Punished for coming!

[braddogg4345]

My wife unlocked me the other day to use me for sex. She got on top of me and started screwing my brains out! She cums very quick and I can usually hold out until she is done. This time though, right after she came, I was beyond the point of no return. She got off of me in time that I did not have an orgasm, but I did cum. After feeding me what little cum did come out, she forced me to sleep on the floor for the night! But she was nice enough to let me use a pillow and blanket. It sucked, but at the same time, it was amazing!

[TwistedMister]

Well, it sounds like she is enjoying the power and control, and is somewhat ahead of the 'vanilla' you indicated in your other post (regarding S&M)- feeding you your own semen and having you sleep on the floor are not exactly what *I* would call 'vanilla' anyway, rather, I would say they are definitely steps into FemDom territory.

That's a good sign, if that's the way you want things to go. I would still advise patience, though, let her advance at a rate that is comfortable to/for her. There are some who would take a positive indicator like this as a sign that they should 'put the pedal to the metal' and charge full-speed ahead, and unload all of their hopes/dreams/fantasies onto the lady, which could easily cause a reversal. I see it as more like fishing, she has nibbled at the bait and run the line out a little, now it's just a matter of setting the hook and letting her run. Give her a little positive feedback, let her know that you think it was 'hot' that she did those things and that you would not mind seeing more of that from her...but don't lay it on thick, just mention it and let it go. (Honey, that was really 'hot' when you ___________ and it really turned me on.) Let her know that you love her and appreciate her, but in general, be careful not to imply that it is because she did those things (you might want to wait a little while, so that it is not related just to those actions) because that automatically induces the thought that you might *not* love her if she *didn't* do those things (it may not be true, but that's just the way some minds work).

Although I used the 'fishing' metaphor, which some folks might see negatively, it is not meant that way. The idea is not that you are going to 'catch' and 'land' her, rather, she is going to drag you into the water. It is not a matter of *you* controlling *her*, merely introducing her to the aspect of *her* being in control and enjoying it, and letting her know that you enjoy it too.

I'm curious...how did she get the idea to do these things? Was it a 'suggestion' from you? Did she learn about it somewhere else (book, internet, etc.)? Or did she come up with these ideas on her own? I'm asking because the answer may give important clues as to the state of her mind and interest level.

ETA:
If this is to continue [into the realm of BDSM/S&M], and if you have not already done so, at some point you will need to discuss 'Limits' and 'Safewords'. Unless you have a taste for risk such as mine, you are going to want to make sure that you don't find yourself in a situation that you sincerely wish to escape from/end but have no option to do so.

[braddogg4345]

I'm not sure where she got the idea to have me sleep on the floor. She is reading some kind of beginners guide to male chastity that we ordered on Amazon. Im not sure what the name of it is though. I assumed she got the idea from the book though. I have also mentioned to her in the past not to be nice to me. Not to hesitate when ordering me to do housework around the house or anything of that nature. Maybe that is why she had no hard feelings making me sleep on the floor...lol.

[nebman]

Love your avatar braddogg. Your wife?

[TwistedMister]

I'm not sure where she got the idea to have me sleep on the floor. She is reading some kind of beginners guide to male chastity that we ordered on Amazon. Im not sure what the name of it is though. I assumed she got the idea from the book though.

That could very well be. I haven't read any of the several 'guides' that are available, but it sounds likely. That is a sign on the plus side- she is taking advantage of a resource and trying some things out. Positive feedback will probably be beneficial, to increase her enjoyment through knowing that you 'like' what she is doing, and giving her the confidence to try other things.

I have also mentioned to her in the past not to be nice to me. Not to hesitate when ordering me to do housework around the house or anything of that nature. Maybe that is why she had no hard feelings making me sleep on the floor...lol.

LOL, I don't go for the whole housework/domestic servitude thing, but, whatever floats your boat. Mrs. Twisted has sometimes had difficulty resolving issues of how things that she may consider cruel or unkind or painful to her can be desirable elements to me. I think that 'hurting' the one you love does not come naturally or easily to most women, so the positive reinforcement is helpful. Mrs. Twisted flipped out and nearly put a complete stop to the whole thing when, one night when she had me super turned-on the CB3k cage split and gave me a nasty, bloody cut after my erection subsided and skin got pinched between the two halves. She was blaming herself and freaking at the thought that she had really hurt me and done real damage. It took a while to talk her down and convince her that it was an accident over which she had no control and that, in spite of the pain I actually 'enjoyed' the experience (Not the cut and the blood, just the general, overall scene) and that I didn't blame her in the least.

(Edited to correct a typo- wrong homonym...I've been reading way too much of the poor grammar and spelling on the internet, and I think it's starting to rub off. CRAP! I did it AGAIN, in the edit, with the third variation of the same homonym!)

[VinnyDee]

We do not do intercourse during my chastity periods. My wife has osteoporosis so it is a little painful for her unless we do it so gently that it is no fun at all. In fact, I have been trying a numbing cream to prevent from cumming too easily when my wife is edging me. It works pretty good but it is expensive compared to the ones they sell cheaply and do not work well. My wife would be fine never touching my penis if I did not make that part of our chastity agreement. When they do not need you for intercourse, they don't need your penis anymore.

[McAndrew]

Yes, I get punished if I cum without permission, or don't when I'm told to.

Somewhere in a post long ago I mentioned that having seen it in a porn movie, my wife liked the idea that I should only cum when told to. So after years of practice, I can pace myself very well. She can orgasm multiple times and I just enjoy the sensations that brings, until I'm sometimes instructed to cum.

However much though my wife enjoys this, she also feels that I shouldn't be totally able to resist her and there is one thing that I can't resist. If she insists on a position where I'm behind her, I'm going to be punished. It must just be how it rubs.

She might just as well say, you are going to be punished.

[Tom Allen]

Now that we have added some element of "dommestic discipline" to our relationship, Mrs. Edge has been threatening me with the crop if I come without permission. Thing is, she's gotten it into her head that this would be pretty exciting (for her), and I suspect that she's going to push me over the edge one day soon, just to have an excuse to try it.

And yes, I've already explained to her that doing anything immediately after an orgasm is going to be much more painful... which just seemed to make her more interested in trying it out.

[McAndrew]

Now that we have added some element of "dommestic discipline" to our relationship, Mrs. And yes, I've already explained to her that doing anything immediately after an orgasm is going to be much more painful... which just seemed to make her more interested in trying it out.

Normally with us it's the opposite. I having been found guilty, I have to wait for sentence and then punishment.

By thinking along the lines of making the punishment fit the crime, there can be quite a bit of variety.

[knighterrant]

I am punished if I cum without permission. I usually receive a spanking with a paddle. Last weekend I lost control, pulled out of PIV and had a ruined orgasm after explicitly being told not to cum. I asked her if I could maybe have "get a pass" on that one. She laughed and said "hell no, and the spanking is going be be worse for even asking." In actuality it hasn't resulted in a super severe spanking. There are other things that she considers a far greater violation.