Dev wrote:I don't believe there is a slippery slope. The problem is, there are things out there on the Internet that would make you believe that there is a slope, it's very slippery, and was you start going down it, there's no going back.
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I do think that what chastity can do is open up new possibilities to a couple. Once you take traditional intercourse off the table as a regular event, you may find that you are willing to try new things and be a little more adventurous. But this is done with mutual consent and if something doesn't quite work as expected then no need to repeat it. Like I said, no slippery slope, just experimenting and having fun.
I once went to a presentation where they were talking about thinking inside the box and outside the box. He then went on to make the point "There IS NO BOX!" I think we could come up with several different metaphors - lots of rooms, one door leads to the next, but maybe you open it, maybe not.
I think there is a slope, but the question is just how steep, and is it really slippery? The BS you cited are all trying to assert that it isn't so much a slope as a cliff, and it's been greased on the way down. Maybe it's more of a gentle rolling hill that isn't slippery at all - start here, move over there, pause, look around, maybe go back, maybe go on. That's certainly the way it has gone with us - we dabbled in this for a while, couple of months here and there, stopped, came back to it. Kind of reminds me of a funny clip in the middle of a Tom Petty album - "What's in here? Ohhh."
I think there has been a bit of a slope for you, albeit a gentle one. It's fun to read about your adventures on the blog, but what's really _interesting_ to me is the changes that this game have brought. It's very similar to what I've seen in our relationship.
mykey wrote:To answer the original post though, I think the slope is a bit slippery. Once a person let's themselves go in the bed room i think it becomes easier to do more. Also once you get used to being a bit more in control it's easier to do more. Like thumper said it bleeds into other areas a bit. Only as far as you want it to though.
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But it would also be a mistake to say that things don't lead on. They usually do, in all areas of life. People evolve, life is often about change. Thing is, we aren't dumb agents, we guide our evolution as adults. In the end we do what we want and enjoy.
mykey wrote:Oh and likes2blocked? You are a stirrer You knew this subject would raise the excitement level, lol!
Yup, that's me!
More fun to actually think about this stuff!
It just seemed like something interesting to explore. We've all - even the people really new at this - seen some additional exploration that this has led to. Interesting to see how much it really does, given that I think we can all completely reject the bad porn fantasy of she clicks on the lock, he instantly turns into a French maid, does all the chores while she becomes a fire-breathing domme fuck-vixen, runs off with her stable of studly boyfriends, and he never comes again. Ick.
But I have seen it lead from one thing to the next here, but I know there's things it won't lead to - feminization isn't a kink of ours, the more extreme forms of FLR just won't work here, and no piercings for me - branding is just out of the question. But it has led to some things that a year ago I wouldn't have thought would happen, so I'm not going to say that the next year may not also bring more things. Or maybe we'll stay where we are on the slope and explore a while.