It's very simple.
As a KH you have invested a lot of time and energy to make it work. If he doesn't respect that, don't play- it doesn't get stricter than that . When it's all new, there's a lot of fun in re-enforcement but warn him that when it becomes a chore and you end up with the responsibility of chastity, it isn't a game, it's a burden. Tell him to either stay focused, or take the device off him. You're the boss - that's what you need to remind him.
Or threaten to get him pierced / branded - that will focus him.
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Damn, that's hot. Being somewhat perversely masochistic myself, I'd probably (at some point) end up testing that threat.I'm requiring him to text me a pic of it whenever I want so i know there's no funny business. If he decides to be sneaky and I find out then I told him I would tell my girlfriends about it and show them the pictures...I didn't want to resort to blackmail but I had to do something.
It can be extremely erotic to be controlled in this manner.I really don't understand his willingness to do this but it seems to turn him on so I can go with it.
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Re: need a good punishment!
This is the paradox of denial; he wants to be sexually aroused by having you control his arousal. You don't need to turn it into a harsh mistress kind of thing, but it would be good for you to have a a couple of chats, when he's denied and aroused, and again, after he's been satisfied. Then you can compare what his desires *really* are, and point them out to him so you can discuss limits (yours and his).Newkeyholder wrote: I asked him if this is the way he wants it and he said yes. I am capable of being strict with him but it's against my nature. I really don't understand his willingness to do this but it seems to turn him on so I can go with it. I have to admit, it's kind of nice to think he has a constant reminder of me all day.
Don't try to analyze too much. Just keep talking about it for a while until the both of you are comfortable.
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