Ironic

[Shepherdsflock]

I started our journey into male chastity because I had a problem with masturbation. Throughout our marriage, my wife has been very disinterested in sex, and never showed any sign of enjoying or even wanting to enjoy sex.

Well, the chastity device has done two things for us. It stops me from masturbating, which we are both happy about (I always did it in secret and was ashamed of it). But something else has happened. My once disinterested wife now gets aroused enough by playing with my caged cock that she has started masturbating while we make love.

I find this ironic, humorous, and kind of sexy. The first time it happened I was kind of shocked. There I was locked up, unable to touch myself, and my wife was going to town on herself having a great time. It was a big turn on for me to see her enjoying herself with no inhibitions.

It has become a normal occurrence when we make love now. I have to laugh thinking about how things have changed.

[MikeyLikes]

That's very interesting; and am glad to hear that you're able to enjoy chastity AND her libido has gone up.

I am curious though, when the two of you make love, do you penetrate her? ("There I was locked up, unable to touch myself, and my wife was going to town on herself having a great time.")

[Shepherdsflock]

No, she hates penetration.

She has always hated penetration and it caused us a lot of grief for a number of years. I was bitter because she hated sex (I thought sex HAD to be penetrative intercourse), and she resented me because I always wanted something she hated.

This is why chastity has worked wonders for us. She keeps me locked up during sex, and she loves it. Learning to adjust to sex without erections or orgasms was tricky at first for me, but I loved the changes in my wife so much that I pressed on nonetheless. I had times when I desperately wanted an erection and orgasm, and she'd cave in and let me. Then everything would suck for a month or two, and we'd get back to keeping me locked.

After a couple of recent wonderful lovemaking sessions with me locked, we both decided that we need to just commit to permanent chastity for me. Once I'm out of my cage, I crave intercourse so bad I'll manipulate her in any way to get it. So, from now on, the cage stays on. No more orgasms or erections for me, but we have a consistent happy sex life now.

[VinnyDee]

We started chastity for the same reasons as you. My wife discovered that she loves teasing and denying me. She does not want me wearing the Jailbird during sex though. She loves to edge me over and over and when I start moaning she gets extremely turned on and either tells me to go down on her or she grabs a vibrator. She cums in a few seconds and says she is having the most intense orgsams in her life and she is 64. She just came into my man cave naked and ready for her shower. She loves to tease me every day. It has sparked her interest in sex again. Problem is that she does not want me to have an orgasm because then it takes another 2-3 weeks to get me to the point where she likes me to be. Our arrangement for year 4 is at least two orgasms a year, although I think she will give me more because she gets over excited at times and tries to get me to moan more and more and forgets to stop in time.

[Shepherdsflock]

We started chastity for the same reasons as you. My wife discovered that she loves teasing and denying me. She does not want me wearing the Jailbird during sex though. She loves to edge me over and over and when I start moaning she gets extremely turned on and either tells me to go down on her or she grabs a vibrator. She cums in a few seconds and says she is having the most intense orgsams in her life and she is 64. She just came into my man cave naked and ready for her shower. She loves to tease me every day. It has sparked her interest in sex again. Problem is that she does not want me to have an orgasm because then it takes another 2-3 weeks to get me to the point where she likes me to be. Our arrangement for year 4 is at least two orgasms a year, although I think she will give me more because she gets over excited at times and tries to get me to moan more and more and forgets to stop in time.

I hope our sex life is as good as yours when we're in our 60s. We're in our mid-30s.

Keeping the cage on during sex probably isn't for everyone. But my wife enjoys teasing me more with it on. If I'm locked up and she plays with my balls and strokes my perineum, she can get me moaning and dripping pretty bad. And, just like your wife, she loves getting me to that point (and I like it, too!). The cage is also for a practical purpose. I just can't make love uncaged and NOT put my penis in her vagina. So, we keep the cage on me. And I wear it 24/7 to keep masturbation temptation under control. She doesn't MAKE me wear it, nothing is forced. It's all voluntary and mutually agreed to.

[newbie]

My wife only ever wanted PIV sex, very vanilla PIV sex, and I wasn't always able to give her what she needed probably due to masturbation and looking at porn. I gave up those habits and started my chastity journey.

Now the only kind of sex we have is me going down on her or masturbating her and she seems to be having the best orgasms ever. She never asks for PIV sex anymore which was always been a point of contention between us and instead has started to understand that I don't need her to reciprocate. I think she was only agreeing to sex before to get me off so I would stop pestering her, but now it's much more relaxed and much more frequent. We're still working on her guilty feelings out of concern that I'm not enjoying it, so we are working thru that, but she is definitely having much more enjoyment in bed. What a difference.

[Alini]

Our story is similar. I would watch porn on my laptop as she watched tv. I wouldn't be masterbating but she didn't like how I would be turned on all the time. All the while she had lost a lot of interest in sex. We used to have sex every night as we went to bed. Then it turned into a once a week thing.

Now she has orgasms all the time and I enjoy seeing her in control of something in our relationship.

[Yorkyontour]

I'm in the same position, without my cage my wife is hardly interested.

However with it, she is someone else completely.

She was very vanilla when we met, now caged she caters to almost all of my fetishes.

[groundedBird]

Our story is similar. I would watch porn on my laptop as she watched tv. I wouldn't be masterbating but she didn't like how I would be turned on all the time. All the while she had lost a lot of interest in sex. We used to have sex every night as we went to bed. Then it turned into a once a week thing.

Now she has orgasms all the time and I enjoy seeing her in control of something in our relationship.

Do you still watch porn? How does she feel about now that you are caged?

[Alini]

I do but not as much a lot more of my focus is on her