Extended Orgasm Denial

[Caged55]

Personally, I initially thought I would have a problem with extended orgasm denial, but I managed nearly 4 months without one, entering into permanent chastity, enforced by my KH, I ceded all rights and privildeges to her, afterall "SHE" is in control, and she decides when and where. I don't top from the bottom, she has taken over, and since then I simply accepted that orgasms will be at my KH pleasure, the desperation or need lessened. Sure I would love to orgasm when she teases me, but we agreed to HER rules, and she is delighted with the results.... therefore, extended works, even if my refractory period is short (approx. 1 day), she loves the control, and I love her having it!

[robtandhiswife]

Not been on the board for a while was pleasant to return

Extended can work. Many of us reach a plateau where there is less need to orgasm and i think the body learns to reduce the congestion on it's own as it were. We use to buy into the whole "need for milking thing" but i don't believe that applies to my anatomy.

Having said that though, i have been on testosterone blockers for 8 months and Estrogen for 3, so chemical help for chastity has arrived.

Before though i can absolutely confirm that my desire to orgasm/release was declining. We have not has intercourse for 5 yrs and i have not released since February and i am feeling really good. My wife and i are intimate fairly often, i love the cuddling etc i get afterward.

[LockedandLoved]

I have struggled with this very question for some time now.

For me orgasms tend to trigger the need to have more orgasms. The primary method for me to do that is with porn. So porn leads to more orgasms which leads to more porn which leads to.....you get the idea. Pretty soon there is no room for much attention for my gf and kh.

Orgasms for a male are overrated IMO. So many of us here on this board (and I suspect in the rest of the world as well) get the dreaded "drop" after orgasming. I cannot think of any good consequences from this drop. Only negative effects.

Permanent denial isn't so much a kink for me as its a way to improve my life

So I say deny him. Your relationship will be better for it.

[Tom Allen]

Orgasms for a male are overrated IMO. So many of us here on this board (and I suspect in the rest of the world as well) get the dreaded "drop" after orgasming. I cannot think of any good consequences from this drop. Only negative effects

You know, I really have to disagree here, if only to point out that many of us are different and can feel or believe differently about this.

Do I get a "drop" after an orgasm? Of course, it's a physiological item. Does it affect my life in any negative way? Not that I can see. Over the years, I've enjoyed erotica, but I can't ever remember letting it take precedence over having sex with a live, warm, woman. Masturbation, for me, never seemed to be some kind of addictive activity. Do I now go for long periods without an orgasm? Yes, but it has not led to my being a better husband - I was already inclined to be a pretty nice guy.

I'm not going to tell anyone that their own experiences were somehow wrong; I'm just presenting a responsible opposing viewpoint on this.

[LockedandLoved]

You know, I really have to disagree here, if only to point out that many of us are different and can feel or believe differently about this.

Do I get a "drop" after an orgasm? Of course, it's a physiological item. Does it affect my life in any negative way? Not that I can see. Over the years, I've enjoyed erotica, but I can't ever remember letting it take precedence over having sex with a live, warm, woman. Masturbation, for me, never seemed to be some kind of addictive activity. Do I now go for long periods without an orgasm? Yes, but it has not led to my being a better husband - I was already inclined to be a pretty nice guy.

I'm not going to tell anyone that their own experiences were somehow wrong; I'm just presenting a responsible opposing viewpoint on this.

Thanks Tom

As I said "many" get the drop and have negative consequences....not all.

Its kind of like drinking alcohol. One drink will probably have little to no effect...two drinks...maybe a little buzz. 5 drinks maybe a bit drunk...and so on. Now after the effects have worn off most of us are NOT going to turn into alcoholics but the trouble is some of us will and there is no real no way to know at what point that will happen. If you get drunk once a year, chances are you have no problem with alcohol. If you get drunk every night, chances are you are an alcoholic. Its a slippery slope.

Orgasms can be very similar. The pleasure pathways in our brain get flooded with chemicals when we have an orgasm. Our brain seeks to get that "reward" over and over. In an addicts brain, it can seek that dopamine hit at the expense of other important things in our lives. Again, not every man who has an orgasm will become a sex addict but every sex addict is on some level addicted to the feelings that come with orgasm and the brain chemistry it changes.

I don't want to derail this thread but I bring all this up to show that orgasms can have a dark side that sneaks up on you and takes over. Its an awful thing to be addicted to because your drug is your body and its always with you. I wish it on no one.

[Tom Allen]

I don't want to derail this thread but I bring all this up to show that orgasms can have a dark side that sneaks up on you and takes over. Its an awful thing to be addicted to because your drug is your body and its always with you. I wish it on no one.

And again, I'm not here to tell anyone that they were wrong - just that to state unequivocally that masturbation and/or male orgasms are the Devil's work is a bit of a stretch.

And for that matter, I can have one or two drinks, and leave it at that. I can have a cigarette or two and not crave any more. Although don't ask me about that pint of Ben & Jerry's...

[LockedandLoved]

And again, I'm not here to tell anyone that they were wrong - just that to state unequivocally that masturbation and/or male orgasms are the Devil's work is a bit of a stretch.

And for that matter, I can have one or two drinks, and leave it at that. I can have a cigarette or two and not crave any more. Although don't ask me about that pint of Ben & Jerry's...

Agreed. I didn't mean to imply they are the "Devils work" but they certainly can have serious consequences as many things do that are done to excess.

Ben and Jerry's? Totally agree. They MAY BE the Devil's minions.

[Julie Morgan]

This is a fantastic thread, I am so intouch with this. My husband has not had a proper orgasam in well over a year. I give him a ruined one probabily twice a week and milk his prostrate a couple of times a month. He says I am in total control, and thats just how I like it.

[wmpwiwlw]

personally I want long term denial. Unfortunately with device problems and my wife not really being interested it has not happened. I'm just hoping with time she will come around. there are some of us who actually want this, not really sure why, but it seems to make me a better person all around. It makes me a better husband too! As someone said before in this thread, one orgasm for me leads to wanting more, like an addiction I cant stop it. So I have found its just better to not have the choice, or at least leave it in her hands.

[carolina cyclist]

I just went 43 days without an orgasm...the longest I have ever gone since I discovered masturbation as a kid. Yes, it was frustrating but the orgasm at the end was exhilarating. My orgasms are now MrsL's to give or deny as she sees fit whether it is one day, one week, one month, or (insert a time here)!