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So, we ended a 56 day streak where I was denied full intercourse. A lot happened over the summer, including getting cuckolded by a lesbian, playing a scene at a sex club with wife in front of a female friend, and pegging. Several caged, ruined orgasms took place.

Last night, I was placed in total sensory dep for about an hour while my wife talked to her dominant lesbian friend on the phone. To be honest, I was hot, sweaty, uncomfortable and a little panicked. But we had sex afterwards. It was quite an orgasm.

We see a kink friendly therapist. My wife told her that ultimately she needed a good fucking from me. But she was also ambivalent about the streak ending. “It’s much easier to get him to do what I want when he is denied a long time.” Our therapist thought that was very good information for my wife to have.

Sounds like a fantastic way to end the summer

And now for the winter drought!

My "original equipment" gets used a few times a year nowadays at best. After years of using other methods to give pleasure, and a fair bit of reinforcement from my keyholder, I don't really think of it as a tool for humping anymore. I don't know about other chaste guys out there, but my reaction to getting turned on, is a desire to give pleasure or an orgasm. That change happened a few years ago, and led to the more restrictive chastity/denial I find myself in. The trick was to change the desire and wiring, rather than to be locked because I wanted to masturbate or have piv sex. It was a long road (and still is) going from a guy who wants and demands self pleasure (even when locked) to a guy who wants to give pleasure, and accepts his chaste state.

Everybody, and every situation is different of course. I've adapted to what suits the women in my life. Having said that, 56 days is a decent drought, but try this. Make the PIV sex about her. Focus on her pleasure, and don't cum yourself. You may find shorter droughts, better sex for her, and if you get the right headspace, better caged, ruined orgasms for you. My wife loves that sex is all about her, and appreciates when I lock myself up, despite not getting any relief from the sex. Good things can happen when pleasure is given freely, and not required of the self.

I hear you, and we've played with a very wide range of behavior on this, including screwing without me cumming, which she sometimes enjoys. She also enjoys me cumming sometimes, and sometimes, despite my best efforts, there is only so long I can go.

In all truthfulness, I would not be interested in any of this if it wasn't gratifying to me. "Sexual gratification" and "physical pleasure" are not always the same thing, and most of us here find it can be a little complicated to sort that out.

I love pleasing my wife, but if it was "all about her" we wouldn't get to quite all of the kinky craziness we get involved in. Sometimes, we've done things "for me" only to find she unexpectedly liked the activity as much or more than me. It wasn't until a few years ago she be came interested in BDSM, and was very surprised when she absolutely enjoyed going to pro dommes.

Neither of us is vanilla.

fuzzydunlop wrote: ↑Wed Sep 12, 2018 7:59 pm I hear you, and we've played with a very wide range of behavior on this, including screwing without me cumming, which she sometimes enjoys. She also enjoys me cumming sometimes, and sometimes, despite my best efforts, there is only so long I can go.

In all truthfulness, I would not be interested in any of this if it wasn't gratifying to me. "Sexual gratification" and "physical pleasure" are not always the same thing, and most of us here find it can be a little complicated to sort that out.

I love pleasing my wife, but if it was "all about her" we wouldn't get to quite all of the kinky craziness we get involved in. Sometimes, we've done things "for me" only to find she unexpectedly liked the activity as much or more than me. It wasn't until a few years ago she be came interested in BDSM, and was very surprised when she absolutely enjoyed going to pro dommes.

Neither of us is vanilla.

I hear you 2. We've all got different stuff when it comes to kink. I've got about 27 kinks going at once!!

Best wife ever.

Im even kinda jealous