Frustration

[Barons]

I come to these forums fairly often and start a topic about whatever's on my mind, but never manage to come up with anything worth posting. I've always got so much going on in my head and I can't figure out how I feel about things or what I want do and I end up rambling on and on until I can't keep up with it all.

My wife wasn't much fun at all when I first started getting her to tease and deny me. We done the fantasy exchange thing and her's was to be dominated, mine was to get her to tease me dick for hours and not let me cum that often. Since then I've become pretty damn awesome at dominating her, but although she has made progress it's nothing compared to how much I've changed to show her the rewards for teasing me... =(

In short i'm doing everything i can think of to make her life easy, but she's not making me feel like i'm getting back what I put into it if that makes any sense. I really do everything I can think of to please her but i'm starting to lose hope that this is going to work out.

We've been doing Sunday sex days for the last few months and i was enjoying myself, despite the huge issue with how much time she spends with me. Enjoying myself, i've loved it so much even if I felt like i'm doing A - Y in exchange for Z.

This weekend is her b-day so I planned this romantic getaway and on the way up here she, for the first time she took some initiative with my chastity and started telling me what she wanted. I was so thrilled and happy I just wanted to hug her, but what she wanted has made me so sad. I've been thinking about it since yesterday and idk what to do. I'm sure most people here will prob think this is a dumb thing to be upset about but idk.

She wants the exact opposite of what I want. To keep me locked up constantly and only unlock me ever other Sunday sex day with one orgasm a month.

I know, it's everyone here's dream, but i'm so heart broken about it. I don't want to be locked up all the time.

Am i being stupid? I think i'm on some kind of emotional rush or something because the thought of her not wanting to touch me is really making me reconsider our whole relationship. I feel like only getting unlocked and teased 4 times a month is pretty extreme as it is now and she wants to cut my play time in half?

It's really confusing when your dominating someone who hasn't given you an orgasm in three weeks. I feel so needy now that the plan is for me to stay locked up for the next 8 solid days without any play time. I hate feeling desperate.


I think i'll actually post this one. Consider your shoulder cried on. Thanks =)

[coffee2sugars]

This can be a very emotional roller coaster of a ride at times.

I understand exactly how you feel. The chastity thing was originally my idea as a bit of fun but when my wife said to me once I may never let you out I freaked. I asked myself why I was doing this and more importantly why I enjoyed.

I was hard to live with as I was confused. 1 minute I was wanting to be locked up forever with no release and the next I was wondering who I was and why she would want to do this to me.

You need to communicate alot with her. Support each other's emotional needs and remember that the build up hormones can confuse what you really want from life.

Look up sub drop on google. It explained alot of what we went through and also helped us to shape our play time in way that worked for us.

I have a very patient and wonderful wife.

Remember chastity isn't a one size fits find what works for you both and support each other.

Good luck mate.

[Rocky]

Been there myself. For us, it was not as difficult to get into chastity. My wife has always loved to tease me for a long time before giving me an orgasm. She is very good at edging and she knows that the more she does it, the greater the orgasm. Stupid me started telling her about what I read online about chastity and that I wanted to get a CB6000s to try it. I got the CD and at first she would deny me for a few days. That turned into a week and now she wants to extend it to Valentine's Day and it has already been a week since my last orgasm. She says that it will make me look forward to our Valentine's date night much more rather than the boring ones we had before.

While it was not difficult transitioning from teasing to chastity, my idea was denying me for a few days at a time. She began to like the way I treated her when I was very horny, something she rarely experiences since I was having about 10 orgasms a week, with and without her. Since seeing the horny me do anything she asks, she has been talking about trying longer and longer denial periods and that is where we are now. I really did not want this to end up with long term chastity but my wife has other ideas. We have been in a wife led marriage for a very long time so she gets the final say over our sex lives so I am at her mercy.

I told her that I was more comfortable with having one or two orgasms a week because I get so horny that I cannot fall asleep easily and think about sex all the time. I did not consider that she would like to do this for longer than I wanted as I just thought that she was doing this to please me and was not really into it. She got into it more than I did.

[Barons]

This can be a very emotional roller coaster of a ride at times.

I understand exactly how you feel. The chastity thing was originally my idea as a bit of fun but when my wife said to me once I may never let you out I freaked. I asked myself why I was doing this and more importantly why I enjoyed.

I was hard to live with as I was confused. 1 minute I was wanting to be locked up forever with no release and the next I was wondering who I was and why she would want to do this to me.

You need to communicate alot with her. Support each other's emotional needs and remember that the build up hormones can confuse what you really want from life.

Look up sub drop on google. It explained alot of what we went through and also helped us to shape our play time in way that worked for us.

I have a very patient and wonderful wife.

Remember chastity isn't a one size fits find what works for you both and support each other.

Good luck mate.

You are a life saver! That's exactly what i'm going though. I didn't even know such a thing existed. Idk how she puts up with me. Like two days ago I was hinting at how she should skip or ruin my monthly orgasm every now and then. Today i can't stop crying about not getting as much play as I want.

Now I have some research to get my mind off things =)

[Michele]

The roller coaster sounds about normal... I hope you work it out! My hubby goes through the emotions too and we talk about them. Just follow your heart!

[LockedUp24]

For me today im REALLY feeling frustrated now. ive been locked up 100% of the day for 14 days with a few hours here and there out of soreness.
The soreness has be sorted with a Modification to my CB6000s and now im locked up at night now its full time,My KH would like to see me locked up for a month just to see if i could go that long but
my KH rarely Teases maybe twice a week for a few seconds...omg and would only release for Play if i was begging her.
so with that in mind I think a week to 10 days is the most i could take as then there is nothing to keep the interest going.
At the moment its still on a trial run.

[coffee2sugars]

I have to say my KH makes very good use of the time I am locked up by either making me assist in her orgasm or if I have annoyed her making me me watch.

She has at times text me to say she is playing with herself and how nice it is. What a shame I can't. So I guess I get plenty of teasing.

I am dreding the ice game as sleeping is hard enough without watching a glass of ice defrost to see if I have won my freedom.

I have plenty to keep me interested and I think that is important. I respect her right to roll over and go to sleep if she wants to but if I was to get no teasing at all I would loose interest fairly quickly and question what I am doing.

It has been said before though we all want different things out this and luckily this type of lifestyle is flexible enough to accommodate us all. Just communicate to her that you need a little more attention.

[Rocky]

That is basically my feelings. If I do not get teased often enough I feel that my wife just does not want to have sex and this is a convenient way of doing it without my complaining about it. My wife knows this so we set aside at least two nights a week for date night. I shower and shave beard and pubic hair right before I get into bed with her. I first have to set the mood in the bedroom. It is a whole production which increases excitement. I did as you suggested and told my wife that I needed more attention if she wanted me chaste for longer periods of time. I still do not know if I even want to go more than a week without an orgasm. I love orgasms and do not find longer term chastity to add anything to my enjoyment of them. The longest I went was 10 days and it was a great orgasm but my regular orgasms are pretty good too and I rather have several of them than one great one.

[poor]

It's a bit like trying to push start a car on a slope by yourself; it takes so much to get the thing moving in the first place, then it's quite easy and all of a sudden you realise that if you don't jump in NOW you'll be watching an accident.

That's where the OP is. It's a scary moment; but if you don't jump aboard you'll never know where this journey can take both of you.

[Locked4myowngood]

I love orgasms and do not find longer term chastity to add anything to my enjoyment of them. The longest I went was 10 days and it was a great orgasm but my regular orgasms are pretty good too and I rather have several of them than one great one.

My KH and I are working together to help me overcome my porn and masturbation addiction. Chastity is one of the main tools

I recently went 30 days without masturbating or orgasming.

My beautiful KH/gf decided she wanted to give me an orgasm as a reward. I chose to have her do it with her hand.

I cannot describe to you the feeling I had. It was an orgasm but it was all over my body all at once, not centered in my groin. I literally thought nothing and just had FEELING all over. I lost track of where I was and what was happening. It was truly the most amazing experience I have ever had.

I told her I wasn't even sure I ever wanted to do that again as it was kind of scary really. Still it was worth it.

My point is if you time it just right then a long overdue orgasm can be amazing and transformative. For me it was 30 days. For you it might be different.

Good luck on your journey