Putting The Device Away For A Time

[michaelnmelissa]

Hello all,

This site was a game changer for Melissa and I. It gave us the best, most sensible advice from real people doing the chastity thing.

Male chastity was a life changing practice for us and that's no exaggeration. It literally improved our marriage and saved our sex life. How so? Let me count the ways:

1. We no longer argue about sex. Ever.

2. We began communicating in ways we'd never thought possible. Honest, open, accepting.

3. With the arguing gone, and therefore the resentment toward each other, we began exploring sexually all the fantasies we'd hid from each other and found we love doing so.

4. We felt free to try anything once; especially things we read about here or watched online.

5. We learned watching porn together is really quite fun. All the articles saying it ruins marriages are, I think, written by uptight men or women too prudish to give it a go.

6. Our new freedom and openness gave me the courage to admit to my wife how I'd been with men many years ago - and how I'd do it again if I could with her there with me. I'm bisexual and she truly accepts me regardless. She even likes to watch bi porn together and use a dildo on me. She's also now beginning to be curious herself about girls.

7. We explored female domination and wife led marriage. We liked it. However, we like being egalitarian even more. So, that's how we are. There came a point for us when the denial lost its mojo and what we both needed was for me to just fuck her as hard as I could when I (we) felt like it. At that moment we realized chastity should go on hiatus for awhile.

8. We thought we'd be male chastity forever, but now we think we'll incorporate it in at times and for fun. We're thinking next time will be a 45 day lock down. We just don't know when yet.

9. We are no longer trying to change one another.

10. We love each other more than we ever thought we could.

Male chastity was - is - a great thing. We'll go back to it, I'm sure. But we also love the freedom it's brought us in other ways and that's what we're exploring now.

I'll be coming back here often though to see what you guys are up to because y'all make me hot!

Take care,
Michael

[kpb57]

That sounds more than just great.

And it reminds me a lot of our situation.

Without me really noticing, our marriage was teetering on the brink of disaster. Now it is as good as it ever was, if not better, because of our experiment with MC that turned into more than just bedtime play.

At the moment we are (or should I rather say, she is) exploring if a rhythm of several days of denial, followed by several days of intensive lovemaking, is appealing. So it is kind of a shorter-cycled version of what you intend to do.

In many ways you both were an inspiration and gave thoughts to ponder. Thank you for that.

Have great fun on your further path, and I'm looking forward to hear/read from you again.

Kiss her hand from me.

K

[danj]

Michael,

Great to read your post and hear things are going so well. I think male chastity can and should evolve as needed for a couple, as you've done. Enjoy! And don't be a stranger!

[Tom Allen]

Male chastity was - is - a great thing. We'll go back to it, I'm sure. But we also love the freedom it's brought us in other ways and that's what we're exploring now.

Glad to have made a difference. Best of luck to the both of you, whatever you decide to play with.