That for me is the crux of the problem. I've been locked and left many times and grew tired of waiting for her to acknowledge me in even of the smallest/simplest of ways, even though I gave her plenty of suggestions for short, easy teases (some weren't even physical). Years ago somewhere in this forum I wrote chastity is not celibacy, it should be far from it. (This is probably not all that original. I'm sure others have expressed this same thing.)Len51 wrote:After a while you feel like a prisoner locked away with no one visiting you. Your wife should be made to understand that you need to have her acknowledge your chastity so you do not feel deserted and forgotten about.
So, the question I have to ask myself is, why is she not a willing participant?
The answer is it could be any number of things.
• She could be squicked out by the device.
• Or the practice of chastity.
• The period of time that I gave her to adjust might not have been long enough.
• I might have been too inconsistent. (Try for 3 weeks. Get frustrated. Let myself out for 3 months. Get excited by the idea again and ask her if she wants to try. Try for 3 weeks, Repeat.)
• Like your wife, mine is the loving, caring type and even the most vanilla dominance could be beyond her.
• She could be overwhelmed by the demands of chastity.
• Or overwhelmed by life's other demands.
• She could miss the point that this is a game not a lifestyle.
• She could be a submissive herself. (I could probably be a switch but if that happens she should understand that she's going to be giving me a tremendous amount of oral service.)
• She might not have the time or the imagination to understand that she can still have just about anything she wants sexually.
Certainly some of these are easier to overcome than others. Some might not be able to be overcome at all. Hopefully not all of these are a factor. I aim to find out which ones are the issue and I'll try my best to overcome them. Because for me the most obvious alternative to chastity is what we have now—which is nothing.