Masturbation Realization

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Masturbation Realization

Post by michaelnmelissa » Mon Dec 20, 2010 9:32 am

We didn't begin MC to curb my habit of masturbation. At least, not primarily. My main goal in undertaking this new way of life was to stop our arguments about sex. I knew it would help me in not playing with myself, but what I didn't know is how it would open my eyes to just how often I did masturbate.

I now see how often I resorted to touching myself when I was stressed. Even now, when I am stressed or worried about something my first instinct is to retreat into fantasy and masturbation in an attempt to relieve my stress. It's such an ingrained habit that when I realize I cannot do it that I'm unsure what to do with myself.

I also can now see how often I would use masturbation as a sleeping aid. Nearly every night I would come to bed after Melissa and, while facing the other way, bring myself to orgasm before falling asleep. Sometimes I would even fall asleep while stroking before I even came.

I would even masturbate after making love with my wife. While she fell asleep I would go over what we'd just done earlier and bring myself off to the memory.

Now, all of that has stopped. At times I literally don't know what I should do with my hand or my thoughts! This is why I am more productive around the house and more into exercise - it keeps me busy and curbs the desire.

I'm sure this will all be helped (and made more difficult) when my Watchful Mistress arrives and I am physically unable to touch myself. Right now, I can but I don't. I do crave the taking away of the option for me.

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Re: Masturbation Realization

Post by danj » Mon Dec 20, 2010 9:49 am

I was a very chronic masturbator until the past few weeks, thanks to male chastity. I also used it as a stress reliever. It has been a HUGE change, and I tell you what...my wife LOVES it. Instead of jerking off in the other room after the kid is in bed, I sit with her and relax. Some nights I might give her a foot massage, or just talk about the day, etc. She does get a little annoyed when I start to follow her around like a puupy dog after a few days of denial :roll: , but am pretty sure she'd rather have the attention :)

I still fight the urge, but it seems to be easier to fight it as time goes on. I think it's all about will power....just do it (or in this case, just DON'T do it). Even when I'm not in the device, I've bascially convinced myself that it is just NOT allowed, and is NOT going to happen...period. I think I'm more strict about it than my wife in reality. Early on when I made a mistake, she was less upset than I was...but I'm now over 2 weeks with no slip-ups. And our rule includes not just cumming, but no stimulation at all. I only touch her cock to pee, wash, and the occassional adjustment.
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Re: Masturbation Realization

Post by michaelnmelissa » Mon Dec 20, 2010 9:52 am

I've had one slip up where I edged myself. I am only allowed to touch myself for hygiene, dressing, and adjustments as well. No fun time touching allowed.

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Post by mikecb » Mon Dec 20, 2010 10:27 am

I have to say that stressful times are the worst, in terms of masturbation for me. I like to play self-locking games, but when the stress amps up, I often just take off, say "fuck it", and rub one out.
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Re: Masturbation Realization

Post by Bez » Mon Dec 20, 2010 12:15 pm

Hi I must admit constant masturbation is why I wanted to wear a chastity device I have worn it nearly a two years now it only coming off when I am pleasuring my wife. I have found the orgasms I now have are great and worth waiting for.Also Dan do not be so hard on yourself your wife would appear to be happy with your efforts just accept the position, if you are too negative she may decide she doesn't want to play any more. It took me a month or so of short term wear before I went for a whole month, following this I went into the device full time.I quite understand the comments about stress talk with your wife she will understand and between you you should be able to agree away forward even if it means giving you some 'playtime' hope this helps and good luck bez
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Re: Masturbation Realization

Post by wishful4 » Mon Dec 20, 2010 12:34 pm

I used to masturbate quite frequently, too. When traveling away from home for work, I did it every day, sometimes twice a day. It often hampered my performance upon returning home. I wasn't interested in sex at home and often had trouble maintaining an erection. That's when I knew I had to do something. That seems like another life now. It's just the opposite these days. I'm as horny as a teenager.
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Re: Masturbation Realization

Post by danj » Mon Dec 20, 2010 2:21 pm

wishful4 wrote:It's just the opposite these days. I'm as horny as a teenager.
While I was almost always in the mood prior to MC, I now have the hardest erections I can ever remember when my wife decides she wants to the play with it! With my past very chronic masturbation, it was not uncommon to have fairly weak erections...enough to get off, but certainly not always rock hard.
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Re: Masturbation Realization

Post by Shane67 » Wed Dec 22, 2010 12:43 am

I miss jerking off. I like to masturbate. LIKE IT. A lot. I've discovered some pretty good porn caches in the last few months, and not being allowed to masturbate sucks. But the heat I feel from just snuggling up to her is worth it.
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Re: Masturbation Realization

Post by danj » Wed Dec 22, 2010 7:48 am

Yeah, I miss it, too. It's been tough the past few days as she's been away on business (back tonight :D ). Glad I've been locked up 24/7 since she left. Sure, I could try to get out, but it's a constant reminder and helped me stay on my best behavior.
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Re: Masturbation Realization

Post by Tom Allen » Wed Dec 22, 2010 10:21 am

Am I the only guy who didn't fap at every hard-on? I mean, seriously - who the hell has the time or opportunity/privacy to wank a couple of times a day? It's beyond me how over-masturbation can possibly grow to become a problem for anyone; between kids, phone calls, my job, kids, trips to the store, socializing, kids, answering emails, household chores, and kids, how the hell does anyone get five or ten minutes to themselves that many times a freaking day? Or week?
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