The catch 22 of a denial fetish.
Posted: Thu Apr 26, 2018 4:00 pm
Having had a denial fetish for forever, I've found that the best masturbation fantasies were always denial ones. The more severe the denial, the better the edging fantasy, and eventual orgasm. Nothing makes me want to masturbate more than the thought of denial, and nothing gets me aroused better.
Over the past 10 plus years we've explored and worked on a number of things. Getting rid of the need for male orgasm (my wife hates semen, and likes sex done, when she's done) during sex, and to a degree, through edging. Developing a preference for giving, over getting. My own issue is that if I orgasm more than every week or two, I get run down, and foggy headed, as well as a mild depression. Much of this we figure is a result of surgery 20 years ago, where I lost most of my small intestine, and am easily deficient in things lost through ejaculation. The downside to edging over having an orgasm, is that it can be addictive, and time consuming, as there is no real end point as such.
Enter chastity play. The hard part is sticking to it, when the wife likes me being chaste, but isn't into enforcing it. Enter one of our best friends, who is kinky, and knows about the chastity and denial, and the Tantric that we based some of our stuff on. With the wifes permission, she has been in charge of the chastity stuff and denial for over a year now. It all sounds quite strange and exotic, but outside of being kinky folk, we are all pretty normal, boring people. Anyhow......Masturbation was slowly taken away, and a combo of self control and chastity device wear has reached a point of no masturbating, no erections unlocked (unless the wife needs the original equipment, which is rare.) and emptying is every 1-3 months.
The thing is that if I'd read that a couple of years ago, it would be the perfect fap fantasy. Living it, and having no outlet for that desire, is fantastic, but it's also become just the daily routine. Lots of days it just sucks, and is a challenge to get through. I'm glad I'm doing it, and I'm glad I have people who support me, and I can share it with, but the reality is that it's hard work, and now, the odd time I'm allowed to masturbate, I feel like an ex-smoker who's bought a pack, and feels dirty for indulging the craving, before tossing the rest away and quitting again. In the mind it's going to be all horny, kinky times and fun, but doing it, and sticking to it, takes years to commit to. Posting this sort of thing always feels weird, but I figure some here have been, or are in the same boat. There are days when I'm all worked up, and could post how awesome it all is, and others where I've wanted to post just to know I'm not the only one that finds it really difficult some days or weeks!!
Over the past 10 plus years we've explored and worked on a number of things. Getting rid of the need for male orgasm (my wife hates semen, and likes sex done, when she's done) during sex, and to a degree, through edging. Developing a preference for giving, over getting. My own issue is that if I orgasm more than every week or two, I get run down, and foggy headed, as well as a mild depression. Much of this we figure is a result of surgery 20 years ago, where I lost most of my small intestine, and am easily deficient in things lost through ejaculation. The downside to edging over having an orgasm, is that it can be addictive, and time consuming, as there is no real end point as such.
Enter chastity play. The hard part is sticking to it, when the wife likes me being chaste, but isn't into enforcing it. Enter one of our best friends, who is kinky, and knows about the chastity and denial, and the Tantric that we based some of our stuff on. With the wifes permission, she has been in charge of the chastity stuff and denial for over a year now. It all sounds quite strange and exotic, but outside of being kinky folk, we are all pretty normal, boring people. Anyhow......Masturbation was slowly taken away, and a combo of self control and chastity device wear has reached a point of no masturbating, no erections unlocked (unless the wife needs the original equipment, which is rare.) and emptying is every 1-3 months.
The thing is that if I'd read that a couple of years ago, it would be the perfect fap fantasy. Living it, and having no outlet for that desire, is fantastic, but it's also become just the daily routine. Lots of days it just sucks, and is a challenge to get through. I'm glad I'm doing it, and I'm glad I have people who support me, and I can share it with, but the reality is that it's hard work, and now, the odd time I'm allowed to masturbate, I feel like an ex-smoker who's bought a pack, and feels dirty for indulging the craving, before tossing the rest away and quitting again. In the mind it's going to be all horny, kinky times and fun, but doing it, and sticking to it, takes years to commit to. Posting this sort of thing always feels weird, but I figure some here have been, or are in the same boat. There are days when I'm all worked up, and could post how awesome it all is, and others where I've wanted to post just to know I'm not the only one that finds it really difficult some days or weeks!!