Thanks. Sorry you haven't had any luck. I suppose on the bright side the fact that she knows you take the small black case with you and doesn't flip out about that is a positive.WifeIsVanilla wrote:Newbie -
I wish you better luck than I have had. It has been 4 years for me, and I have tried all of the advice offered on this forum. I have gradually and gently explained how and why it works for me on various levels and also how it could benefit her as well.
She thinks the entire concept is way too kinky and wants no part of it, letting me know in no uncertain terms that she never wants to see any of the devices . . . although she knows that the small black case that I do not try to hide and that goes with me when ever and where ever we travel, which is often, contains those devices.
Right now I'm going with the philosophy that as long as I don't expect her to participate and that I'm ready to have sex when she is and not have to take the time to take the device off (her biggest complaint last time) then I shouldn't have to conciously hide the fact that I'm wearing my HT from her. She knows I have it and wear it, and does see it from time to time both in the bathroom after I've cleaned it and on me in bed once or twice, so I've successfully crossed that bridge.
My biggest problem is that I tend to move too fast and push her involvement, expecting her to play along when she really has no interest. I'm finally realizing that and am "curbing my enthusiasm" accordingly. At some point she might end up with a more "whatever" indifferent attitude. That's what I'm shooting for now.