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by Steve2059 » Thu Oct 10, 2019 5:39 pm
I've just re-read Tom's original post here and want to perhaps bring it back a bit to its original message - with respect to everyone.
Tom says back in 2015 that he set up the site for those of us who had the chastity kink but who were basically otherwise vanilla without the bdsm "baggage" of more extreme sites.
So I'm wondering now - am I kinky or am I vanilla?
I certainly used to be very vanilla - or perhaps I'm confusing vanilla with, if not boring (I did enjoy it), predictable. Sex happened between my penis and my wife's vagina once a week at the same time (along with other enjoyable stuff tbf). I always came, she always came, we always drifted off to sleep afterwards after I came. For many years.
Over the last two or three years I changed. A point where more years are behind one than in front, still have a libido, time to be upfront about long-repressed feelings or else put them away forever.
So in my late '50s I come out to my wife with a load of stuff I'd like to do - or more accurately, have done to me. She has a very hard time, we work on it over time and she learns to firstly put up with me then later, enjoy me and the powerful place in which she finds herself.
But back to the original question - am I basically vanilla or am I officially kinky?
I obviously spend significant periods with my cock locked up or I wouldn't even be here. I also use chastity to empower a number of other predilections, chiefly love of hosiery, lingerie, anal play and body shaving - and the scary possibility of being caught out at some point.
My lovely wife is definitely vanilla - she's learned to like what I and we do, and both our sex life and our communications has improved immeasurably.
But I'm struck that our friends have no idea that we do what we do, or that I'm locked in a 2" cage, wearing frilly thongs and perhaps tights (that's it: I'm not looking to move on to sissyfication). Equally. I'm struck that I assume none of my friends do anything other than weekly missionary.
What is vanilla? I'm not boshed on wearing pony harnesses and carting people around in hooves, nor do I want my body modified (other than hairless from the hips down) or to find myself in serious pain. All I want is to be sexually submissive (which lots of folks naturally are but which I have to work to achieve), not orgasm ever, though with a lively sex life, and spend prolonged periods with my cock locked up in a very short tube.
Am I normal? Am I vanilla? Am I kinky?
Is anyone truly vanilla?
Am I being too deep?
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