Honor system vs. wearing a device

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poohbearschastity wrote:She allowed me a full release. Wow. Like never before.
After that I was ready to go back into lockdown

First time poster hope it reads well. Pm me if I did something wrong please. Don't wanna offend. Thanks.
Sounds about right. Glad it is going better now. Communication is key. Glad you have figured it out.

And, welcome to the forum. I hope you continue in the discussion.

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dutchbound1 wrote:The honor system, or 'mental chastity' as I call it is so much more difficult than physical chastity for me. My husband controls when I can have an orgasm. When my dick is locked up, I find myself being able to relax and not have to worry about my dick. If my dick is hanging about, the temptation is so hard.

The problem for me is logistics. I have to travel a lot for work (travel for work means lots of porn in my hotel room), I ride a motorcycle, and I try to go to the gym as much as I can. All of these activities are very hard to do when permanently locked in a steel device. So while I wish I could have thumper's experience of not even seeing or feeling my dick for months, we haven't figured out how to go that logistically.
Welcome to the forum. I guess even if you are denied access to your dick, you won't be denied access to dick. I am trying to imagine what that would be like. I can feel it, stroke it, fondle it. It just isn't mine. Pretty cool, probably a real mind fuck.

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I also have to say that, for me, a big part of the kink is on wearing the device. I REALLY LIKE IT!
In fact it enhances the sweet frustration as it excites me to wear it and it prevents me from doing anything to lessen the frustration. It really enhances the mind game.
Apart from that, I KNOW that after only a couple of weeks without cumming the need to cum becomes so intense that my hands would do their job automatically (even during my sleep - I know, I'm weak!). To go long term (which, for me, is very important in the build up process to be able to reach the sweet plateau of frustration) I need a device attached to my genitals. It's like having HER watching me all the time!
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guodor wrote: I KNOW that after only a couple of weeks without cumming the need to cum becomes so intense that my hands would do their job automatically (even during my sleep - I know, I'm weak!).
I do that. If I'm out and it's been a while, I'll jack off in my sleep. I'm not sure it's a sign of weakness as much as it's an autonomic response, but yeah, it's a trip.

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thumper wrote:
guodor wrote: I KNOW that after only a couple of weeks without cumming the need to cum becomes so intense that my hands would do their job automatically (even during my sleep - I know, I'm weak!).
I do that. If I'm out and it's been a while, I'll jack off in my sleep. I'm not sure it's a sign of weakness as much as it's an autonomic response, but yeah, it's a trip.
Using your hands is not an autonomic response. It might be AUTOMATIC but that's not the same thing. You have control over automatic activities but not autonomic. Don't blame your nervous system for the fact you like to masturbate. :D

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OK, well, I'm asleep and then wake up to find a hard cock in my hand. Minimally, not a conscious thing.
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We live about 20 miles apart and our work schedules don't allow daily contact. Me days her swing shift.
Not currently wearing enjoying the mental hands off full attention denial. To me more exciting feeling her toy full w/out any touching.
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Newbie here - in both senses. My wife and I had a CB 3000 (or some other antique model) for a couple of years but never really used it - then somehow we decided to give this another try and I put the old thing back on - it was pretty useless and uncomfortable so we bought a CB 6000 - this is all in the space of about two weeks - with maybe four days of proper chastity in there.

Well - it's been about two months now. I love it, she loves it. You all the know the reasons why - but to try and do this on the honour system....would simply never work for me. If I get horny it leads to rubbing myself and the eventual orgasm, however stifled. is inevitable.

I travel a lot also, but the CB 6000 fitted with zip ties (that I can honourably say, I do not cheat on) goes through security without a problem. The only time I am out of the cage is when I go mountain or road biking - generally on weekends. It's out for the ride and back in right after. Yes....I could wank in the forest, but I don't....I just ride...with a hard on :lol:

I admire those who can do this without a device but also have to admit that the device itself speaks to my submissive side. Bottom line....my wife has never been happier and I'm just perpetually horny.
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I think the way we are trying to make it work is a combination of the device and the honor system. When I'm awake I can play by the honor system and the device helps me stay honest through the long restless nights.
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singletrack wrote:Newbie here - in both senses. My wife and I had a CB 3000 (or some other antique model) for a couple of years but never really used it
Hi, welcome to the forum. Glad you found something newer and more comfortable. Amazing how fun it is when you get back in to it. Did your previous experience make it easier this time?

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