Indefinite chastity

[cycling2work]

Different tastes for different people.

I am happier without the orgasm, don't know when I will get my next one but am usually hoping it is not too soon. For me the constant teasing is what makes it cool and the being horny. We have sex, she plays with my cock but I don't come. My longest stint was 25 days but I wished it was longer.

I understand that some folks need that carrot, but for me being teased and played with is a lot better than to believe I might get an orgasm again soon.

Shepherdsflock wrote: but in return I get what we've always been missing: a sex life we can both be happy with.

+1 to that quote

[Joroincharge]

Tonight was the night that my wife and I both agreed that it's time to make chastity an indefinite part of our marriage. Since we've started chastity, we have found our relationship to be much more harmonious when I'm kept chaste. Anytime I have been allowed to use my penis and have an orgasm, everything just falls apart.

We had a long discussion about it. We both want the benefits of it, but I told my wife that she will need to be very supportive and encourage me when I have days when I just don't feel like staying the course. She will need to be my cheerleader and keep me motivated. She said she is prepared to help me stay on track.

We don't know if this will be permanent, but it will be for a long time. At least several years.

I'm excited to see how our intimacy grows, and a little nervous because I don't really know what it will be like to totally give up erections and orgasms.

Ought not to be a problem.

[MrCage]

We started our journey two years ago. It has been a fantastic addition to our marriage. Mrs Cage has a different take on it than most. There is no schedule or time periods. If I'm locked, I'm locked all the time. What's the point of having a release date? I'm unlocked when she feels like it and that is that. She has made it very simple and effective.

[Joroincharge]

Tonight was the night that my wife and I both agreed that it's time to make chastity an indefinite part of our marriage. Since we've started chastity, we have found our relationship to be much more harmonious when I'm kept chaste. Anytime I have been allowed to use my penis and have an orgasm, everything just falls apart.

We had a long discussion about it. We both want the benefits of it, but I told my wife that she will need to be very supportive and encourage me when I have days when I just don't feel like staying the course. She will need to be my cheerleader and keep me motivated. She said she is prepared to help me stay on track.

We don't know if this will be permanent, but it will be for a long time. At least several years.

I'm excited to see how our intimacy grows, and a little nervous because I don't really know what it will be like to totally give up erections and orgasms.

You won't be the only one, that's for sure. It's not difficult to arrange.

[Shepherdsflock]

You won't be the only one, that's for sure. It's not difficult to arrange.

I'm not sure I understand your post.

[Shepherdsflock]

Our decision to make my chastity permanent has been up and down, but overall good. I had some emotional challenges about a week after the decision. I got really stressed out for a few days thinking too much about never having an erection or orgasm again. My wife was super supportive and helped me get through it. Going a month or two isn't too hard because you know an end will come and you'll get to have a release. The idea of never using your penis again is really intimidating when it becomes your reality.

Once we got past that, things got really good. My wife has been more affectionate and eager to play with me. She doesn't talk much about her sexuality, but she seems to get some kind of pleasure out of being able to get me aroused and excited but be helpless to do anything about it.

We're trying to lay out some rules and plans for dealing with any future issues I might have. She wants me permanently chaste really badly, but she's not the dominant type that will force me to stick with it if I'm struggling. So, we'll have to figure out how to plan for the hard times.

[grubber]

Our decision to make my chastity permanent has been up and down, but overall good. I had some emotional challenges about a week after the decision. I got really stressed out for a few days thinking too much about never having an erection or orgasm again. My wife was super supportive and helped me get through it. Going a month or two isn't too hard because you know an end will come and you'll get to have a release. The idea of never using your penis again is really intimidating when it becomes your reality.

Once we got past that, things got really good. My wife has been more affectionate and eager to play with me. She doesn't talk much about her sexuality, but she seems to get some kind of pleasure out of being able to get me aroused and excited but be helpless to do anything about it.

We're trying to lay out some rules and plans for dealing with any future issues I might have. She wants me permanently chaste really badly, but she's not the dominant type that will force me to stick with it if I'm struggling. So, we'll have to figure out how to plan for the hard times.

We attempted the permanent lockup thing also. What we noticed was that my libido started waning after about the six month mark. We tried this a couple of times and still the same results.

It was because of this that we decided that instead of permanent lockup, we switched to permanent orgasm denial instead. It's been a world of difference for us. She will unlock me at random times, sometimes often and sometimes only when she feels my arousal for her is diminishing. When unlocked, I get teased and denied mercilessly without ever having an orgasm, then locked up again. We have found this to be perfect for us. My libido is constantly super charged just the way she likes me to be. We have been living like this for several years now and it never gets old.

[Shepherdsflock]

We attempted the permanent lockup thing also. What we noticed was that my libido started waning after about the six month mark. We tried this a couple of times and still the same results.

It was because of this that we decided that instead of permanent lockup, we switched to permanent orgasm denial instead. It's been a world of difference for us. She will unlock me at random times, sometimes often and sometimes only when she feels my arousal for her is diminishing. When unlocked, I get teased and denied mercilessly without ever having an orgasm, then locked up again. We have found this to be perfect for us. My libido is constantly super charged just the way she likes me to be. We have been living like this for several years now and it never gets old.

Grubber, I don't think my wife would want the responsibility of deciding when to unlock me. She just plain wouldn't unlock me at all if it were left up to her. Not because she doesn't care, but she almost never thinks about sex.

Now, I do have a question for you. I think I need to listen to what you are saying. For a wife like mine that really doesn't want to be bothered with making decisions about when I should be released, what kind of interval do you think is good for a couple who want a more or less permanent chastity lifestyle? I know I would not do well with frequent edging like you're describing. After about the third time of enduring that I would be manipulating my wife into letting me penetrate her. I know, because we tried it for about a week and that's exactly what I ended up doing.

My wife does better with scheduling agreed upon dates. Would you recommend some edging around the six month mark, or sooner?

[grubber]

Grubber, I don't think my wife would want the responsibility of deciding when to unlock me. She just plain wouldn't unlock me at all if it were left up to her. Not because she doesn't care, but she almost never thinks about sex.

Now, I do have a question for you. I think I need to listen to what you are saying. For a wife like mine that really doesn't want to be bothered with making decisions about when I should be released, what kind of interval do you think is good for a couple who want a more or less permanent chastity lifestyle? I know I would not do well with frequent edging like you're describing. After about the third time of enduring that I would be manipulating my wife into letting me penetrate her. I know, because we tried it for about a week and that's exactly what I ended up doing.

My wife does better with scheduling agreed upon dates. Would you recommend some edging around the six month mark, or sooner?

My wife was similar to your wife before chastity. Could have cared less about sex ever. Don't get me wrong, she hasn't become a raving vixen by any means, but when she wants to fool around, she is pretty serious about it she wants and always gets her way.

She isn't under any kind of pressure whatsoever as to when she wants to fool around. It's totally her decision. I go months sometimes without being unlocked or any sexual attention and other times she gets frisky quite often. She also goes months sometimes herself without wanting an orgasm even if she is teasing me and other times she wants them quite often. It's all totally about what, where, when and how she wants things. No pressure for her to do any thing she wants or wants me to do, even when I am unlocked for T&D. I never try to manipulate her into anything. This no pressure freedom has changed who she has become today.

This has been a very long evolving process. I am amazed and proud of how patient I have become.

I don't know what to tell you about when you should be edged or even scheduled for anything. Every couple is different.

My wife and I are not on any kind of schedule. She just knows when I need to be unlocked for some play or when I need some kind of stimulation of some sort to re=charge my libido. I have been extremely surprised of some of the things she does in and out of the bedroom. It's always a guessing game and she has become very good at it.

[Bird in a Cage]

...For a wife like mine that really doesn't want to be bothered with making decisions about when I should be released, what kind of interval do you think is good for a couple who want a more or less permanent chastity lifestyle?...

...My wife does better with scheduling agreed upon dates. Would you recommend some edging around the six month mark, or sooner?...

Just a thought, but given the differences between you and your wife, perhaps you can agree to a dice/card time-determination method, but let her do the rolling/picking in private. That way she knows your release date and your fate (teased, ruined, full, etc), but you won't. That way she doesn't have to be overly creative, but you're still kept in the dark.