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johnsub
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Hi Guys

new topic, I / we are confused.

Playing with chastity the last 12 months on and off normal sex seems to become a problem.
We have been very active, swingers and wild party's.

As a new came chastity came up, but on and off, about 2 or 3 days a week.
The days free while she is at work and i am free I have all the fun I want with online porn.

The last two months getting aroused has become a problem, online porn or my hot wife mistress nothing does it.

Cant really pinpoint the problem, my wife is hot, dominant, loves face sitting, and nobody else turns me on.

But suddenly it stopt working as normal, watched the video below in link that might be the problem.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wSF82Aw ... e=youtu.be

Anybody else have this experience ??

At the moment my question what is the best 24/7 no porn, or go back to the way we where full freedom.
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Porn and masturbation are sex killers. Get rid of them both.
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Agreed, masturbation and porn killed off my erections, since being in chastity 24/7 with only release for PIV or the odd tease, erections have come back big time and rock hard, also the zero desire for porn. I send my KH a daily email with some text I write to her plus a image from a Femdom site, but thats about the limit of "porn" I get into and it has worked wonders cutting porn and masturbation out of my life to a large extent...
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I showed my KH the video on youtube and we discussed the problem.

Me watching porn has never been a problem to her. ( or for me LOL )

But as I now have a problem the last 3 months, and it does seem possible that porn is the problem.
Porn is now of limits, and i will adhere and share the results here.

It makes sense that when i watch porn i can switch between 100 types of scenarios as I please.
And 100 different types of men and woman, my wife cant compete with that.
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Hey John,

I am glad you found that video. It was an eye opener for me too. Thankfully I stopped before having any problems getting an erection. I was only able to stop Porn/Masturbation because of Material like the Ted Talk you posted here. Once I realized there was an impact on my health and mental state it was easy to stop. Much happier now. Good luck for your journey.
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Internet porn is dangerous stuff. My ED problems started at around age 30. Thought they were due to a medical issue, but it was excessive internet porn use. When I would have chances for real sex with a woman, I couldn't rise to the occasion or I would last less than a minute. I had a girlfriend leave me because I couldn't satisfy her, she said I was "broken" down there. Ever since my current girlfriend put me in chastity several months ago, I have been getting strong erections and lasting longer during PIV sex. Now I'm 42 and while I am not 100% when it comes to sexual performance, I am much better off than before chastity.
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poptart1200 wrote:while I am not 100% when it comes to sexual performance, I am much better off than before chastity.
Just what exactly is 100% performance? Are you comparing to porn where the guys loaded with viagra can pump for hours? I don't know what 100% performance is. Never looked at it like that. I have always looked at pleasing my wife in bed in any manner as performing well.

Porn tends to distort sex. Sets goals that the average person could never accomplish. It doesn't depict sex in an intimate manner between 2 people like in real life.

Although I appreciate seeing a picture or two of a naked women every once and a while, it's not something that I do often, although I do take a quick glance every now and then at the women on Tom Allen's fine blog. I prefer and think women look far sexier with clothes on whether it"s a sexy outfit, lingerie or swimsuits etc. Women are far sexier with their clothes on than with them off. It allows your imagination to run wild instead of seeing everything up front which can eventually make the mind go numb to arousal.
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grubber wrote:
poptart1200 wrote:while I am not 100% when it comes to sexual performance, I am much better off than before chastity.
Just what exactly is 100% performance? Are you comparing to porn where the guys loaded with viagra can pump for hours? I don't know what 100% performance is. Never looked at it like that. I have always looked at pleasing my wife in bed in any manner as performing well.
Absolutely not. :roll: 100% for me is getting an erection every time my g/f wants PIV sex. Before chastity, there were times that I would need help from her before I was hard enough to penetrate. Thanks to chastity and not looking at porn anymore, I am able to get hard and stay hard on those rare occasions that I am allowed inside my g/f.
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I like my porn, locked or no. I've never had any difficulties getting erections, with or without it, unless my mind was consumed with worry/stress of mundane issues. Worry and stress, particularly in cases where one feels unable to control or resolve the issue, can be a major killer of libido.

The only time porn and masturbation caused problems for us was when we were working many hours on odd schedules, and it was easier to simply take care of urges when they arose (pun intended). Then, there would be occasions when we would find ourselves with time together, but having already satisfied the urge I would not be 'in the mood'. She might make an advance, and I would become angry- primarily at myself but she had no way of knowing that, she would think I was angry with her, and that would create problems. 'Chastity' helps to solve that issue, and porn actually tends to enhance the effect.
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Post by Edgewood »

The video was interesting. I've come across that guy's site before but I never knew his thinking has as much validation as it does.

I guess my question now is, is a healthy imagination dangerous as well? I mean the tape that we can play in our heads can be extremely powerful and if it's chuck full of interesting and fun stuff then that too seems like it could adversely affect things in the bedroom.

I'm sold on the thinking though. January will be no surfing for me. Excited to see if my focus and concentration increase significantly.
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