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From tip no. 1 in that article:
... nothing kills the mood quite like sandpaper on her sensitive parts.
Like I said, this is important. LOL.

and from the section on positions:
Oral Sex Positions Tip #3 – Right Angle Approach:
In this position the receiving partner lies flat on their back and the giving partner positions themselves at a right angle with head at their partners genitals. Giving oral sex at this position changes the usual direction of stroking/licking from up-and-down to side-to-side. Side-to-side stimulation, particularly for women can be more intense and may be preferred.
We don't do it at a complete right angle--more like 45 degrees--but it does make a difference. Now I know why. Thanks for this link!

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Yeah, but Belle seems to like me lined up with her body, not at an angle. It may be mostly phycological. She likes being able to reach down and grab my hair, shove my face in it, and squeeze my skull as she comes. Come to think of it, I kind of like that, too.

Fuck, I wish she was here.
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When we make love, we might skip me entering her, but we never skip me eating her out -- even before MC came along, giving her oral pleasure was always the highlight of our love making. Lucy (finally, a name -- she knows I post and she's fine with "Lucy") likes to be on her back with her knees drawn up to her chest. Sometimes I help hold up her thighs, sometimes she rests her feet on my shoulder. We've tried other positions, but this is the one she likes the best as it's comfortable and her hips joints don't go all stiff. Because I'm on my tummy, this position also gives me the best access.

I second the advice on no sandpaper effect -- I don't even bother trying unless I'm shaved.

I assume you done all the research on the mechanics of the whole thing? Consumed all the lesbian porn produced by and for lesbian?
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Bez is kept in his device 24/7 however we do have a full sex life so he is let out to pleasure me and I assume himself. I do enjoy oral stimulation with his tongue, he has to provide this when required by me he remains locked in his device. I will very ocassionally if he has done something very special for me allow him out of the device for 30 minutes playtime I will leave this to your imagination. If we decide he is going to have a locked up period normally 30 days, I will set the date on my electronic diary he will not know the date, if he complains during this period he gets extra days in lock-up. He serves these in full after his release date.
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Dev wrote: I never sit on his face because I feel like I am going to smother him
you are depriving Ab, this is just not acceptable :)

Try it like this - you on top facing him then just have him slide down until his face is, well, you know where. Angle yourself across the bed to give you both the room you need.

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justplaying wrote:
My KH wife enjoys manual stimulation and penetrative sex, but never oral sex. I just assumed that all women enjoyed oral sex. She says she can't quite explain what it is that she doesn't like. Belle since you do like it sometimes, what is it that makes it ok sometimes and not ok others? I enjoy making love this way and I have a feeling that perhaps I am doing something wrong. When I do try this she acts very skittish like, "Please hurry up or stop, one or the other." When I stimulate her using my hands she takes a very long time to orgasm, but they tend to be explosive. Then she wants to be penetrated shortly after that....All good...but, I would like to see if I could please her orally as well. Ladies, is there some advice you can give me on this subject?
I have been trying to figure out for years why I like it sometimes and not others (and I think Jnuts has as well!). From what I can tell it is about 75% mental/emotional, 20% situational, and 5% hormonal. I am different from most women, I am not a big fan of foreplay. I guess it comes from strange sexual relationships from my past, but I am more a "get to the point" type person. I am working on changing this, but with 2 small kids it is hard. I was afraid of him not getting to finish (although with MC this is no longer an issue, and my interest in oral has increased) so it was a "lets skip right to intercourse". I also have to be very relaxed. If I am not, then it is too much for me. The direct stimulation is something that I often can't take for long periods of time, and sometimes not at all. I think this varies with my hormonal changes, my stress level, and how much in the mood I am. I don't have an exceptionally active sex drive, so this plays into it as well.
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Atone wrote: Try it like this - you on top facing him then just have him slide down until his face is, well, you know where. Angle yourself across the bed to give you both the room you need.

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Okay, I'll try again. :D I would like to do it this way.

I wish I had a bigger bedroom so I could get a king sized bed. We've measured and measured and a queen is the maximum that will fit in there, unless we got rid of the bedside tables and I don't think that's realistic. This is why we like hotel sex so much and why I was missing Ab on Friday night. All that wasted real estate...

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Dev wrote: I wish I had a bigger bedroom so I could get a king sized bed.
Sorry, that was an assumption on my part. There are a lot of things I would give up to have a king size bed.

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When Sally wants me to pleasure her with oral sex, she sits on the edge of our bedroom stool I am then blindfolded and she gentle pulls me in until my tongue finds her parts. I must admit I really enjoy pleasuring Sally in this way it does however lead to a major frustration because I cannot fully enjoy it with her.
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All;

WOW! thanks for all the advice/suggestions and insight on this topic. As I mentioned in the opening post, before I was married to my now Key Holder, oral sex was a huge part of foreplay for me. I nearly never provided cunnilingus to my lady without eventually having penetrative sex. (Is nearly never a double negative?) Also rare was simply enjoying some form of 69 (pick a position, but what I mean is mutual oral sex). As far as the mechanics of "how" I feel pretty confident but truthfully, lesbian porn has caused me to think I am doing it right but instead has caused me to miss some very subtle cues from my wife....

Shaving? DUH! What a dope I have been....I do have a mustache and I used to have a beard, so my facial hair growth is very active. I am very scratchy and sometimes I do shave before we make love and sometimes I don't depending on the time of day. Stupid me. My wife ALWAYS comments on how she loves the scent of my shaving cream (Gillette Foamy) and she ALWAYS comments positively when I come to bed shaved. DUH, so obvious and I am so oblivious. Thanks for the reminder. :D This is an easy thing to fix....

Pressure? As Dev suggested, coming at this from the right angle could make all the difference. Like Thumper and the other guys I usually approach this from right between her legs. Straight on so to speak. However, I have noticed that when I use my hands to stimulate her she will often move me off from her clitoris, so there is obviously something about being overly stimulated there that is a problem. She also doesn't like to talk about it afterward, which makes it a tad more difficult for me to know what to do. However, when I am using my hands she does whisper things that I can just barely here, like "yes right there"..but when I am between her legs, I can't make out what she is saying.... I think I will have to give the new angle idea a try, thank you!

Psychological? This is a huge part of the deal for my wife, just like Belle mentioned. She tends to think of sex as intercourse only. She is a great kisser but prior to me being in a CD it was rare that we kissed for very long. It was always right on to business, which made me feel like our love making was a task to complete. As if it was one part of a scheduled event, or worse yet, an unscheduled event that was forgotten, but had to be done. Since, practicing Chastity, there is zero pressure on her, since we have agreed that she is totally in control. We do agree to terms first, but then she takes the drivers seat. What is interesting is that she suddenly loves to tease me now. She spent a small fortune at Victoria's Secret and I just bought her Lucy Fairborn's book on Male Chastity (Key Holder's guide). Her kisses have been more frequent and more passionate then ever. I can only surmise that the reason is that unlike pre-Chastity a kiss was a prelude to "Let's go make love" and now it's a "Show me how much you love me and want me, baby." And since there is zero threat of me being able to push things any further than the kiss, I find that she is far more into being sexy around me. I guess it's no surprise to say that I really, really, like it this way. I think I may have mentioned this somewhere else on this forum, but I find that I spend a lot more time thinking about ways to get her attention and approval. So, it's all good.

Thanks again for all the posts...

JP

PS. Just a question to all those New England readers: When I first moved to New England I noticed a use of grammar that I have never encountered anywhere else in the US. I call it the New England negative. The usage goes something like this; "I don't take my coffee with milk. So, don't I. or So doesn't he." Instead of so do I or so does he. It's interesting because I have only heard it here in New England....anybody else notice that?
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