erections when freed?

[inhercontrol]

So my wife and I are a bit new to this, and she's slowly warming up and enjoying the perks
However, she's worried about it "conditioning" me in detrimental ways. She doesn't think that I should wear a cage all the time as she's worried it could cause problems in functioning.
So a little about me. Ive got a very healthy libido. I go thru cycles like most guys, but never have problems performing. Twice recently, while being locked I was very aroused and really into pleasing her. I wasn't really even thinking about my pleasure, it was about her. Well, both times she had me unlock to give her what she wanted and suddenly I was nowhere near getting hard. I expected I'd have to hurry getting the ring off, but nope.
The second time really worried me (as this hasnt happened to me before) and it worried her. She said that I had been literally "forcefully turning it off for so long" that it was getting conditioned to not respond. Thankfully, we laid together for an hour and suddenly I was more than ready and we were both well satisfied, but it has concerned me. Neither of us are interested in loooong periods of lockup and total denial for me. We both enjoy, and she especially, having regular access and use of my cock. This, for us, is a tool to give her control and increase an already healthy intimacy. I would DEFINITELY like to continue, but we're both concerned about possible negative physical effects. Has anyone else had a similar experience?

Part of me thinks I was sooo into her pleasure (and I was!) that I just mentally wasnt in the space for it. Honestly, I really had really fallen into not caring about my pleasure to the point that I asked to do one of the things I love doing to her and thought it would be really hot while locked and when she said "no, just rub me" I was instantly compliant with no regrets. But, I am concerned she has a point. The other side of me thinks that after straining and being restrained my cock was kinda "tired" and being initially freed was an opportunity to rest as sometimes I do feel like the base of it, under my balls, gets alot of pressure... thoughts?

Any relevant experiences?

[Len51]

Your wife may be right. My wife wanted me to go for a year but after 3 months she is noticing that I have zero desire for sex anymore, rarely can get an erection and no longer react to her teasing like I used to do. She told me last night that she may let me cum on Valentine's Day because she does not like where this is heading. I have told her a few times that less than 2 months of chastity is ideal for me. Any more and I lose interest in sex and actually do nothing to excite myself during sex anymore. I feel like I am just a spectator to my wife's orgasms. So I think we will shelve the one year chastity plan, even though that is what my wife would prefer in an ideal world. Right now neither of us are enjoying chastity as much as we used to and pretty much just still doing it so that we have something special for Valentine's day.

I think that unless I take a full strength Viagra pill, my orgasm will be lousy. I will have it while soft and that is no fun. We are not young so I do not get teased daily and my wife does not walk around naked all day. She used to tease me for an hour and now it is more like 10 minutes. 5 before her orgasm and 5 after. The 5 after is only because I ask her to. She always tells me to lock up after she cums and I keep telling her that there is nothing in it for me at all. She got used to her vibrator for orgasms and no longer even wants me to touch her vagina with hands or mouth. So chastity is also affecting our sex life in a bad way. We need to go to a shorter term that is long enough for her to change it up a lot but short enough that I do not lose interest in sex and she does not get too used to orgasm without me.

[inhercontrol]

That seems like a quite different situation. This isnt after a long long time and my interest and our desire hasnt changed. Its just that twice, when I thought I would be racing out of the gate, instead lil buddy took a pit stop. This isnt a usual occurrence, so I was wondering if anyone else found a delay in their response after being unlocked.

[Happily caged]

I'm now separated from my wife for six months starting about 8 days ago. Though I am planning on visiting her in three months' time, I am locked at present at my request. Concerned about the impact of suppressing my erections regularly, I do slip my penis out of its cage on occasion to allow a free erection.

I'd even considered switching to the Camelot or some other device that does freely allows erections next year or the next.

[Michele]

I don't think the "dick not getting hard" thing is uncommon. It does happen and it happens here. Sometimes little man is raging hard the second he is out of the cage and others he's been straining all day that he just needs some time to relax once out. I do think the tissues do get tired down there... especially if your wife/kh is like me and teasing the hell out of you all day, everyday.

[inhercontrol]

I'm thinking it's the size/gap of the base ring stressing the base of my cock too much. I just got a ring the next size up in diameter and gap and I felt none of the stressing pressure under my balls, and after treating her for over hour my cock didnt feel tired and overworked, just REALLY horny.

Btw... she was very reluctant to this idea. In fact, she straight up refused at first thinking it was some weird repression issues thing. I explained where I was coming from and she was more open minded about it. I started off by just occasionally wearing it and finding myself overwhelmed with the urge to just make her happy and make her feel good. It led to her getting some long sensual massages and plenty of foreplay with no hurry to it. She at first would ask "why are you so sweet tonight?", and I would just lead her hand to my cage. The lights started coming on and she became a little more open to it. Well today at one point she said I needed to be nicer or she would lock me up, so I did so for her a little while later. Tonight, for the third night in a row I spent and hour or an hour and a half just making her melt. She said "its nice you're being nicer". I told her as I led her hand down, "well, I did as you advised". She just grabbed me and said "I think I could really get used to this!“.
I think we're off to a good start.

[crated51]

Another possibility is, depending on you age and other health issues, exposure to estrogen mimicking chemicals could be part of the problem. Just something else to research and consider. I'm of the opinion that MC may magnify both positive and negative health issues.

[inhercontrol]

that is definitely something to consider for some and if it was a few years ago I would be worried about it myself. I'm actually a vegetarian and a few years ago started notice I was having problems with my sex drive because of how much soy I was eating. I cut the intake way back and started going to the gym and that went away within a week! No problems since.

I really do think it was the ring size and gap causing mild straining all day. This new ring is much more comfortable.

[cycling2work]

Was not sure if i should digg up that old post or make a new thread - but here goes.

I am caged only in the day and am teased almost daily by my wife. I ALWAYS get an erection but noticed that it takes more now to get there then before chastity and it has me a little concerned too. In the past if she would have touched my balls or dick a little bit he would have been ready. Now while watching tele if she touches the balls and the dick he most probably will not stand up.

I know Tom and some of the others have reported they have no issues after long time wear and I am freed even at night but it still has us a tad concerned. Any other opinions appreciated.

[jgalt]

I really wouldn't stress about it (which would make it worse) and there is a good chance there is no issue at all. I've had this happen a good bit and I think @Lady M got it right. Your buddy is so exhausted after fighting the cage, once out, he just needs a rest. If you stopped wearing the cage for a week or so, all would be normal again. For me, this is the reality. Also, this is something I only dealt with from wearing ringed devices. Ringless devices (piercing required) doesn't restrict hard-ons, so you don't have any of the issues you are having when released.