Matrix of chastity
Posted: Thu Feb 28, 2019 1:27 pm
Okay, maybe "matrix" isn't the correct term; I'm just thinking aloud here.
I've been thinking about this lately, and I've been noticing that we often toss around the term "chastity," although there are different aspects that we seem to enjoy. For example, some guys seem to enjoy the control aspect; it's not that they don't want an orgasm - they do - but they like the idea of having it either randomized, or having to earn it, or having their partner decide.
Other guys seem more interested in the denial aspect; they can go weeks or months without an orgasm, and manage to get some kind of enjoyment from bringing pleasure to their partner. Or they get pleasure from the denial itself, perhaps coasting on the high of the endorphins.
I also see that many of us (and this is a self selected group) prefer the use of devices of various levels of security, while others are fine with no device using will power alone.
Mrs Edge and I have gone from enjoying her control over my orgasms (in terms of when and how), to something else lately. In the past, we've gone long terms with and without the device, or used the device sporadically, to using the device with regular unlockings. Now it seems we're both enjoying long term orgasm denial, although it's enhanced by the cage which is now on more or less permanently (hygiene, medical, air travel being the exceptions).
I guess I've been noticing the various ways we've played, and started thinking about it in terms of a matrix. I'm open to any comments - is this just idle wondering, or is there some merit in examining this and creating something to help define how this works for us?
I've been thinking about this lately, and I've been noticing that we often toss around the term "chastity," although there are different aspects that we seem to enjoy. For example, some guys seem to enjoy the control aspect; it's not that they don't want an orgasm - they do - but they like the idea of having it either randomized, or having to earn it, or having their partner decide.
Other guys seem more interested in the denial aspect; they can go weeks or months without an orgasm, and manage to get some kind of enjoyment from bringing pleasure to their partner. Or they get pleasure from the denial itself, perhaps coasting on the high of the endorphins.
I also see that many of us (and this is a self selected group) prefer the use of devices of various levels of security, while others are fine with no device using will power alone.
Mrs Edge and I have gone from enjoying her control over my orgasms (in terms of when and how), to something else lately. In the past, we've gone long terms with and without the device, or used the device sporadically, to using the device with regular unlockings. Now it seems we're both enjoying long term orgasm denial, although it's enhanced by the cage which is now on more or less permanently (hygiene, medical, air travel being the exceptions).
I guess I've been noticing the various ways we've played, and started thinking about it in terms of a matrix. I'm open to any comments - is this just idle wondering, or is there some merit in examining this and creating something to help define how this works for us?