Could I just be having my (male) period?

[davidphd1866]

Today marks day #38 of my chastity effort. Last night was horrible. I was amazingly horny, penis kept trying to erect in the CB6KS, I couldn't sleep, etc. etc.

I wanted out.

But I didn't. However, this got me to looking back at my diary. It seems I had a horniness peak at day #10 and now another one at day #38. This fascinated me. 38 minus 10 = 28. Twenty eight days is the length of a woman's menstrual cycle. Further fascinated, I checked on my wife's cycle timing. It appears that my horniness peaks match her ovulation timing! (not her shedding, but her ovulation)

This really got me thinking. Is there some signal or pheromone being given by my wife signaling that she needs sperm? It certainly wasn't her verbal cues, as she is utterly committed to my year in chastity and states that she does NOT want MY sperm. Might Mother Nature be trying to take care of things herself? Maybe men and women would share in a similarly lengthed cycle if masturbation and recreational sex were not involved. (dare I say, that chastity might help reveal this cycle?)

I also wonder if a woman's body gives off some sort of scent or signal that says, "I need sperm, but not my husband's". The reason I say so is that simultaneously to my 38th day horniness peak, and my wife's ovulation, she has had an inordinate amount of male attention the last two days. This included lunches with former male co-workers from another company (twice in last two days), a long distance phone call from a male friend last night, and a couple of my friends stopping by more or less unannounced and unusually.

....maybe I am just having my period.....

David

[thumper]

There are definitely cycles involved inside the male part of the equation. I've not kept a strict diary so I don't know what mine is, but it does seem to more or less follow a monthly rhythm. It could be that removing the regular release that masturbation affords would reveal something beneath, but I'm guessing that for a man you're talking about being something like 80% of normally interested in sex to 120% over the course of a month. That is, always interested and ready, but more interested than usual for a while and less interested than usual for a while with normal interest in between. Also, since women have a monthly cycle, it would make a certain amount of sense that men would have some kind of reciprocal rhythm.

Interesting...

[Dev]

Look at all those hormones. I am sure you are picking up on something.

It's a pretty well documented phenomenon that women living together will get to the point that their cycles match up. This happened with my daughter and me (my poor husband: two women in the house, menstruating at the same time...LOL). I am sure if women can cycle together, an intimate man (ie, husband) is also picking picking up the same cues, however they are being delivered (scent, behavior, etc).

D

[Belle]

http://books.google.com/books?id=KsW6wP ... le&f=false

From the Kinsey Institute. I remember this topic from a human sexuality class way back in college. Looks like you picked up on something.

[davidphd1866]

Thanks for the comments Thumper, Dev, and Belle. I found the Kinsey reference particularly interesting.

After writing my post, I realized there was another qualitative bit of information that may be interesting: About three days ago, my wife became unexplainably insistent about me being locked. I can't think of any behavior on my part that would have caused her to behave this way. As such, it seemed sort of odd that she'd suddenly wanted to make sure that I was locked.

I wonder what this might mean. Perhaps nothing. But might her hormones have been telling her something? Was it a simple coincidence that my wife made sure I was locked while she enjoyed a very unsual increase in male attention?

(and for the record, I am not suggesting that my wife was doing anything wrong, only that her behavior was must unusual.)

[Jimi123]

I think the science is already there thatfemale sexual drive ebbs and flows with a 28 day cycle. It doesn't even have to be coupled. It might be as simple as you being atuned into her regular sexual peaks during your relationship and being ready to satisfy them on a regular basis every 28 days. As to her sniffing out other men and them being drawn to her like a bee to honey don't you think that having made yourself chaste and her left "un-fucked" your at least in some part asking for this? And that btw is a question I think more chaste men should really think out loud before doing this. Thats one of the real "be careful what you ask for" things... Cheating / Cuckolding seem like a lot of baggage to me for a sexual kink.

Ok, I'm WAY off track (As usual)

If it is all coupled by scent or hormones? Or not all I can say is that I've got the same issue because I can tell to the day when her period starts because we manage to time it wrong nearly every month. SIGH... Maybe this is one reason MC has become a bit more popular it at least makes sexual frustration sound like "a plan" rather then the same bad timing.

[Belle]

As to her sniffing out other men and them being drawn to her like a bee to honey don't you think that having made yourself chaste and her left "un-fucked" your at least in some part asking for this? And that btw is a question I think more chaste men should really think out loud before doing this. Thats one of the real "be careful what you ask for" things... Cheating / Cuckolding seem like a lot of baggage to me for a sexual kink.

Wow. Jnuts and I have been living as a chaste couple for several months now, both using a device and the honor system. In NO way, shape, or form am I "un-fucked". All I have to do is say the word and he is ready to go. I think that you still have huge misconceptions as to how many of us are practicing MC. MC to us is not celibacy. We are sexually active still, and that includes vaginal intercourse. Only difference between now and a year ago for Jnuts and myself is that I am calling the shots, and he doesn't cum until I tell him to. We may have sexual intercourse 15 times before he actually cums doing so. Doesn't make it any less "fucking" than before.

[Jimi123]

Belle I guess my comment was directed to David and his year of chastity experiment. If I understnad it they have a goal thats about long term denial and from what I've read they are not doing intercourse.

Honestly - what your doing sounds more interesting and I think is more along the lines that had me interested in this. When it gets to marathon "celebacy" I think whats the point. Now, for some I understand the point. They dig cuckolding and want to be denied and so forth. For a fantasy I guess its all well and good but we live in a time when this seems to cross into reality much easier once the kink of male chastity has been explored in detail.

[Dev]

Hi Jimi, welcome back, good to see you...

We've been down this path before but whatever, let me repeat myself....you have a habit of reading a whole lot of stuff and then sort of generally applying that "stuff" to whatever audience you are talking to, no matter if it is relevant or not. For example, you have read--somewhere--that couples who begin to explore/experience chastity will (inevitably) get into cuckolding. It's an ipso facto outcome. That's what you think.

Meanwhile, here at the Chastity Forums, I know of exactly one guy--one, out of how many members--who is in a cuckold relationship with his wife (and seems to be happy with it, and enjoying it, etc., but he doesn't write about it here, that is all posted only at his blog). Meanwhile, all the rest of us--at least the folks who post--are happily figuring out chastity in a monogamous context.

I have no problem with the cucking couples. If that's what they want to do, great, have fun. I wish them all sorts of happiness and enjoyment. But me--not going there. Not at this stage of my life. Like I have said elsewhere, I am too old and don't have the energy. I am focusing on something different. But that's ME. That's MY experience. Other folks here--may have a totally different take on their chastity and their lives.

My question to YOU is...why do YOU insist on painting us all with the same brush, especially when we have such a variety of people here sharing their real-life experiences? Why do YOU insist on working toward the least common denominator which, for most people here, is not least, nor common.

My 2 cents.

D

[davidphd1866]

Well said Dev. I admit I grow tired of the thinly veiled "to each his own, but I think you are stupid" comments.

And funny how men consider the onset of menses as "starting your period". Might that not be better called the ending of a period? Jimi, I think you missed the point I made about my wife's ovulation and not the "start of her period". Menstrual cycles, by defintion, have no beginning and end. My observation was simply that my horniness has coincided with my wife's ovulation.

And, like many in this group, my wife and I have MORE intimate encounters after beginning a chastity program than we did before. I believe she'd be the first to sing the praises. I specifically stated in my orignal post that I felt nothing "wrong" was going on. Only that there was an odd confluence of events.

I still believe that there may be a connection amongst couples regarding her cycle and his.

David