Pegging

[steph17]

Hello, here is the point in question, my wife wants to take me with a strap on and I have let her try but after she gets the strap on in I start to complain after a couple of strokes, I am not a sissy or a cuck we just enjoy male chastity and letting her take control, she enjoys the power exchange when she attempts to take me from behind and would like me to accept it and enjoy it and maintains it is because I think it is a gay act that I shy away from it.
I dont know if that is the case and would like to enjoy the expierence and does anyone have any advise.

[mikecb]

steph,

Why do you complain? Is it discomfort or the feelings that come up during the experience - is it humiliating or something?

If it's discomfort, perhaps you need to practice with butt-plugs to get more acclimated to the sensations. If it's more emotional, perhaps you have to remember that there is NOTHING gay about romping in the sack with your wife! hehe

mikecb

[Tom Allen]

Caption: "Oh, man! You kissed a girl? That is so gay!"


Edit: Tried to link to a pic using my phone.

[Dev]

Dan Savage had some numbers on this -- which of course, I can find right now. But it was something like 20% of all heterosexual couples engage in anal sex. Not all gay couples do -- that number is something like 70%. So even though a majority of gay couples like to buttfuck and only a minority of heterosexual couples do, 20% of the straights still works out to way more people than 70% of the gays. So in other words, anal sex is not exclusively gay and engaging in it is not going to turn you gay.

I hope that makes you feel better. LOL.

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[Kiki]

If it hurts, you're doing it wrong. You want to go in gradually and use plenty of lube (and then maybe some more lube). You might need to start with a smaller dildo and work your way up. Go slow, don't pound away like you think you're in a porno! At least not until you are well warmed up.

This is important - you could be injured! Basic anatomy: you have two sphincters, the outer one and an inner one. The inner one has few nerves but is how you know when you have to poop soon. It is possible to damage your inner sphincter through being too vigorous before it is relaxed enough for it. Don't do this. You need it to tell you when you have to poop soon! Seriously, I have a friend with this injury and it is a nuisance.

If it doesn't hurt, then you are the one with the answer to why you don't like it.

Good luck!

[celticqueens_sub]

Being pegged is awesome! I was dead against it to start with but CQ saw it as part of the power dynamic. There are a few basic rules:

1- Too much lube is not enough
2- Start with a smallish didlo and work up to a larger one overtime
3- Being fucked by your wife is NOT gay. (Any bloke that attempted to touch my arse would rapidly lose that part of his anatomy shotly follwed by all his teeth well he would know where they were, down his throat)
4- Enjoy the discovery!

[Dev]

As I was searching for a picture for my blog, I came across this--it's a few years old but still interesting:

Every couple of years, another once-scandalous sex taboo starts making its way toward the commonplace. A decade ago, blow jobs were what people whispered about; then three-ways became the naughty bedroom act. Now, it’s anal sex—but according to the Centers for Disease Control’s National Survey of Family Growth, it’s rapidly becoming a regular feature of hetero couples’ horizontal activities.

The survey, released last year, showed that 38.2 percent of men between 20 and 39 and 32.6 percent of women ages 18 to 44 engage in heterosexual anal sex. Compare that with the CDC’s 1992 National Health and Social Life survey, which found that only 25.6 percent of men 18 to 59 and 20.4 percent of women 18 to 59 indulged in it.

You can read the whole thing here:

http://nymag.com/nightlife/mating/25988/?imw=Y

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[steph17]

I am certinly looking forward to enjoying this act but Ijust seem to tense up when I start to enjoy it and I do think it is a guilt thing. My wife/KH has told me she has a diffrent approach that she wants to try and not to ask to many questions until after the event, so I wait with hopefull anticipation.

[Locked by LRC]

When first starting go slow, don’t get discouraged, and do the hardest thing for a man, communicate. As noted earlier, remember there is no such thing as too much lube. Extreme Restraints sells a thing they call Lubricant Launcher. It allows you to put lube inside so there’s plenty there. It’s $5. http://www.extremerestraints.com/lubes-and-creams_49/ It may be available other places but this is the one I’m familiar with.

To repeat from an earlier post and expand, a butt plug is a good way to learn to relax the sphincter. If you get one, make sure it has a wide base on it. You don’t want it to accidently get sucked in!

With what you describe I wonder if she is inserting and then starting to pump right away. If this is happening I would suggest something else. Slowly insert a couple of inches and stop. This will allow the sphincter to relax and adjust to the “inny” instead of “outty” sensation. When this feels comfortable tell your partner, and then she can slowly continue inserting to the end. When she is against you have her lay there against you so you can relax again. When you are accustomed to this, tell her, and start with small in and out stokes, building to longer and longer ones.

Don’t use any kind of lube that has a desensitizing ingredient in it. If something is wrong while doing this pain is one of the indicators. If you feel you need this you are doing something wrong.

[Dev]

Also remember that small is okay. Ab and I have been at this for a while now (years) and he still only likes our most petite dildo, the lavender one. Yes, I've read about fisting and I'm sure some people do it, but I think for many, it's another one of those porno fantasies.

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