Some input on my (our) situation
Posted: Sun Jan 21, 2018 11:12 am
Hi everyone. I am new here but not new to the world of kink/BDSM etc.
I want to see if anyone has some thoughts and hints on how to find a solution to my situation.
I have been married for 18 years. My wife in the past has been my Mistress in a non 24/7 Ds relationship. One thing for sure is she is open minded and kinky like myself. Life happens and the Ds stuff has not happened for the most part for years other than a brief try at rebooting it a year ago.
My wife is frustrated because a lot of my sex drive has diminished. What does make me aroused is chastity but she likes to feel me deep inside her, but if we have vanilla sex. I either have an issue with premature or going soft.
I can stay hard longer when there is lots of tease and denial and/or enforced chastity. We kind of came up with a plan a while back where I would be locked up and only allowed to have sex with her with a big sheath on that would prevent ejaculation but this sensation did not do anything for her. We also tried a bag of beads with very few green ones in it mixed with red that told me if I would be allowed to cum.
I have tried a couple chastity devices, but always had issues with pain during night erections and or the design was just generally uncomfortable. Thinking of holly trainer or that new 3d printed one next.
The next issue is I love/hate being denied. The issue is my wife gives in too easily to my wining. (That is why I thought the beads chance thing would be best). Next How to satisfy her without me cumming.
Is there a good way to adapt a good strap-on to a chastity setup like a HT?
I know a lot of this is talking about "my" wants and needs. When I ask her about what she likes I don't get a lot of good answers. She fantasizes about voyeurism both with me in male/female groups involving me. She likes it when I am sexually frustrated but that makes her want me to cum hard in her and then it ruins the sexual tension that makes me more responsive.
I am a 55 year old straight(ish) male. My wife is 12 years younger. My wife is not as sadistic as I would like but I am so lucky to have such an open minded wife.
Any thoughts would be great.
I want to see if anyone has some thoughts and hints on how to find a solution to my situation.
I have been married for 18 years. My wife in the past has been my Mistress in a non 24/7 Ds relationship. One thing for sure is she is open minded and kinky like myself. Life happens and the Ds stuff has not happened for the most part for years other than a brief try at rebooting it a year ago.
My wife is frustrated because a lot of my sex drive has diminished. What does make me aroused is chastity but she likes to feel me deep inside her, but if we have vanilla sex. I either have an issue with premature or going soft.
I can stay hard longer when there is lots of tease and denial and/or enforced chastity. We kind of came up with a plan a while back where I would be locked up and only allowed to have sex with her with a big sheath on that would prevent ejaculation but this sensation did not do anything for her. We also tried a bag of beads with very few green ones in it mixed with red that told me if I would be allowed to cum.
I have tried a couple chastity devices, but always had issues with pain during night erections and or the design was just generally uncomfortable. Thinking of holly trainer or that new 3d printed one next.
The next issue is I love/hate being denied. The issue is my wife gives in too easily to my wining. (That is why I thought the beads chance thing would be best). Next How to satisfy her without me cumming.
Is there a good way to adapt a good strap-on to a chastity setup like a HT?
I know a lot of this is talking about "my" wants and needs. When I ask her about what she likes I don't get a lot of good answers. She fantasizes about voyeurism both with me in male/female groups involving me. She likes it when I am sexually frustrated but that makes her want me to cum hard in her and then it ruins the sexual tension that makes me more responsive.
I am a 55 year old straight(ish) male. My wife is 12 years younger. My wife is not as sadistic as I would like but I am so lucky to have such an open minded wife.
Any thoughts would be great.