Is It Unmanly?

[michaelnmelissa]

Dev's post kind of tied into something that's been going through my mind lately: is male chastity unmanly?

I must admit that one of my fears is that Melissa will eventually see me as weak for wanting her to control me in this way. I think, what if she finds me unmanly? What if she ends up wanting a man who won't let her control him? A man that will make her want to submit to him sexually?

The cuckolding fantasy is not mine. I know it is for others, but having been betrayed by my first wife while I was in the service I know how it would absolutely crush me.

So, guys. Do you ever feel this way? Ladies, do you ever, even for a moment, think of your man as unmanly because of MC?

Thanks,
Michael

[jnuts]

I was kind of afraid of this too at first.

Belle and I are both naturally neutral, leaning towards submissive. I did find out today that Belle feared never being able to be submissive again. I told her this was not an issue. If she is in the mood to be submissive, all she has to do is unlock me and say so. Just because she is in charge of the big picture doesn't mean we can switch roles for a night if that is what she is in the mood for. I'll gladly comply.

[Atone]

I didn't until now, thanks

I really have never thought about that, I think I will ask my wife how she feels about that tonight.

-A

[thumper]

"Submissive" and "manly" have nothing to do with one another, IMO.

[Belle]

I actually find it more manly. Takes one hell of a man to lock up his penis and give someone else the key.

[mikecb]

"Submissive" and "manly" have nothing to do with one another, IMO.

I agree intellectually. Unfortunately, my ego has other ideas. If I imagine going to a local BDSM munch, I would find it comfortable to go as a Dom. Going as a sub, in a small town like mine, makes me feel uncomfortable. I wish it didn't.

mikecb

[Shane67]

No, but it's sometimes silly.

[Dev]

Not at all. In fact, I think it's quite manly. I love looking at my husband's locked cock.

And playing with it too.

D

[LockedColin]

"Submissive" and "manly" have nothing to do with one another, IMO.

Exactly! I've been asked this before since I'm gay... I think a lot of people assume that one guy is the "man" and one guy is the "woman."

Who gives and takes is one issue... I happen to be a submissive bottom, but I'm certainly not unmanly... two guys have sex is about as "manly" as you can get!

Ask yourself who defines what "manly" is?

[Atone]

I asked my wife what she thought about this. She just laughed and thought that was silly.

-A