Why Chastity For Us?
Posted: Wed Nov 03, 2010 9:47 am
Hi all,
Why did I propose male chastity to Melissa?
Well, it's always excited me. Just the idea of being kept and under control and on edge...for years I have thought of it. I used to masturbate to the fantasy. Isn't that strange? To masturbate to the idea of being denied!? Anyway, I did, but I always thought it would be too kinky to bring up to her even though we have experimented in many other areas.
But I think the main reason I finally worked up the courage to say something was because I was tired of arguing about sex. My sex drive is much stronger than Melissa's. When she is turned on it is wildly hot and fun, but if she is not it is still good, but I know she is not truly "there" with me. If anything, a man wants to be desired by his woman. I came to dread the thought that she might say no again. She came to dread the thought that I would ask too often. We both hated the argument that resulted. Instead of a joy, sex became a minefield. I knew that the arguments were mostly my fault. I would keep speaking and she would retreat into silence and there would be tension for days. There is no such thing as make-up sex for us; we have to wait until the tension subsides (but it never really left). It was the one area of our marriage that ever caused us to fight.
So, I got sick enough of it to say no more. I'd read enough about male chastity to know all the benefits it can bring to a relationship. I recently started reading some of your excellent blogs, and I knew I was going to bring it up. I sat with her in the bedroom and began by saying, "I never want to argue about sex again." I then went on to tell her I'd like to surrender my sexuality to her. My cock and my orgasms were to be hers. Her pleasure = my pleasure. She would decide when, what, how much, and if...there was more, but you get the drift. I was nervous. So nervous I was shaking. But then...she got this little smile on her face and said we could try it. I was so thrilled I could hardly sleep that night. Just the touch of her leg against mine was erotic.
She has surprised herself by how quickly she's taken to it. She's a natural! I am still coaxing her a bit; showing her it's okay to say "no" and that I want to be denied. On her own she came up with the idea to ruin my orgasm during intercourse. I was so happy. I have some of my own ideas and I'll share them with her to act out if she'd like. We've had a couple of rough days, but we're still in it together.
Well, this is long enough! Thanks for "listening" and I look forward to being an active part of the group.
Michael
Why did I propose male chastity to Melissa?
Well, it's always excited me. Just the idea of being kept and under control and on edge...for years I have thought of it. I used to masturbate to the fantasy. Isn't that strange? To masturbate to the idea of being denied!? Anyway, I did, but I always thought it would be too kinky to bring up to her even though we have experimented in many other areas.
But I think the main reason I finally worked up the courage to say something was because I was tired of arguing about sex. My sex drive is much stronger than Melissa's. When she is turned on it is wildly hot and fun, but if she is not it is still good, but I know she is not truly "there" with me. If anything, a man wants to be desired by his woman. I came to dread the thought that she might say no again. She came to dread the thought that I would ask too often. We both hated the argument that resulted. Instead of a joy, sex became a minefield. I knew that the arguments were mostly my fault. I would keep speaking and she would retreat into silence and there would be tension for days. There is no such thing as make-up sex for us; we have to wait until the tension subsides (but it never really left). It was the one area of our marriage that ever caused us to fight.
So, I got sick enough of it to say no more. I'd read enough about male chastity to know all the benefits it can bring to a relationship. I recently started reading some of your excellent blogs, and I knew I was going to bring it up. I sat with her in the bedroom and began by saying, "I never want to argue about sex again." I then went on to tell her I'd like to surrender my sexuality to her. My cock and my orgasms were to be hers. Her pleasure = my pleasure. She would decide when, what, how much, and if...there was more, but you get the drift. I was nervous. So nervous I was shaking. But then...she got this little smile on her face and said we could try it. I was so thrilled I could hardly sleep that night. Just the touch of her leg against mine was erotic.
She has surprised herself by how quickly she's taken to it. She's a natural! I am still coaxing her a bit; showing her it's okay to say "no" and that I want to be denied. On her own she came up with the idea to ruin my orgasm during intercourse. I was so happy. I have some of my own ideas and I'll share them with her to act out if she'd like. We've had a couple of rough days, but we're still in it together.
Well, this is long enough! Thanks for "listening" and I look forward to being an active part of the group.
Michael