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Are any couples here open with others about lifestyle?

Posted: Mon Jul 08, 2013 9:23 pm
by bottombitch91
when I say 'open', i dont mean cuclold/open marriage

I mean is anyone here tell their friends or family about the chastity/femdom that they live?

I would never do it but i feel it would be so hot if everyone knew about me being a slave/chastity

wondering if anyone else lives like that

Re: Are any couples here open with others about lifestyle?

Posted: Tue Jul 09, 2013 2:37 am
by TwistedMister
Generally, no, although I do have some occasional thoughts of being [humiliatingly] exposed to a limited number of the wife's female friends (unlikely to happen).

Re: Are any couples here open with others about lifestyle?

Posted: Tue Jul 09, 2013 7:29 am
by Jedi
Our mutual best friend knows. But that is all.

Re: Are any couples here open with others about lifestyle?

Posted: Tue Jul 09, 2013 10:44 am
by wishful4
Short answer is, no we don't. However, I wish my spouse did have a non-judgmental BFF that she could confide in about this. I haven't been successful in getting her to join this forum. She is a very private person and not comfortable communicating with even someone anonymously about our relationship. Present company excluded, most of the stuff online about MC & D/s is garbage. I think this forum would be very helpful to her but I don't push. Hopefully, one day she will agree to give this forum a try. I am the eternal optimist.

Re: Are any couples here open with others about lifestyle?

Posted: Tue Jul 09, 2013 11:20 am
by Tom Allen
This might sound strange, but I dont' have *any* friends with whom I'd feel comfortable discussing this. Even Mrs. Edge's girlfriends seem to be a mostly vanilla and non-sexual lot. Yes, I could have it all wrong, but I don't think I do.

That said, I'm not sure if I'd feel comfortable discussing it in public anyway; although I'll concede that I might feel differently if I had some kink-aware friends.

Re: Are any couples here open with others about lifestyle?

Posted: Tue Jul 09, 2013 11:52 am
by WendyWicke
It is a strong fantasy for me, but I don't think it's one I will ever indulge in. For one thing, unlike most of my fantasies, I never imagine any actual, real persons when I daydream about it. They're always completely fictional characters. Any thought of a real person I know pretty much squelches the fantasy. The only time any fantasy like that had a real person for me was years ago, BC in fact (Before Chastity), when I seriously considered doing a couples session with a pro Domme in the idea that she would teach me how to top him. Well, I'm far past that now, I should probably be doing the teaching.

But the second reason is, well, it's damned dangerous to involve outsiders in your own intimacy. We have a wonderful marriage, I'd be very unhappy to create any instability in it.

Re: Are any couples here open with others about lifestyle?

Posted: Wed Jul 10, 2013 11:34 am
by Belle
I have a small group of friends that know, about 12. They are not friends that we see, except for one that is only once a year or so. They live all over the country, and a few live outside the US. I met a group of women in an online pregnancy forum several years ago, and some of us remain very close. They know, and were surprising open and curious about it. 4 of them ended up joining us in reviewing toys ;) Jnuts was a little nervous when he saw the one that we do see when we go on vacation, but it was no big deal to her and it was never mentioned. (She did ask me if he was wearing it, but that was all).

Telling our family? No way.

Re: Are any couples here open with others about lifestyle?

Posted: Wed Jul 10, 2013 12:28 pm
by Tom Allen
Belle wrote:I have a small group of friends that know, about 12.
Small group? That's probably *all* of my friends!

Re: Are any couples here open with others about lifestyle?

Posted: Wed Jul 10, 2013 12:37 pm
by Belle
Tom Allen wrote:
Belle wrote:I have a small group of friends that know, about 12.
Small group? That's probably *all* of my friends!

Actually that is all but 1 of my close friends. I didn't realize how many of my friends knew! None of his friends know though....and those are the ones we see.

Re: Are any couples here open with others about lifestyle?

Posted: Wed Jul 10, 2013 1:24 pm
by happyman1
One friend, but that's it.