I haven't read all the replies here, though there has been a lot of wisdom and experience, and warnings, shared on this topic here over the years... so I definitely suggest you read through it all. As you mention where you're already at, I'm assuming you have talked to her a bit about it all already, and while you want more, she is "afraid to be mean" at this point.Lockedwithlove wrote:I'm really trying to let my KH know how badly I want her to order me around. She is afraid of being mean to me...
Well my hard learned suggestions:
1) Understand your fantasies might not be her fantasies
2) Be patient and loving
3) Communicate clearly and honestly and thoughtfully with her about your interests, while working especially to hear her interests
4) Be patient and loving
5) Start doing things that you think she might appreciate without being instructed
6) Be patient and loving
7) Communicate about how you're enjoying doing those things. And try to explain that for you, her instructions or directions for you isn't "mean" but is thoughtful, encouraging, loving.
8) Be patient and loving
9) Encourage her to reach out to others, wherever she is comfortable. Some women like meeting others like minded people online in anonymous places, others prefer face to face groups with things like ClubFEM or munches, and others like books or websites about the topics. Do not pressure, but simply put the possibilities before her.
10) Be patient and loving
Hope that helps...