Great thread. Thanks, Mykey.
People who read my blog know that I spent a long time being vanilla because I didn't know otherwise. No Internet in those days and when I tried to check out
The Joy of Sex from the library, the librarian said no because I wasn't 18. In my blog post for tomorrow I actually muse on the fact that I had the opportunity for a 3-way when I was 16-17 years old, if I knew such a thing existed. Alas, I did not.
My husband and I got married after knowing each other 11 months. We had great sex on our first date which gave me a hint of where things were going in this relationship.
Three weeks after we were married, he was fucking me with a wine bottle (no toys in those days). Two weeks after that, he shaved my pussy bare. While I was insanely hot when he was doing these things, I'd wake up the next morning consumed with guilt that I was a "bad" girl. I think he felt a little bit the same way. We had no context for understanding or knowing what other people did, plus we were young (23 and 25 respectively).
Over the years, we waxed and waned. Children can definitely be a hindrance sexually both in terms of time and attention. But once they got to a certain age, we became adventurous again. Getting into nudism/naturism was really a great thing because it just got us having fun with our bodies again. It was around this time that we also discovered vibrators and toys, which was great.
I think one of the things we were searching for was something that we could do 24/7 that would be sexy, kinky, and not too obvious. We both tried wearing butt plugs but usually wouldn't last more than 6 or 7 hours before we'd had enough. Getting our nipples pierced was probably a better step but really, once they are healed, that's it, it's not so hot anymore.
Enter chastity. So far for us, it's great. It's got the 24/7 requirement, it keeps the interest level high and by wearing the key on my nipple ring, it has a certain hot factor for both of us. The blog helps, too--Ab gets a little turned on by the voyeur quality (but I have to be careful to keep it at a manageable level). For me, as each day goes by, I get more turned on. I keep thinking of new things I can do, days to extend his lock-up, etc. Ab seems more complacent. Sometimes I think I'd like a little more begging and pleading and then I think, no...I have a husband who is going along completely with this game at my instigation. Don't rock the boat. He's been fine every time I've ratcheted it up a notch---right now he has been locked since Sunday and hasn't even asked once to be let out to readjust/clean nor has he asked when he'll get out to orgasm. How long will this attitude last? I have no clue. That's part of the fun mystery of the game.
So, I guess for us, it wasn't really a gateway kink, it was just the next step. But, for those who have never tried anything, I can see how chastity might be a non-threatening way to start...at least I think I can.
Or maybe I am just too kinky to be objective. LOL.
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