Chastity Forums

Thumper has an interesting Tweet up:

At want point did you become aware of male chastity? Do you remember what it was? Did you immediately respond or did you have to be talked into it? How long ago was that?

Not everyone is on Twitter, and you only get 300 characters, so here's an opportunity for a longer version.

My response:

Early 90s, surfing kink sites with AOL, bumped into Altairboy. Thought it was weird. Bumped into it again, then kept going back, got hooked. Eventually made my own, showed Mrs Edge, who liked the idea. Then went big when CB3000 came out early 2000s.

Early 2000s, I came across the CBxxx cages and was intrigued but never acted on it. I also recall Altairboy’s site.

I never really contemplated it again until last year. I saw that cages were affordable and thought it would be a fun occasional thing. The planets aligned and I met my owner right around that time. She was eager to try it out but we both figured it would take a while. Within weeks we’d found a good cheap steel cage and that was it. Locked ever since.

I’ve been into various aspects of BDSM for as long as I can remember. I was aware of chastity for years and while I had a certain curiosity for most kinky things it never crossed my mind as something I could or would actually do. I even remember having a conversation with a kinky dominant friend about how she kept her sub’s cock locked up for a week at a time and it sounded so hardcore (and miserable) to me at the time, despite strong submissive tendencies. It DID cross my mind once as a possible practical solution to a trust issue I was having with a partner, but ultimately it never amounted to more than a thought.

Fast forward to a few years ago and a somewhat vanilla partner made a passing comment about putting a cock cage on me. I did some research thinking it might be fun for a day here or there... Something clicked (no pun intended), and down the rabbit hole I went. Not sure what changed but it’s basically become my biggest kink. Probably just too young and horny years ago to consider going days let alone weeks without blowing a load.

I found it in mid-2017. I had an itch I couldn't scratch and didn't quite know what it was. Over 30-odd years my wife's and my sex life had evolved into something that was comfortable and romantic, but predictable and almost diarised so that on Friday evening we had sex, in the same way that on Tuesday we put out the recycling. I had kinks and fetishes but rarely indulged them, knew I was submissive but my wife wasn't into anything like that, and this seemed to be how my life would continue.

Surfing around I came across T&D, based around edging then release, but in sessions lasting from minutes to an hour or two at most. TBF I had practised edging from time to time without knowing it had a name, but 20 minutes was my record.

Finding a site called edgemeplease I really took to it, evolving into the harder and longer edging options. However, I went at it with such a will that after a while my cock just refused to play any more. I actually thought I might have fused some synapse or other and become impotent, and then the next Friday I had real trouble getting hard, which I never ever have (without boasting).

Long story short, edging led to finding Femdom (intensely exciting to me) which in turn led to orgasm denial and chastity. The journey from that point to this (which is still evolving) has not been without difficulty and is related in detail in The Journey Forum.

My earliest exposure was transsexual porn. Videos and images of sissy transsexuals in chastity and then Fem Dom porn. Didn't really act on it until I made a commitment to myself to reject porn and its influence on my life. Chastity seemed a way to enforce that commitment. I would like my wife to participate actively in locking/unlocking and controlling my orgasms. So far, I enforce my own chastity.

I've always been kinky but married a very vanilla woman that took 15 years to finally open up. The vanilla years were hampered with heavy child rearing and oftentimes she'd crash early with a child or stay up really late. I was sexually frustrated and began to surf the net, mainly looking for sex stories as opposed to porn.

I gravitated to a FemDom related material and/or married sex the most, especially from the point of view of the woman. I think the first one I interacted with was long gone but I distinctly recall being drawn female dominance and male submission. I remember there was even a thread on the use of insects as a means of torturing the husband, which was at the same time disgusting but I couldn't turn away.

I found myself being more and more drawn to "sex is for the wife's pleasure" types of scenarios - unreciprocated oral sex, husband as a human dildo, and later wives actually caging their husbands in chastity. I'm still a lot more drawn to a woman's point of view on this since I completely understand the submissive male viewpoint.

‘96 ... just moved to a big city from a small midwest town. I ventured into my first “real” sex toy store. My previous exposure had been limited to The Lion’s Den out by the highway.

I was like a kid in a candy store with no guardian. Eventually, I settled on a leather strap and metal ring contraption that was the most awful chastity device ever. I can only say I was immediately drawn to it, but had barely any idea what to do with it.

Years later, looking for more information on orgasm delay, I stumbled on orgasm denial, tease and denial, Venus Girls and then chastity. Absolutely enthralled with it all.

Definitely the Altairboy website. Once I found it I was so stunned that such a thing existed but it lived only in my fantasies for a long time. Not until the cages started showing up on eBay did I realize there was that much of a market and following. Then I started seeking out more info and it’s taken off from a weird fantasy to a somewhat normal hobby.

Since my early teens I was bitten by the BDSM kink. I remember going into a resort type town on vacation with my parents at the age of 13 when I ventured into a souvenir shop that sold magazines. In the rack I saw a few of those Men's Magazines. Many of us boys were drawn to Playboy and Penthouse but what drew my attention was seeing something similar to this: I remember having a rather sudden and embarrassing moment in my underwear.

Here starts my 50 year addiction to kink.

Restraint by either myself or a willing partner soon followed and back some ten years ago I stumbled upon this on a website and I knew I needed to try it: It was all uphill from then.

I was very fortunate to marry a wonderful woman 30 years ago that for the past 10 years "indulges" my kink with benefits for her.

I ordered a Stallion Guard like this from The Stockroom when they were a new company. Wore that thing for a very long time, and started making my own versions. Wow, I'd forgotten about that. That's over 25, maybe 28 years ago.