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Finally it clicked. Been wearing my CB6000 on and off for some months now, using different sized rings and spacers more or less at random. This morning I made a more deliberate attempt, bearing in mind all previous experiences, and now it really is a perfect fit. My cock loves it and I love the sight of my locked cock. Can't stop looking at it and fondling it. A pity my wife is not yet that delighted wirth the whole concept, otherwise I would send a pic of it to her at work right now. But I must say we're doing fine all in all. She accepts me wearing the cage and agrees to wear the key an a silver chain round here neck when its playtime. Also she admits that I'm a much better (oral) lover now that my own satisfaction is out of the question. Also she was okay with me taking pictures of her holding my cage. Coming to think of it, we've come a long way in a relatively little time. Last time we played she agreed to wear nothing but a pantyhose and seet-hrough blouse, while I was dressed in my cage only. It was incredibly hot, and of course I took some pictures to relive the moment at times. Now, with the new fit i am hornier than I've been in a very log time. When she gets home I would very much like to meet her naked and caged, but we agreed on a specific schedule for our sexual activities (only once a week) because I was all over her all of the time since i was locked, and she did not appreciate that. So here i am horny as hell with a locked untouchable cock. Life is weirder than I could have imagened before I discovered chastity. But i am very fine with that.

Learning not to overwhelm your keyholder in the beginning is very important. I had that issue years ago but I learned. And with a reluctant keyholder, patience is crucial

Patient I am. And it is a challenging combination with being so aroused constantly. I am now considering to make an appointment with an experienced mistress for a paid session to further explore the submissive feelings that are developing within me now I'm wearing the cage. That will teach me...

and will you tell your wife about the paid session?

it could all end in tears...

Yes, that is exactly my dilemma. During the last months we made great progress in increasing intimacy and trust between us and that means a lot to me. And on the other hand i feel these (strong) urges. I certainly did not think of telling my wife about this plan. And maybe it's not such a brilliant idea after all. Things are working out slowly but nicely as they are, so why ruin it with acting on an urge that might well lead to a breach of trust - or worse. Thank you Ij for making me think twice. Writing this I feel I have abandoned that idea altogether and count my blessings.

> with an experienced mistress for a paid session to further explore the submissive feelings that are developing within me now I'm wearing the cage. That will teach me...

That sounds like you're looking to bottom, not learn how to be a better submissive. I think you made the right call in giving up on the idea of a paid-for play session. That was solely for you, to scratch that bottoming itch, not for the good of your relationship.

Not to say the bottoming itch doesn't deserve to be scratched. It does. But maybe explore that with your wife, do some "storyboarding" with her as to what she'd like to see happen and what you would like to see happen, and see where it leads. When you think the time is right to ask her what fantasies she has. Unless, of course, you already know, in which case you could simply ask her to be allowed to fulfill a fantasy of hers.

If you're wondering whether submission should be part of your life, have a look at "Building the team" by Raven Kaldera, and maybe "Unequal Partnerships" by Mistress Sky. Both emphasize the team model of dominance and submission - a model where leading partner (D-type) and implementing partner (s-type) collaborate, not antagonize each other. It's not what you see in porn, but it works a whole lot better for a "marriage with a slant".

As others have said, take it gently with your wife. She might feel a little blind-sided by all this.

Thanks for the advice Schnoff. I'll work wit that. Let's see how it works out.