Decrease in sex drive?

Living the real life under lock and key
Post Reply
User avatar
jnuts
Posts: 334
Joined: Thu Oct 14, 2010 8:01 pm
Contact:

Decrease in sex drive?

Post by jnuts » Thu Dec 23, 2010 9:58 pm

Anyone else have a decrease in sex drive while in chastity? Don't get me wrong, sometimes I'm on fire but I find myself a lt more indifferent than I used to. It's almost like my body knows I can't do anything about it so why bother. I have been out of the cage here and there for healing and I have had no desire to masturbate at all. I guess because I'm not allowed. Odd that the desire isn't there anymore though isn't it?
0 x
A vanilla couple finding their way in the male chastity lifestyle:
http://nuts4belle.wordpress.com
That same couple reviewing the hell out of sex toys:
http://nuts4toys.net

cb6000s
Posts: 216
Joined: Thu Oct 07, 2010 7:43 pm

Re: Decrease in sex drive?

Post by cb6000s » Thu Dec 23, 2010 10:21 pm

Doesn't work that way for me. Sure if she ignores me I lose interest but if she shows any interest all I'm vibrating like a plucked violin string.
0 x

Shane67
Posts: 117
Joined: Mon Oct 04, 2010 10:01 am
Location: New England, USA
Contact:

Re: Decrease in sex drive?

Post by Shane67 » Thu Dec 23, 2010 11:24 pm

I have noticed that my sex drive has gone down. It has been 9+ weeks of denial. Maybe I'm just syncing up with her? I can be browsing tumblr and have no physical reaction whatsoever down there behind the tube. It's sort of a weird detached feeling; I can appreciate that a photo is highly erotic, but it doesn't trigger a need to do anything about it. However, if she so much as mentions the device, I'm instantly hard. Same goes for any contact, no matter how brief. She's lying right next to me as I type this. I had strong erection just rubbing her back earlier, and I know if I turn around and snuggle up to her, I'll be hard again. But: even though my body is reacting, I still have little desire to do anything about it. I don't feel sexually dead or anything like that; that low level half aroused/half content feeling is still there. Can you feel aroused but yet have no desire to have sex? Apparently so.
0 x

User avatar
mikecb
Posts: 225
Joined: Mon Sep 27, 2010 5:58 am
Contact:

Re: Decrease in sex drive?

Post by mikecb » Fri Dec 24, 2010 9:09 am

Shane67 wrote:Can you feel aroused but yet have no desire to have sex? Apparently so.
I can, absolutely. This thought crossed my mind last night, as I was reading Tom's blog. Would you rather be slightly to moderately aroused all day without release, or have five minutes of intense arousal and orgasm? I'm definitely in the all-day camp.

mikecb
0 x
I want Chastity, not Celibacy

http://mikecbwearer.blogspot.com/

User avatar
Atone
Posts: 2509
Joined: Sat Sep 25, 2010 9:24 pm

Re: Decrease in sex drive?

Post by Atone » Fri Dec 24, 2010 10:04 am

Decrease? No. Changed drastically? Yes.

It is strange to browse tumblr and not have a physical reaction at all. At the same time there are certain images that cause an incredible reaction. Not an attempt to become erect but just this really deep desire / need to masturbate. To feel the sensation of touch on my cock. It is hard to describe but it is primarily a mental desire with just a touch of physical "twinge".

Recently I had the opportunity (privilege?) to perform oral on my wife. I didn't even become erect (or attempted at least because I was locked up of course) until right at the end when she had her orgasm. Even then it wasn't a particularly hard erection, I only noticed it as I moved around and it got in the way :) It was very powerful and exciting for me but a very different experience none the less.
Would you rather be slightly to moderately aroused all day without release, or have five minutes of intense arousal and orgasm?
If I had to choose I would take aroused all day without release. Oh, I did choose didn't I? There have been times in the past where we would go for long periods with both though. Those were also good times but just like the seasons the environment has changed. I loved that season. I love this season. Life is good!

-A
0 x
Celtic Queen wrote: Some stuff works for some people, other stuff doesn't and you just have to adapt the lifestyle to what works for you both.

poinciana
Posts: 50
Joined: Mon Nov 08, 2010 9:21 pm

Re: Decrease in sex drive?

Post by poinciana » Sat Dec 25, 2010 8:34 pm

No decrease here either.

I had never experienced such sustained periods of low-level arousal before being in chastity. I had never experienced such deep, intense desire for another person before, either. Especially now that my wife really knows what's going on, and enjoys being involved.

On the other hand, porn just doesn't cut it any more. I can't get excited by one star sex, when five star sex awaits.

So, for me, I would call it a transition, or a change in sex drive. But certainly no decrease.
0 x

User avatar
jnuts
Posts: 334
Joined: Thu Oct 14, 2010 8:01 pm
Contact:

Re: Decrease in sex drive?

Post by jnuts » Sat Dec 25, 2010 11:23 pm

Ive changed my mind. I just can't get aroused without Belle causing it.
0 x
A vanilla couple finding their way in the male chastity lifestyle:
http://nuts4belle.wordpress.com
That same couple reviewing the hell out of sex toys:
http://nuts4toys.net

User avatar
Celtic Queen
Posts: 245
Joined: Sun Oct 03, 2010 7:08 am
Location: Wales, UK

Re: Decrease in sex drive?

Post by Celtic Queen » Sun Dec 26, 2010 3:35 am

You chaste guys are now "on call" rather than "self service" is all :-D
0 x
"Only the man whose neck is bent may bear the oppressor's heel"
www.celticqueen.co.uk/blogs

User avatar
celticqueens_sub
Posts: 1234
Joined: Tue Nov 09, 2010 3:31 pm
Location: UK
Contact:

Re: Decrease in sex drive?

Post by celticqueens_sub » Sun Dec 26, 2010 7:46 am

mikecb wrote:
Shane67 wrote:Can you feel aroused but yet have no desire to have sex? Apparently so.
I can, absolutely. This thought crossed my mind last night, as I was reading Tom's blog. Would you rather be slightly to moderately aroused all day without release, or have five minutes of intense arousal and orgasm? I'm definitely in the all-day camp.

mikecb
I find I am more consistently and highly aroused all the time I am in my device and the level of sexual tension is high. I then need to do other things to divert that energy into useful and 'wife pleasing' activities, tidying up, doing the dinner etc, not just giving her orgasms (though that is the best bit!). That level of arousal is an amazing experience... and when CQ gives me an O... its indescribable..... The release is intensely emotional as well as literal! So no drop in sex drive for me at all.
0 x
Owned and loved by Celtic Queen. Her perception is my reality.

Http://www.celticqueen.co.uk

Checkout http://keyheld.blogspot.com/ for lots of good blogs with great advice

User avatar
danj
Posts: 667
Joined: Tue Dec 07, 2010 9:41 am
Location: USA
Contact:

Re: Decrease in sex drive?

Post by danj » Mon Dec 27, 2010 4:37 pm

No decrease in my desire mentally, but definitley less erections in the cock...like he knows full well that NOTHING is happening unless the wife is involved, so no point in getting (or attempting) to get hard. As I mentioned in another thread, this made me nervous at first...but found I'm not the only one on this.
0 x
-Dan

and yes, that IS my beautiful hotwife wearing the key to my cb-6000s!

Currently Own: CB-6000s, Steelworxx Steelheart, modified Steelworxx Looker 3, and DH Gate A271
Currently Wearing: Looker 3

https://devotedhubby.wordpress.com

Post Reply