The talk about Divorce

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cycling2work
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The talk about Divorce

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When my wife and I decided to try to live with each other 7 years ago we made some huge changes. I moved 7292 miles / 11735.34 km just to be with her. (not her home country either) To say she was special for me might be an understatement. We managed to create 2 amazing kids and buy and redo an amazing house in Chile's capital.

I felt that over the years our love changed and there was no longer any sexual desire, however I was under the impression the marriage would last.

Yesterday I had an intimate conversation with my wife in which she opened up to me that she already saw a divorce coming :cry: and was pretty convinced that this is just the path that our marriage will take. I was shocked and surprised and asked her if she was already planning it or had spoken to lawyers and she told me no, she was just resigned and did not know how to relive our marriage and she was trying to save it before going down that road. She told me that I humiliated her in front of strangers and our friends so many times that she did not want to live like that anymore and have our children growing up to see us fighting all the time. Yes, I was grumpy ALL the time and yes we were fighting a lot but I did not see it that extreme.

Why bother to write this in to a forum related to Male Chastity. Because fast forward to today, 45 days after I stopped masturbating. We regained the sparkle, we touch each other all day, we LOVE each other, we have fun and we are extremely happy. All the "over Masturbators" that accidently come across this forum should read how life changing it can be to simple let your testosterone levels go back to a normal level. I am so excited right now, happy, full of energy and I will share more in my journal today. If you have similar stories I am sure it would be great for newbies to read here. So long, Cycling2Work

If you are were I was 46 days ago make the change in your life. You don't NEED a device for it. As soon as you realize how damaging the PMO (porn masturbation Orgasm) combination is you CAN stop.
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You don't NEED a device for it. As soon as you realize how damaging the PMO (porn masturbation Orgasm) combination is you CAN stop.
I want to expand on this a little bit. I was long in denial and I also read articles that mentioned there was no such thing as a PMO addiction. So I felt safe, did not know that my miserable mood was caused by it and went on with my bad habits. When I then first came across the NoFap Reddit site I was probably not ready and wanted to stop but did not want it enough. If you really want it you can do it. And you will really want it once you fully realize just how bad the PMO is for you. I AM using a device (HT small with 50mm ring) and it helps me but I got it after I was in my fourth week of abstinence.
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Thanks for the info

You are right that is exactly the problem we are resolving right now.

We are married 15 years, and for the first time in that period she worked the last 6 months, while I was home.

Guess what me watching porn daily has effected my erection and sex drive.
As we have read several posts and where busy with chastity.

Porn is now off limits, and if she is not home i am locked up.
This is only since a few days, but we are both hoping for the same results you had.

The sparkle back in our sex life.

This is the only site i am still allowed to visit.
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Porn is now off limits, and if she is not home i am locked up.
This is only since a few days, but we are both hoping for the same results you had.

The sparkle back in our sex life.

This is the only site i am still allowed to visit.
Thanks for sharing. For me it did wonders so I will expect it to work for you too. Good luck with your journey and looking forward to read about it. So long...
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Same with me... Since I literally cut porn out (mainly due to absolute loss of interest in porn since being locked up 24/7), and zero masturbation, AND strict orgasm control, did wonders for us too. I was amazed how destructive masturbation and uncontrolled orgasms where... Where was chastity 10 years ago? Both of us love the effects of chastity on our marriage and on myself. The extra energy, absolute desire to please my wife and KH all the time, an truthfully I don't even miss having the "secret" masturbated orgasms, since she has taken control things are so much better... And loving it
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