How were people introduced to chastity play

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How were people introduced to chastity play

Post by io17773 » Wed Mar 28, 2018 11:31 am

Hi all new member and first post.

I think it's a good question, my wife isn't that interested but i have tried many times to get her to like it.
I found out about this just through looking at porn and then thinking "yes that looks fun" but not to be i suppose

How did you get into this?
Did you see it through looking at porn so mention it, did your wife bring it up out of the blue (i bet that was a shock for some)

Thanks
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Re: How were people introduced to chastity play

Post by TwistedMister » Sat Mar 31, 2018 6:31 am

When I was very, very young, I fooled around with putting a stuffed animal into my underwear, and tying sneakers around my cock and balls. I don't remember what caused me to do it, nor do I recall becoming sexually aroused from it, I think that I was too young to become aroused at that time. I watched the old 'Batman' TV series and I vividly recall a scene where 'Catwoman' had 'Batman' tied up, for some reason I did not understand at the time, that image interested me and it stuck with me. There was one time when I let the little girl who lived across the street tie me to a tree. I was less than 10 years old at the time.

Some years later, I recall being very interested in 'The Avengers' with the lovely 'Emma Peal'. By that time, I was aware of the sexual appeal of women. I was also interested in some 'James Bond' movies, where the main character had been captured and bound by one or more lovely (but 'evil') ladies. I still didn't really understand my attraction to 'strong' women and the theme of them having power over men, but I knew it was there.

More years later, my 'romantic' involvements tended to be with women who had 'strong' personalities, though I did not recognize it at the time. The woman whom I ultimately married became a cop, and I helped train her. We experimented with BDSM but it was always I who was dominant...until the wee hours of one morning when I was making my rounds in the City, quiet with no 'action' going on, I stopped in an all-night newsstand and happened across a copy of a [kinky] porn mag called 'Nugget' which featured on the cover a very attractive lady dressed in leather and holding a whip. I became aroused and it was at that moment that I realized and became fully aware of my sexual attraction to strong, dominant women.

Although the Internet existed and I was aware of it and used it, it had not yet morphed into the 'Web' with pictures and its plethora of porn. More years passed until that time...and then, when it came about, I discovered the idea of 'male chastity' combined with FemDom...and that *really* tripped my trigger. I wanted, and *needed* to experience it. But, how to do a complete 180?

First, some short-term experimentation with the 'Gates of Hell' and a 'Stallion Guard', which introduced Mrs. Twisted to the idea of *her* being 'in control'. Then came the CB-3000, and longer term play, with more overt FemDom characteristics and Mistress/slave play. She discovered that she *liked* being able to lock my cock and *force* me to do 'naughty' things...as she did, when after the first month-long lockup in the CB-3000, she had me tied to the bed and after she made me cum in her pussy she sat on my face and literally *forced* me to 'lick her clean', an act which I had not suggested and which we had never discussed...and I was really hooked...and here I sit, currently locked in that same CB-3000, though it has needed some repairs over the years.
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Re: How were people introduced to chastity play

Post by locked4her55 » Sat Mar 31, 2018 8:03 am

Hey TM, aside from a couple of changes here and there (never did the stuffed animal/sneaker thing) :lol: , I could have written that. 8-)
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Re: How were people introduced to chastity play

Post by Onlyhers4ever » Sat Mar 31, 2018 9:40 am

I guess I have always had some interest in the whole BDSM scene. I remember as a kid staying up late at night watching TV and trying to view the scrambled images of the HBO channel on the satellite (a channel my parents did not subscribe to). These images were my first introduction to sexual activity and I would often masturbate to them and somewhere along the line I wrapping rubber bands around my cock and balls. Not sure where I first got that idea but probably no coincidence that some 30+ years later here I am with my cock enclosed in a steel cage.

I think the first actual chastity device I saw was a CB6K on a sex toy site. I think I had showed it to my wife one time and we joked about getting one but didn't. After that, I kept gong back to that web site and reading more about chastity play. Over the next year I did my research searching the various forums and blogs and even downloaded a few books on the topic including Sarah Jameson's book. I was hooked. Now I just had to figure out how to introduce this to my wife. You can read up more of those details in my journal but let's just say the first introduction did not go over to well but eventually (a few years later as it turned out) I finally got my wish and could not be happier now.
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Re: How were people introduced to chastity play

Post by cuyahoga » Sat Mar 31, 2018 12:37 pm

I grew up in a small town, with little exposure to anything kinky, but there were things here and there (Real Sex on HBO, my older brother’s porn mags). I was drawn to dominant women.

When I finally moved to big city, I went to my first sex shop. It was overwhelming, to say the least, but in a glass case near the front of the store, they had a leather and steel contraption meant to house a cock and balls. I bought it. I played with that unbeknownst to anyone for years, and then eventually threw it away.

Some years after that, I acquired a book about Tantric Orgasms, which is really just orgasm delay with some mysticism thrown in, and as I started looking for techniques to improve that fun exploration, I came across tease and denial porn on the internet. It overtook my fantasies.

Years after that, my wife and made one of our first mutual trips to a sex shop. By that time, I had a lot of experience, and she did not, so we had a fun, slightly romantic, slightly erotic, time walking through the store, with me explaining what some of the less obvious toys were for. Eventually, we came to a glass case near the back of the store (different shop), and in it was a different leather and steel cock cage. In line with the theme of our adventure, my wife asked what it was for. I didn’t expect it, but my heart was racing as I explained that it was a cage to keep a cock from being able to get erect.

“That looks like fun,” was her response, and I was almost jumping out of my skin. We’d already been experimenting with short excursions into tease and denial, but this was definitely going to be a big jump.

We bought that cage, and in the car ride home, she had it out of the packaging giving it a thorough inspection and asking where things went. Once home, I put it on for her, and she inspected it again, and then asked, “So what do I do with it?”

That was almost fourteen years ago now. We’ve been playing with tease and denial since then, and I’ve been increasing my exploration of it, taking her along with me. She’s always done it for me in the past, and only recently have we started upping the lengths and intensity to the point that she’s really starting to feel the benefits for her much more distinctly.

That first cage served us well for a while, but it wasn’t suited to long term wear, so after a lot of looking around, I started a small collection of steel cages. I worked out all the size and shape problems, and I’m glad I did that with four or five cheap cages. When I finally ordered the Mature Metal Jailbird, I was able to get exactly what I wanted and needed in the first go.

After a couple of short trial runs, I told my wife “more and meaner” please, and she came through. The experience was incredible, and so I asked for “even more and even meaner” please, and she’s starting to come through with that.

I don’t think I will ever be able to be completely happy without a keyholder from this point on in my life.
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Re: How were people introduced to chastity play

Post by TwistedMister » Sun Apr 01, 2018 8:07 am

locked4her55 wrote:Hey TM, aside from a couple of changes here and there (never did the stuffed animal/sneaker thing) :lol: , I could have written that. 8-)
Should we sue the TV industry...or thank them? Sometimes I wonder if it is a 'cause', or if the bent was already there and merely needed something to awaken it.

I left out a lot of stuff about experimentation with other kinky activities not strictly related to 'chastity', ideas that came about courtesy of Nugget, Penthouse Letters, and later the 'net. It seems that there are many activities that are not 'normal' that have the power to arouse me if placed in a predicament where I cannot avoid them, or especially if *forced* into them by a 'strong' woman (or more than one).

I can trace my interest in cuckolding back similarly, with the benefit of hindsight. I didn't understand it at first, but influences and situations that I was not conscious of at the time just as surely shaped my mind to eroticize it. I suspect everything is intertwined in one way or another.
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Re: How were people introduced to chastity play

Post by locked4her55 » Sun Apr 01, 2018 4:33 pm

TwistedMister wrote:
locked4her55 wrote:Hey TM, aside from a couple of changes here and there (never did the stuffed animal/sneaker thing) :lol: , I could have written that. 8-)
Should we sue the TV industry...or thank them?
Considering some of the crap that has been shown on TV since those shows in the 60's I would say a Thanks is in order.
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Re: How were people introduced to chastity play

Post by sherulestherooster » Fri Apr 06, 2018 12:40 pm

Julie Newmar (Catwoman) and Bond villainesses were likewise part of my sexual discovery - I always felt "funny" when seeing them.

With regard to chastity play, during our heavy child rearing years when she was a SAHM I was often alone when my wife would either not go to bed (I had to get rest for work) or she'd crash really early with kids. I discovered my first message board related to FLR and I got very turned on by the notion that the bedroom was focused on the wife's pleasure.

I would recommend even to the most vanilla couple, why not have a weekend where you take care of the wife the entire time and just let her fall asleep after she is satisfied. Can't hurt.

Anyway, I bought a CB-6000S based upon how arousing it was for me to be under her control, I played around with it for a while and then brought it up to her. Probably not the best idea. Anyway, she has a fairly ambivalent attitude about chastity cages but seems to like to deny me from time to time. She actually prefers the honor system.
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Re: How were people introduced to chastity play

Post by Atsta » Fri Apr 06, 2018 6:09 pm

in my case, chastity means hiding my manhood out of sight and inaccessible, and thus the cage style chastity devices aren't my "thing", but rather a full CB.

When I was younger (late teen years), I would regularly wrap my penis in cello-tape, and thereafter create a "tanga" style of underpants with the cello-tape, this meant I was always aware of the restriction, and the relative inaccessibility of my penis.

Then I discovered the full steel chastity belts from Neosteel, and I knew this is what I wanted to keep my penis out of sight and restricted.

I don't have anyone at the moment to share and partake of my desires, so I don't practice my desires, as often as I would like too
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