At first, Mrs. Twisted did not want to do anything that might cause pain, she was adamant about not wanting to 'hurt' me. Then she discovered that she enjoyed cock-slapping, and it made her 'wet'. Some time after that, she discovered that slapping my balls could produce a significant reaction without much effort, and could be done without removing the cage. To her, the lack of effort required meant that she wasn't really 'hurting' me, though in fact, the pain can be significant.
In my mind, there are two types of 'punishment', the 'fantasy' type done for purposes of amusement, titillation, and erotic effect (for him or her, or both), and the type which is administered with the intent of changing behavior by means of negative reinforcement.nervous newb wrote:Sure, it won't be the fantasy punishment I thought I wanted when she first took the key to my cage, but it'll be a part of submitting to her and learning how to make her happy to avoid regular punishment like that.
If the goal is to induce a change in behavior, then the punishment must be of such a nature and severity that the subject will want to avoid repeating the experience, and will modify his (or her) behavior in order to avoid repeating the experience.
Both types of 'punishment' can enhance the experience, depending on the goals and desires of the partners. While complete and total domination in all aspects isn't *my* thing, if that's what *you* are looking for, it looks like you might be getting it.