Depression?

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Harry Haversackers
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Depression?

Post by Harry Haversackers » Mon Dec 20, 2010 12:57 pm

Like a lot of people, I suffer from clinical depression. Have for years, now. My body simply doesn't make the hormones necessary for me to be the upbeat person that I was way back when. It's serious enough that I have to medicate twice a day, but in doing so, I have only the occasional down day, or few days. I'm fortunate that, through several years of playing musical meds, I've found one that doesn't shut down my libido.

Prior to our now two month old venture into MC, sex, or masturbation, when I could summon up the enthusiasm, provided a bit of temporary relief on the bad days. I can definitely confirm that an orgasm releases feel-good hormones into the bloodstream.

I haven't noticed any significant changes in the way I feel, in terms of my mental health, during the short period of time that my wife has had control of my orgasms. Like most of you, we've found that we are happier and more intimate as a couple, but I'm concerned about the longer term, since chastity seems to affect one's emotional state (and possibly one's hormonal state) constantly.

Has anyone had any experience, bad or good, with depression and chastity? I'm wondering what I can look forward to.
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Re: Depression?

Post by cb6000s » Mon Dec 20, 2010 8:36 pm

As a fellow traveler I can't say I can offer much help. I am on Welbutrin 300 mg once a day, a fairly low dose, I haven't noticed that MC has had any real effect on my moods, I still get the depressive cycles, I sometimes wish I was a manic depressive as those manic stages must be wonderful to experience, On the other hand the whole MC experience has been worth it for me. So welcome and I hope you will stick around and tell us about your journey.
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Re: Depression?

Post by Harry Haversackers » Mon Dec 20, 2010 11:15 pm

Thanks, cb6000s,

I appreciate you response. How long have you been involved with MC?

I had the same thought some years ago, but after doing some reading about really severe cases of bipolar disorder, I thought, nah - glad to be dealing with depression only.

I'm sure I'll be posting again, and will keep you updated as to our progress and anything I see happening connected with depression.

I've gotta run now. I'm at the end of a 3 week orgasm free stretch and my wife just told me she wants to keep to her schedule. Yes!!!
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Re: Depression?

Post by Dev » Wed Dec 22, 2010 2:48 pm

I've always thought I've suffered from a bit of SAD (seasonal affective disorder) although it's never been officially diagnosed. A few weeks ago, I bought this light--partly on the suggestion of a psychiatrist friend who highly recommends it. It's one of those things--I am not convinced it is doing anything, but it's not hurting anything, either (ie, I don't feel worse). Overall, I feel cheerier than I usually do at this time of the year (I am not a big fan of the holiday season) so maybe it is helping. Or maybe it's my new and improved sex life...LOL. I am actually going to blog about this tomorrow.

http://www.amazon.com/Caribbean-Sun-Box ... 267&sr=8-1

You want to make sure to get the light that gives off white light, not blue.

The recommendation is to sit with it on, for 20-60 minutes, preferably in the morning. You are not supposed to sit and stare at it, rather, turn it on and do whatever you would normally do--read the paper, eat breakfast, etc. I turn it on while I'm doing morning email and catching up on blogs.

Just an FYI.

D
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Re: Depression?

Post by justplaying » Wed Dec 22, 2010 5:55 pm

Hi Dev;

My KH has this problem too. I bought her a light last year and it takes a few weeks before your body registers anything. It worked really well. She sits about 2 feet away from it while reading in the morning for 20 minutes. I wasn't convinced it would do anything, but she so hates the New England winter and this was worth a try. Now we are both convinced it has helped her out....Good luck!
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Re: Depression?

Post by Harry Haversackers » Fri Dec 24, 2010 8:08 pm

God, I wish it were only that easy. I don't see a lot of difference in the way I feel from season to season. I did some reading about light therapy, and overall, few respondents could say that it did anything for them.

I'm like you Dev, in that this is not my favorite time of year. We've build up certain expectations of Christmas over the years, and inevitably we're let down (unless you're very young, or a complete Christmas junkie). Add to that the stresses of shopping, dealing with huge crowds and preparing for guests, and I, for one, end up being in a blue funk until it's all over, and I can relax. It's only then that I can start to feel normal again.

I'd like to think that the changes that chastity is bringing to our lifestyle will have a positive effect on my mental health, but that remains to be seen. I have to say I'm a lot hornier, and we are interacting more intimately, and more often. That can't be bad.
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Re: Depression?

Post by chaste hubby » Sat Dec 25, 2010 4:24 pm

I have suffered from depression for years, partly genetic but then had cancer and that also leads to it.
Men masterbate for many reasons I have always done so even though I have been married for 30 years.
Some men like my dad used self meication ie alcohol to relief it, I find that whilst masterbation did have a an effect of relief mastabation also leads to a sense of let down and failure.
I have been taken Pristiq since April 2010 and my moods have changed for the better and I also don't such from anxiety
Having said that masturbation continued with out end and whilst it was hard to talk about I really desired my wife to have control and lock me up.
She now as me where I belong under lock and key, she tells me it is for her pleasure and I only have orgasm at her say so ant this is alway in her, never ever outside.
Having said all of that I don't think she is 100% happy about this , she would rather I be self controlled but see it that if this is how it has to be then that is the way it will be with her keeping the key out of my reach
I feel a lot better on pristiq.
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Re: Depression?

Post by celticqueens_sub » Sun Dec 26, 2010 8:25 am

Harry Haversackers wrote:Like a lot of people, I suffer from clinical depression. Have for years, now. My body simply doesn't make the hormones necessary for me to be the upbeat person that I was way back when. It's serious enough that I have to medicate twice a day, but in doing so, I have only the occasional down day, or few days. I'm fortunate that, through several years of playing musical meds, I've found one that doesn't shut down my libido.

Prior to our now two month old venture into MC, sex, or masturbation, when I could summon up the enthusiasm, provided a bit of temporary relief on the bad days. I can definitely confirm that an orgasm releases feel-good hormones into the bloodstream.

I haven't noticed any significant changes in the way I feel, in terms of my mental health, during the short period of time that my wife has had control of my orgasms. Like most of you, we've found that we are happier and more intimate as a couple, but I'm concerned about the longer term, since chastity seems to affect one's emotional state (and possibly one's hormonal state) constantly.

Has anyone had any experience, bad or good, with depression and chastity? I'm wondering what I can look forward to.
I had a really bad spell of what was described as 'episoidal depression', about 7 years ago, my daughter died in a previous marriage and it just did my head in, totaly... to the point where I actually tried to kill myself so I could be with my daughter and ended up in the loony bin for a few weeks, not by choice I might add.

Whilst I don't have a long term problem like you describe it has definitley left me susceptible to spells of being down more, than just having a bad day.

What I have noticed about MC and my submission to CQ is that it has actually helped me see myself in a better light. I think it has made me a better man, more emotionally stable and more ready to accept the weaknesses and falabilities that I have. CQ holds up a 'mirror' to me frequently and uses our training sessions to re-inforce more positive states of mind in me. Amazingly, it works for me, MC has had nothing but positive effects on me. Bear in mind this is my experience and I am not suggesting it would be the same for you.

In terms of effecting your hormonal state, I don't know, but I do know I feel more aroused and sexual in a good way when in chastity, there is a thread on here about reduced sex drive in MC, some seem to have a reduction, others not.
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