very, very careful about how you proceed here.

[Chastityat60]

I totally get that, Schnoff. And yes, way too nerdy.

Chastityat60 ... careful. This may not be the case for you, but my wife doesn’t care how simple it is, she absolutely does not want a “schedule” or any form of being told what to do and when to do it. That’s not a domination thing, it’s just a matter of, if the dice say this certain thing happens tonight, and she doesn’t feel like it, now she feels obligated, which kills her mood. And even if you assure her she’s under no obligation, she might still feel some guilt if she doesn’t participate fully and timely.

Guilt and obligation are the two fastest ways to kill a woman’s mood.

Not trying to bring you down; just offering my experience and a warning to be very, very careful about how you proceed here.

Ok, wasn't thinking that way. Since she isn't engaging the chastity thing. Been self locking and trying to up my game since Aug 12. I told her the other day, I have only been out for 6 days since I started. Sometimes I wonder if she cares for PIV at all anymore.. We got her a new vibrator recently..she loves it. Last night she was inclined to do something with me after she was done. I suggested a quick tease then back in my device. She seemed pleased with that suggestion as she has recently decided she hates the mess. However ,Somewhat confused as she says is that all you want?? I said we can take care of me another day.. but for tonight just a tease.. she agreed to slowly masturbate me till I stopped her. (About 10 min) Then was 20 minutes till I could return to tube. Honestly, I'm just trying to get her involved.Maybe you're right. I don't want to pressure her. This was her first sort of tease and denial. I'd like to have her roll the dice for how long I am locked. But come that day of release, you think the pressure might be too much? Even if we agree ahead of time that it would be only for a tease and denial session.?

[cuyahoga]

Every woman is different. I was only offering a warning for consideration. If she’s accepting a little guidance, you would probably be safe to just keep an eye out for warning signs.

[Chastityat60]

Every woman is different. I was only offering a warning for consideration. If she’s accepting a little guidance, you would probably be safe to just keep an eye out for warning signs.

Ok, well , warning signs.. um since she is not on board yet, she sees no value in this. We only do anything but 2x a month if that, she seems to be on autopilot with her new vibrator. I'm trying to convert from play chastity to something that looks like a legit effort. My nub should be here tomorrow to replace my small . I have filed and sanded the ring to near perfect fit. Shaving the ring area daily or every 2 days.. been on a diet, lost a bunch.. maybe I'm trying too hard.. don't know. But thanks for the thoughts.

[Chastityat61]

Was hoping for some movement on the part of the wife towards my desire for chastity. This has not happened and I have lost the drive to self lock. She has made it clear, there is no desire on her part to participate in chastity play. So I guess that's it. Maybe at some time down the road, but for now, there is no reason to continue working this. I tossed all the rings and stuff tonight. Tomorrow is a new day.

[Excited+Scared1]

Wow, that’s a shame!
Is it possible that there just aren’t enough encouraging benefits for her? I mean, my key holder (T) doesn’t orgasm through PIV so it was pretty much exclusively fingering to orgasm. When she realised she could instruct me to lick her to orgasm whenever she wanted a light went on.
Now she will dance out of the bathroom at night and tell me to “get on your knees beside the bed”. I was never really into giving oral, but I am now - because she is. If I can’t have an orgasm the pleasure I derive from giving her pleasure is a very close second.
She knows she can lock and unlock me at will; but she also knows (because I told her) that when I ask her permission to come, that even past the point of no return she can say “No, stop!” And sometimes does. She loves that she can do this and get just a whimper from me as I calm down and return to my cage.
So - what IS the benefit for your wife??

[Chastityat61]

We are an older married couple. I brought home a device 10 years ago..or so, must have done it wrong from the start. She never embraced the idea of orgasm control or even being "kept for her". To her, a pointless silly notion from the start.Dropped it for 10 yrs. Last August bought a v3 small.Reintroduced the idea. Same response. We have always been open about our feelings and my desire for chastity and orgasm control/edging..etc. she has shied away from piv because of the mess, even with condom. Oral is always offered but rarely accepted. She mostly only can get to orgasm with use of a vibrator.I recently bought her another. She uses it often and without me. In an effort to not fall into a sexless marriage, I had reintroduced a chastity device. Offered the keys, games, playful suggestions.I can only assume that she is happy with our twice a month quickie with a condom. I do know she loves her vibrator. Thought about a higher quality dildo , strap-on but she won't have it .Not sure if there is a good answer here. Just recently downsized for a better fit, and a smaller ring size. Not just a toy anymore. Shaving the ring area 2x /week. Lost weight,going for walks, trying to spend more time with her..all appreciated. She is just not into chastity, domination of any kind or female led relationship.I won't go outside our house for a key holder. If she won't play along then I need to just drop it and respect her choice not to play.

[GM1969]

I like the idea of using the dice and it's something that I'm starting to use with my wife. We are new to this and not using a device - we have used dice for the numbers of days and my wife gets to choose whether to use 6 or 12 sided dice. We have just used a random number generator though which gives my wife more control because you can set a minimum and a maximum - she went for minimum of 4 days, max 12. It came out at 11 and being relatively new to this, that's huge! I'm on day 5 now and can't stop thinking about sex and porn and everything! We like the dice games because I like the randomness of it and I think it makes it a bit easier for my wife because she doesn't have to make a hard decision about how long, which makes it a bit easier as we get into it. I'd be very interested in what others do around the dice - I like the idea of the number of days being random but also when it get to the day, whether I get an orgasm or not, whether it's ruined and whether I need to clean up - would be interested to see what other have come up with like this.