It's not crazy. Ignorance is a reasonable excuse for a vanilla person... chastity isn't exactly mainstream, even in the world of kink. As someone who understands the potential meaning, you have a responsibility not to out someone, and IMO, you also have a responsibility to not make someone fear you're about to out them, ESPECIALLY AT THEIR JOB. I'm fairly new to chastity but these things are taken very seriously in the BDSM world. I see no reason why the standard should be any different.TwistedMister wrote:I agree with Aarkey- if someone is displaying a key, it is not unacceptable to make mention of it...politely, of course, and not in a way that says that you assume it is related to a chastity device. Some wear keys for other reasons.
Mrs. Twisted likes to wear the key sometimes, and occasionally gets a question or comment. So far, the questions/comments have been from people who [most likely] are unaware of 'chastity' play and this is not completely unexpected...nor is it 'unacceptable'- they are simply curious. Some of you seem to be saying that it is OK for ignorant people to ask/comment, but if you know about 'chastity' then you must keep your mouth shut...that's crazy.
If it is on display, then it is a legitimate subject of [polite] conversation. Mrs. Twisted has a couple of 'cutesy' responses that she likes to deliver with a smile/grin- innocuous and slightly mysterious to the ignorant but enough innuendo to give a clue to someone who might be aware [of 'chastity' play] that it *is*, in fact, what they think it is.
You and your wife might revel in the comments about her necklace or the thrill of wondering whether someone
knows what it's for... you shouldn't assume everyone feels the same. The reality of the situation as it's been presented is that you're not asking with innocent intent... you're prying for an opening, even if the comment itself seems innocuous (and people often let on more than they realize). I'm sorry, it's completely innappropriate to try and make this connection at someone's workplace.