Intro

[Mike10e6]

Ok, I'm wearing a CB6Ks right now and my wife has no idea. Since Feb. I've worn it on & off w/o her knowledge once for 4 days. Bottom line is I'm kinky & she's not; she freaked out when she found me in panties one time. So, finding the courage to show & tell chastity is scary. I lurked here for awhile but thought I'd join to get advice and courage.

[locked4her55]

Ok, I'm wearing a CB6Ks right now and my wife has no idea. Since Feb. I've worn it on & off w/o her knowledge once for 4 days. Bottom line is I'm kinky & she's not; she freaked out when she found me in panties one time. So, finding the courage to show & tell chastity is scary. I lurked here for awhile but thought I'd join to get advice and courage.

Since February? Wow, you've done well to keep it from her.

I also ended up purchasing one before I told my wife/KH but a few days in it and I knew I wanted her to be my KH so we had a rather long heart to heart talk about it. She is not into kink but she was into spicing up our love making. I purchased this book for her from Amazon http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_sb_noss? ... ders+guide

There is also this site at which you can down load alot of good info. http://www.malechastityblog.com/ultimat ... ity-guide/.

Tom and Suzie at http://www.keptforher.com is also a wonderful place with great customer service and information.

My wife found the Amazon book and Tom & Suzie's site of great help with understanding where I wanted to take this.

Bottom line is when you do open up give her time to digest it. When I started this back two+ years ago I found the more I pushed the more she rejected it. She has turned into a wonderful KH now, but it took time.

Hope this helps.

Best of luck!

[Mike10e6]

Thanks, I look forward to the journey.

[Belle]

I really believe in honesty, If Jnuts had hit it from me I would never have considered it. EVER.

As for freaking out when she found you in panties, a chastity device is totally different in my opinion, so it may be the same for your wife. I have no problem with the device, I actually like it. Panties on the other hand would be a huge issue for me.

Good luck!

[Mike10e6]

I know I really don't like the hiding. How do I start the conversation?

[Locked by LRC]

The first time is the hardest time I think for everyone. My biggest fear was that LRC would think I was a freak or a pervert. I think each person has to approach it differently.

A site that may help guide you that I think is good is - http://www.chastity-uk.co.uk/partnerintrod.htm

Give it a look and see if it helps you out.

[Mike10e6]

Thanks for the input; I may talk to her tomorrow

The kids go to camp and my wife (much younger) nd I are going to spend two days at the casino hotel. I'm trying to make myself bring It up. Didn't get much sleep last night thinking about it every time my locked up Hd On woke me up (4 times). Wish me luck I think!

[TwistedMister]

Ok, I'm wearing a CB6Ks right now and my wife has no idea. Since Feb. I've worn it on & off w/o her knowledge once for 4 days. Bottom line is I'm kinky & she's not; she freaked out when she found me in panties one time. So, finding the courage to show & tell chastity is scary. I lurked here for awhile but thought I'd join to get advice and courage.

Yeah, my wife would probably have a cow if she found me in her panties...er, *wearing* her panties, too. But, Mrs. Twisted has *become* kinkier than I ever thought she would (though she's still not at my level...despite my assurances that anything she could come up with on her own would not come anywhere near to shocking me).

I think that many (if not most) women have the potential, if properly introduced.

[usaabn]

Hello Mike,

Welcome to the forum and good luck on your conversation with your bride. I've been living with chastity for about six month now. Your bride finding you wearing her panties was a shocking experience to her. If you explained it away as if it was a mistake...This conversation could be a bit difficult. I would offer the idea of putting your thoughts on paper. I found that I was able to express my desire better. I do not agree with the idea of asking her to explore the "net" to gather knowledge. What is important is what you want to achieve exploring chastity. If you lack a plan, it may be hard for your bride you embrace your newly revealed desire.

Speak from your heart and then wait for her to respond. You will need to practice patience and understanding. You may even have to put the whole idea on hold for a while. I'm finding its like a good marriage. You have to work at it every day.

ussabn

[CaptivatedCaveman]

Thanks for the input; I may talk to her tomorrow

I wish you the best of luck, but I think you are navigating dangerous waters. Your posts suggest that the quality of communication you have with your wife regarding sexual matters needs improvement.

Perhaps some open and honest discussion about your sex lives would be a better starting point? Maybe eventually leading into talking about each other's fantasies/turn-ons after a level of trust and comfort have been established.