Hello 'Jonno' and hello '2ndplace' - thanks for your messages. I'm presently on "Honour System" myself as after a week locked since my last permitted orgasm (conducted as ever by my gloved KH) we currently have relatives staying for a few days and prefer to be discreet. I'm lokingforward being locked up again earey next week!
I can relate to the heavy lifting issue - I find it best to request short-term removal if I know I'm going to doing anything much more than sitting at a desk, driving the car or moderate walking - it slipped off and made its way down my trouser leg while I was mowing the lawn the other day and has also done so once in a supermarket!
Got away with it both times though
I've heard of the Queens Keep and am currently considering adding a Holy Trainer to our inventory! Custom made probably is the way to go for me too though in the long-run as I'm sure it would suit my "geometry" better.
Interested in your remark, 2ndplace, about getting it discussed early on - it is very, very difficult to climb over the baggage once a relationship is "bedded-in". In our case we started out as a D/s couple with interest in mild/moderate BDSM and such like, but even so, after four years I am often leery about bringing up new ideas - largely because my partner has a fairly 'black/white' idea of what is Dom and what is sub and while I wouldn't call myself a switch there are many things I'd like that I think she feels aren't terribly Dom!
Strap-on play is a case in point, that's something I'd like to at least have try - I had some limited top and bottom experience with guys, and loved it. She's just starting some (gloved - mmm) anal finger play while she edges and "empties" me, when orgasm time comes round, but quite often I find that if someone says no, they then get more entrenched if you try to pursue it further and it saps the confidence to ask further or to suggest for other things as well - it is tough enough to surmount that in the early stages, but the longer time goes on, the more tricky it gets.
That said, I'm also very lucky, my KH is a wonderful lady. She is very imaginative, very open-minded really, and I know she wants to get kinky and 'dirty' herself, but is a tad, well, if not quite shy, no that's not it, probably also afraid of opprobrium and certainly in need of being led outside the box - I think if it is someone else's idea then that makes it easier for her somehow - and I'm sure that is true of most people, men and women.
The 'biggie' for us will be if and when she starts to want to 'play' with other guys (or women) again - that will be huge for us, very central to "who we are" as a couple, and certainly "core" sexuality from my point of view - once/if/when that happens then I suspect the flood gates will open
I think it is just a matter of time for us and very carefully seeing how far we can take it. So far I am delighted and, to be honest, more than a little (pleasantly) surprised at how she's taken to Chastity.