mistress jules wrote:As a newly found dominant and keyholder... I am looking for what may seem a pretty vanilla relationship to outside eyes but with the flr on the inside. I hope that I make some sort of sense lol, it seems way more difficult to say here than it does in my head. I just felt I had to post as the "assumptions" had been irking me recently.
I completely agree and this is the way our relationship is. I'm not into sissy stuff or feminization or anything like that... I am a woman and I love my hubby for the man that he is. Just because he is submissive doesn't make him less of a man.
Ladies, it is obvious neither of you are alone in your puruits, and its nice to see your desires and goals re-affirming each other here in this thread.
mcn wrote:Aarkey, we can't control what others think and it's not our job anyway. I don't care what others think, and I'm reaching a point where I don't care anymore even what I think! LOL
Agreed, its not something I can cause to change, nor is it my job. We can however inform people and help to educate them. And as the misconceptions are so common, I think that sometimes it is a worthwhile effot.
tcs wrote:I love chastity and orgasm denial, but suspect a great many people would find it tedious, even those that don't associate with cuckolding, sissy, bi, or other "unmanly" activities. And that's a point that I ponder, why are all the "manly" chaste men so sensitive about cuckolding, sissy and bi activities?
I can't speak to why other men are so sensitive to it. I'm sensitive to it for a few reasons, most importantly is that I find it prejudiced that so many people try to label and pigeon hole me in a place where I don't fit. I don't have any issue with sissies or bi-men, or cuckolds, etc. In fact, I have many friends who fit those interests and groups. Its just not me, and I would prefer if people didn't automatically assume because of A, B is automatically the case.