Why Chastity?

[sherulestherooster]

I've written about our first time stumbling on to male orgasm denial before viewtopic.php?f=2&t=59465&p=89576#p89576. That remains one of the hottest sex experiences we've had.

During our heavy child-rearing years, our sex life plummeted. She was constantly tired and "not in the mood" and I got increasingly frustrated. I was never much of a message board person, but I came across a few boards about male orgasm denial and cuckolding. At the time I was being denied sex but in a very un-erotic way. I was surprised how much that turned me on, sort of eroticizing that which was a major source of frustration. As I was often horny as hell while my wife was passed out, I just read more and more about it and "came out" to her about my kinky desires. I'm very happy that she accepted them.

There is certainly a submission side of this for me. Another motivation is that I always felt like I was having to coerce my wife into having sex with me. It wasn't something she necessarily wanted (she has a low libido), but would "cave in" just to stop my pestering. I think her not feeling "obligated" and sex being primarily about pleasing her has totally squashed that idea now.

It took my wife a while to wrap her head around that not getting off was very arousing for me. We've since ventured into other kinks and my very vanilla wife has surprised the heck out of me in some of the things she's done.

Another, more bottom-line explanation is that I've always known I'm a kinky person, and I'm the type of guy that likes to explore...

[tj246]

I've been married for 30 years this year. Always frustrated with the quantity of sex in our marriage.I made up for it with a lot of masterbation and a rich fantasy life. Stumbled onto chastity late last year and thought it might be an answer for me. Funny, now I cum less and enjoy our sex life more. For me, I love having my wife in control of my cock and my orgasms. I've been able to be more honest with her about my submissive kinks. She was hesitant to try this "game" with me but has since warmed to the idea and things have really changed in the last few months. Don't know where we will be far into the future but I know it's something I want to do long term. I've got s MM jailbird on the build list and anxiously waiting.

same as for me after marry for so long sex was like dropping out of picture i was masturbating to much porn
our marriage falling apart did some research an hence lock in cb3000
pick up our marrige an never been better