Hitting the Wall

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Hitting the Wall

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I had, and I suppose am still having, an odd experience tonight that I wanted to share and see if others have similar stories. Once upon a time I ran track. Every now and again one of us would reach a point in a workout where we simply could run no further. We called it "hitting the wall." I have no idea if the term is still used today. Bear with me, I am getting to a point about something other than running.

I like to prowl the internet and read all sorts of sexy stuff. If I actually did something rather than just read about it, I'd be a straight switch, and I think I'd have a pretty open mind about trying various kinks.

Until tonight. I was reading some femdom blogs, specifically "Woman in Control" and "On Female Dominance of the Male" and some others that they linked with. The various blogs and stories of cruel dominas and their abuse were unsexy, uninteresting, and frankly made me queasy. I had hit the wall regarding this particular flavor of sexual expression.

I'm not dumping on you dominas and female led marriages. Different strokes for different folks and live and let live is my motto. I'm just a little shocked that things I had read and even fantasized about could suddenly taste like bile and ash. I've had about two hours to cool off now and the thought of going back to those sites is still completely unappealing.

My questions to you, dear reader, now that you've made it this far through my ramble, are: Have you ever had a similar experience? Did you get a second wind and go back, or did the change take root and stay for a while. Please, please, share with me. I am intensely curious about this.

Maybe I'm just coming down with the flu?

Eido
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Sometimes, things that you thought were totally out of the question can become a wonderful reality.
One of those was when, right in the middle of sexy play, our tongues found their way to each other's anus.
And I still remember that long-ago evening where I found myself giving a male friend of mine a BJ (while his wife was playing with my cock, which clearly helped)

Other things are out of the question, and will stay that way. Playing with feces comes to my mind. Female (or male) domination 24/7 or something like FLR clearly is also not for us.
Stories relating to chastity where the females play evil games, deliberately breaking the ground rules, don't turn me on either. I (and we) are into the loving and playful aspect.

So yes, there can be a "second wind" in things erotic, but there are also walls that cannot be torn down, however often you hit them.

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eido wrote: The various blogs and stories of cruel dominas and their abuse were unsexy, uninteresting, and frankly made me queasy. I had hit the wall regarding this particular flavor of sexual expression.

I'm not dumping on you dominas and female led marriages. Different strokes for different folks and live and let live is my motto.
Just as an aside -

Cruel abusive dominas and female led marriages are as akin as hard core porn and marital lovemaking Eido. Try not to confuse the two and perhaps your nausea will subside.
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I absolutely totally agree with Celtic Queen. A Female lead relationship has nothing at all to do with getting your ass beat by a psyco manhating woman. My wife and I are practicing FLR and she has never spanked, slapped, or struck me for any reason at all. The abuse of a willing submissive is a totally different kink.
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I can definitely identify with the "Hitting the wall" aspect with some erotica. There are a lot of things I used to read that are totally boring to me now. Other things that used to be a turn-off that now arouse me. Our tastes change, I suppose.
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I agree that our tastes change over time. Mine certainly have. What amazes me is that the response to a pretty woman never fails. The turn of a hip, the sight of a little neck, long legs. Amazing! Other senses dull and fatigue with repeated exposure but the sensation associated with the organ I can't touch goes on and on and on.
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Celtic Queen wrote: Just as an aside -

Cruel abusive dominas and female led marriages are as akin as hard core porn and marital lovemaking Eido. Try not to confuse the two and perhaps your nausea will subside.
It's all fantasy to me, Celtic Queen. I realize that if you plumb the depths of the internet, every form of behavior has it's own version of chastity's "My wife locked me in this thing while I was asleep blah blah" And while I don't believe in them, any more than I actually believe most people do it like porn movie stars, I've rarely had such a visceral negative reaction to just words on an electronic page. Of course, I'm speaking from with what I consider my own comfort zone as well, which is why my head is spinning. It's not like I sought out something I already know grosses me out.

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Ever had a meal where the sauce was delicious but too much of it ruined the dinner?
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I've had about two hours to cool off now and the thought of going back to those sites is still completely unappealing.
So... don't go back? Nobody is making you. Defo sounds like you got the flu. :roll: Hope you feel better soonest.
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Everyone gets into a bit of a funk once in a while. I'm sure you'll come out of it soon enough.

We've been dealing with sick kids, elderly parent issues, and frankly male chastity has fallen off the radar this past week. And sex? Nope...not this week. I'm not even all that much in the mood myself. Life happens.
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