Worried about very long denial period.
Posted: Fri Sep 29, 2017 12:37 pm
My wife and I have been into Chastity Play for 5 years, this November. I have what some of you may say is the ideal key holder. My life reads better than any porn video I have see. There were all the fetishes, even the yucky ones. My wife turned out to be bi just like my two previous lovers. Sex between us was great. She reaches orgasm in under 3 minutes from direct clitoral stimulation, almost every time. When she came out, her best friend since childhood moved in with us and was part of our marriage for 30 years. Gradually my wife got more and more into sex with women then men. We did a wife swap once to see how she liked another man since I was he one and only. She hated it and swore off other men proclaiming me to be the only man in her life.
I really need to get to the point but I am having an anxiety attack. My wife reminded me of our deal. For the last 5 years the number of my orgasms had declined. In 2018 I am supposed to have just one but I thought she would take pity on me and forget it. She did not forget it. For all of 2017 she has kept me locked up during sex as well as the rest of the time. She bought a Fleshlight so that she would not have to touch my penis and could recycle the semen that collected in the bottom of it. Although she loves me very much and proves it every day, she just does not need my penis. We have not had intercourse for longer than we can remember and after we moved away from her longtime girlfriend, out sex was masturbating next to each other until we started chastity and then it was just her masturbating while I watched. When it was my turn for an orgasm, I either got a half hearted hand job or told to masturbate and hurry up.
Although my wife has regained an interest in men sexually, it is with men who are younger and hotter even though she has no chance of getting one due to her age and medical conditions. Most people think bisexuality is black and white but it fluctuates and it is not all or nothing. My wife loves sex with women but never dated one or had a romance with any. She only has a sexual interest in them. That is a long story too, dealing with an abusive alcoholic father. No matter, we will never again have a normal sex life.
In the past the longest I went without an orgasm was 4 months. Now she expects me to go a year. The changes over the last 5 years have surprised me. I was the dominant one and now she tells me she is the boss and does not need to get my OK to do anything any more. She goes out with her friends three nights a week and sometimes more. No sex since her friends are all over 70. Just cards, bingo, etc. and I know where she is by her iPhone. No need to worry there. At her age she is just not interested in sex anymore and even then, she does not find a penis to be attractive or something she wants.
I had to write this because I can feel the anxiety flowing through me and I have to keep busy. I am not used to going a year without an orgasm or not being in charge of our marriage. The changes have been so gradual and my wife never spoke of them, so I did not really pay attention since I was always sexually aroused and focused on keeping her happy so I would get my orgasm every 4 months. Now she went from the shy submissive wife I knew to not being afraid to assert herself. She never made fun of my penis before or was so frank about not needing it anymore. What is heck has happened to me?
I am freaking out. I do have a question. Has anyone here really gone a year locked up and orgasm free? Maybe a ruined orgasm every so often. What is it like? Does the horny feeling get less? How often do you hae sex. We only have it once a week and I am thinking that will not be enough anymore. My wife has agreed to unlock me once in a while to edge me again so I can feel a hand against my penis once in awhile and get some pleasure from edging. She is very good at it but it does not sexually excite her. She is just doing it to torture me. She actually laughs out loud at my sexual frustration. Any help appreciate. Thanks for enduring this.
The weird part is that usually I can go 4 months with minimum trouble but having to wait a year, maybe half a year if I make her super happy, is freaking me out.
I really need to get to the point but I am having an anxiety attack. My wife reminded me of our deal. For the last 5 years the number of my orgasms had declined. In 2018 I am supposed to have just one but I thought she would take pity on me and forget it. She did not forget it. For all of 2017 she has kept me locked up during sex as well as the rest of the time. She bought a Fleshlight so that she would not have to touch my penis and could recycle the semen that collected in the bottom of it. Although she loves me very much and proves it every day, she just does not need my penis. We have not had intercourse for longer than we can remember and after we moved away from her longtime girlfriend, out sex was masturbating next to each other until we started chastity and then it was just her masturbating while I watched. When it was my turn for an orgasm, I either got a half hearted hand job or told to masturbate and hurry up.
Although my wife has regained an interest in men sexually, it is with men who are younger and hotter even though she has no chance of getting one due to her age and medical conditions. Most people think bisexuality is black and white but it fluctuates and it is not all or nothing. My wife loves sex with women but never dated one or had a romance with any. She only has a sexual interest in them. That is a long story too, dealing with an abusive alcoholic father. No matter, we will never again have a normal sex life.
In the past the longest I went without an orgasm was 4 months. Now she expects me to go a year. The changes over the last 5 years have surprised me. I was the dominant one and now she tells me she is the boss and does not need to get my OK to do anything any more. She goes out with her friends three nights a week and sometimes more. No sex since her friends are all over 70. Just cards, bingo, etc. and I know where she is by her iPhone. No need to worry there. At her age she is just not interested in sex anymore and even then, she does not find a penis to be attractive or something she wants.
I had to write this because I can feel the anxiety flowing through me and I have to keep busy. I am not used to going a year without an orgasm or not being in charge of our marriage. The changes have been so gradual and my wife never spoke of them, so I did not really pay attention since I was always sexually aroused and focused on keeping her happy so I would get my orgasm every 4 months. Now she went from the shy submissive wife I knew to not being afraid to assert herself. She never made fun of my penis before or was so frank about not needing it anymore. What is heck has happened to me?
I am freaking out. I do have a question. Has anyone here really gone a year locked up and orgasm free? Maybe a ruined orgasm every so often. What is it like? Does the horny feeling get less? How often do you hae sex. We only have it once a week and I am thinking that will not be enough anymore. My wife has agreed to unlock me once in a while to edge me again so I can feel a hand against my penis once in awhile and get some pleasure from edging. She is very good at it but it does not sexually excite her. She is just doing it to torture me. She actually laughs out loud at my sexual frustration. Any help appreciate. Thanks for enduring this.
The weird part is that usually I can go 4 months with minimum trouble but having to wait a year, maybe half a year if I make her super happy, is freaking me out.